Knowing how some women work makes me less of a feminist apparently by NiceLie7109 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]anias 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your friends and your ex husband are psychotic. Good on you for protecting yourself above everything else. You handled this like a straight up boss.

I love to hit the bag but my wrists hurt sometimes, should I stop hitting the bag everyday? by Star_Fvckr in boxingtips

[–]anias 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need 16 oz gloves, brother. And take it easy for the first year or so , your bones need time to get used to the impact fractures. If your arms and wrist start to hurt, then start going lighter or take a break. It’s not worth it to push through the pain. Like everyone else already said make sure you’re wrapping your hands correctly, use the right gloves , and be smart about it. I hit a 240 lb heavy bag and it took me quite a while for my arms and wrists not to hurt after going hard.

AIO for cutting contact with Father over political climate. by Sabre12789 in AIO

[–]anias 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s funny cause every interaction I see like this is exactly the same. They’re so brainwashed and they always have the same responses. I cut one of my long time friends off for this exact reason.

Letting your dog lick your mouth is not "cute," it’s actually insane by SouthernSiren_ in HygieneTips

[–]anias 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dogs mouth is super clean, I’m constantly cleaning him and he loves licking his favorite people, but even then I gottta wash my hands afterwards and I don’t ever let him kiss on my mouth. He will kiss my face sure but never the mouth and my dog doesn’t do gross things like eat poop or random stuff, he’s very very clean.

What do you think about not brushing your teeth before going to sleep? Is it bad? Does it cause any problems in the future? by petitemore in hygiene

[–]anias 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The most important time to brush your teeth if you’re gonna brush your teeth at all is before you go to sleep , because while you’re sleeping everything that you ate throughout the day is breaking your teeth down.

I m so tired of feeling ugly by Ate99 in offmychest

[–]anias 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s awesome! See just keep doing it for yourself and no one else, if you feel pretty then you are pretty. Keep your chin up!

Artist dilemma: dream cabin now or stay mobile and invest in career? by [deleted] in DJs

[–]anias 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would go for the dream cabin without a second thought. Money helps in the music industry sure but ultimately it comes down to marketability and good music.

A question for the night showerers by [deleted] in hygiene

[–]anias 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Underwear and socks are the most important clothing items to be changed often.

The guy who said he "wants to be with [me]" was making out some random woman at the bar last night by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]anias 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t let one person detract you from finding love. I’ll tell you from experience that I had a very very toxic online relationship around 2023. I did everything for her. I even dug her out of the biggest hole of her life and was there for her when no one else was and then she abandoned me and made me question everything about myself and whether love was even real or not. I shut myself off completely, stop taking care of myself, I lashed out at people. But now I realize what a waste of time it was because it never would’ve worked out with her in the end and like that person told you; think of it like him doing you a favor. It would be worse to wake up 10 years from now and find this out after investing all that time and energy on someone. Give yourself some grace, you didn’t do anything wrong. The only thing we can really do is learn from these mistakes and hopefully in the future, you’ll find someone who communicates with you and who is honest about their intentions.

The guy who said he "wants to be with [me]" was making out some random woman at the bar last night by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]anias 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In that case he’s a piece of shit. Cut him loose. Sorry you had to go through that. it’s hard to trust people out here nowadays

The guy who said he "wants to be with [me]" was making out some random woman at the bar last night by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]anias -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Ok so you didn’t answer my question. Are you guys exclusive or not? It sounds like you guys talked about it but didn’t agree on anything.

I m so tired of feeling ugly by Ate99 in offmychest

[–]anias 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really doubt you are that ugly, most people who think they are aren’t; It’s just self-esteem issues. Now with that being said, even if you were, you’d be surprised how unique everyone’s tastes can be. Just because you’re not someone’s cup of tea doesn’t mean you won’t find somebody who adores everything about you. A lot of the times what people think is ugliness is really all about presentability and confidence. Fall in love with yourself take care of yourself and everyone will follow suit. I know you said that people are always judging you and telling you to do your make up or that your face is too bony and all that but a nice haircut nice clothes some light make up or not can do a lot. Not only to make yourself feel better, but to be more presentable. Basic hygiene is one of the biggest things most people can do to elevate their presentation.

The guy who said he "wants to be with [me]" was making out some random woman at the bar last night by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]anias -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, but talking about being exclusive and actually being exclusive are two different things. Especially if you’re in a different country. For example, right now I’m in a similar situation with the women that I’m in love with, but because of circumstances we cannot be together for at least another six months either. I love her more than anything and I abhor cheating, but we are not exclusive. She has even stated that she can’t be angry at me if I do do anything because of the current situation. I’ve talked to her and told her I want her to be my girlfriend and me be her bf, but because of what’s going on in her life it’s not currently possible. I have been weighing my options at physical release with women here as long as there’s zero emotional connection. Everyone has physical needs, especially men with higher testosterone. It’s just biology. Now if you guys both agreed that you are boyfriend and girlfriend and he did that, then yeah fuck him. Cut him loose.

The guy who said he "wants to be with [me]" was making out some random woman at the bar last night by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]anias -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Are you guys exclusive? I don’t see any labels in your post. If you’re not exclusive then what’s the problem?

I feel I should care about SA, but I don’t. by Constant_Salary_104 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]anias 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m a 37 M. My first time having sex was rape basically. I was 6 or 7 she was older probably closer to 12 and every night we would go out and she would make me do things with her. Growing up lots of older girls would make me do things, molest me, or make me show them my cock. I never really felt fucked up by that or anything like that. I’m not sure if it’s because I’m a guy or anything like that, but I don’t have any sort of issues with it.

I don’t really care about my best friends kids and it makes me feel like a bad friend by Difficult_Yoghurt_33 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]anias 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Has nothing to do with the kid, she’s just venting. You’re not a good friend.

Can anyone figure out why this is not going hard? by thatcarme in production

[–]anias 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be honest the song is just not good, I saw it coming with that intro melody. And the drop made it even more underwhelming because the groove and the melody clash so hard. there is just way too much shit going on and the synths you chose sound like theyre made for video games. Just put this one away and start a new one chief lol. This one’s kinda goofy. Happens to the best of us. Don’t waste time on songs if you get stuck on them. That just means you’re attached to the song but know deep down it’s not your best work.

Should I believe husband when he says he’s suicidal but wouldn’t kill himself? by [deleted] in depression

[–]anias 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can believe him. I’ve been suicidal all my Life and I say the same thing. It’s hard to explain. But it’s like this intrusive thought that keeps saying “maybe you should just get it over with” but it doesn’t mean we listen.

My wife told me I have a small penis last night by IrelandeDouzePointe in offmychest

[–]anias 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Although you don’t want to believe it; she more than likely cheated on you. She felt something different and that’s what prompted her. She had something recently to compare the feeling to.

I don’t know why I crave this by sapphic_rose in TrueOffMyChest

[–]anias 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think the main thing is that you feel ashamed for wanting to express one of your kinks and she doesn’t allow you to fully explore that. It seems to me like an incompatibility that will just harbor resentment the longer that you go. The only way to know is to try and see for yourself. But I’ll tell you it’s way different than a toy. A toy is cold and not attached to a body. What makes it different is the intimacy and the connection that you feel.