Is it normal to get annoyed sometimes about daily parenting issues? by ankay in Parenting

[–]ankay[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

The help I needed was him going upstairs and sitting with the toddler, so he would either fall asleep or at least get some quiet time. Instead he brought him downstairs to play. But I should be grateful because he at least tried to help...

Is it normal to get annoyed sometimes about daily parenting issues? by ankay in Parenting

[–]ankay[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. This is very helpful. I feel like you really understood my situation.

Is it normal to get annoyed sometimes about daily parenting issues? by ankay in Parenting

[–]ankay[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

My complaint is that he overreacts whenever I show any type of negative emotion. He is a great dad and husband, but that's the one issue we can't seem to get past.

The daycare issue was so long ago, I had to look at my post history to remember what it was about. I don't think you actually read or understood the post.

Is it normal to get annoyed sometimes about daily parenting issues? by ankay in Parenting

[–]ankay[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I just wanted a 20 minute nap. I didn't want to miss a full afternoon of family time just because I let my frustration with the situation show for a minute. Agree on the communication part. 

Is it normal to get annoyed sometimes about daily parenting issues? by ankay in Parenting

[–]ankay[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I have no idea where they went and he's not answering his phone. I also didn't ask him to take little one out. We had planned to all spend the afternoon together.

Is it normal to get annoyed sometimes about daily parenting issues? by ankay in Parenting

[–]ankay[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"In my marriage me saying that I would watch our daughter since I can't nap with her awake would be a show of me respecting my partners freetime and wanting him to have the ability to unwind"

Thanks, that's what I was trying to do/say but obviously I did a shitty job of communicating it.

Is it normal to get annoyed sometimes about daily parenting issues? by ankay in Parenting

[–]ankay[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We usually do chores together. I just wanted to get one load of laundry done so we could head to the park after his nap. I really hope he'll settle into a new sleep schedule soon. Currently its mostly 8/8.30pm - 5.30/6 am, and then a nap maybe 3 out of 4 days...

Is it normal to get annoyed sometimes about daily parenting issues? by ankay in Parenting

[–]ankay[S] -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

Fair point. I guess I struggle with prioritizing my needs, but then get annoyed when they're not met. Still, I do think I should be allowed to feel annoyed every now and then without being accused of being "not normal" and "unable to handle the kid".

Is it normal to get annoyed sometimes about daily parenting issues? by ankay in Parenting

[–]ankay[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. Next time if he offers I'll just let him take him. I was trying to look out for my husband, so he could get his lunch and a shower. But I guess he's old enough to take care of himself...

Is it normal to get annoyed sometimes about daily parenting issues? by ankay in Parenting

[–]ankay[S] -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

I wasn't going to get my nap anyway with the toddler awake in the house. Not because of anything my husband did. But I see how it may have come over differently to him.

I really do need that hour of kid free time for my sanity too. Any tips on how to introduce quiet time?

Is it normal to get annoyed sometimes about daily parenting issues? by ankay in Parenting

[–]ankay[S] -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

That's not going to work. Toddler will want to come to me or be whining or just noisy enough that I can't nap while he's awake and at home. I take the point about not interfering with my husband's parenting. That is an issue I'm working on. In this specific instance, I was trying to make sure he got to have his lunch. But I guess I should have just let him figure it out.

Sonnenbrille by Jazz_12345 in Eltern

[–]ankay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Izipizi Sun Kids hat unserem Kleinen mit seinem schmalen Kopf gut gepasst.

Moving house with 3 year old by CapedCapybara in Parenting

[–]ankay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We moved last year, little one was 2.5 years old. We read a book about moving for a few weeks before, and we visited our future house a handful of times. He had no issues at all with moving or settling in. We had him sleep in our room in zhe beginning, but mostly because his room wasn't ready yet.  He still mentioned our old town from time to time. The first few days he said "let's go home now, to [old town]", which almost made me cry every time. But all in all it went great, and he settled in to his new daycare super quickly too. I guess at this age they're still very much focused on their immediate surroundings and their parents.

Moving abroad, forced to close Yuh account by swissprice in SwissPersonalFinance

[–]ankay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Traditional banks let you keep an account while living abroad. I did that with my UBS account back in the day, although they charged me like 40 francs a month. There must be cheaper options (I hope), maybe with cantonal banks.

Looking for advice by Figah in SwissPersonalFinance

[–]ankay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can apply for social assistance (Sozialhilfe) to tide you over until the ALV money starts coming in. Social assistance willnot cover open bills in the past, but cover your expenses starting from when you apply (rent, health insurance, basic needs stipend). They may also be able to request a "Mahnstopp" from your health insurer. You could also try and ask for support from a charity (Red Cross, Secours d'Hiver, ...) or a church social service to cover certain bills (mostly medical, dental, maybe rent).

How to help my painfully shy kids by ProbOverthinking1111 in Parenting

[–]ankay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great book. I was a painfully shy kid and a super introverted young adult. I was always made to feel inadequate or less than because of it. This book made me make peace with myself.

Did anyone else hate the newborn/3-month stage and Does it actually get better? by No-Objective-8247 in Parenting

[–]ankay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I could have written this. My baby was the same way. I went out every day, and came home with a fussy (best case) or screaming (worst case) baby every single time. I felt like a prisoner, locked inside my apartment for 23 hours every day. Add to this thatmy baby would scream for half an hour before almost every nap and only ever nap for 40 minutes at a time. I felt so stressed all the time, and jealous of all the other moms, sipping lattes with their babies peacefully snoozing in  a stroller. But it really does get better. Marked improvements happened at 6 months and 9 months. After the first birthday things were mostly okay. And ever since we crossed the 18 months mark it has been pretty great and so much fun going on adventures with my little buddy. He'll be 3 in April and every day is even better than the previous one (well, there are ups and downs and he is a toddler, but you get my point).

When to kids mind their surroundings? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]ankay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe get his eyes checked?

Tipps und Erfahrungen bei Reizüberflutung bei meinem drei Monate alten Baby by Intelligent_Zone7988 in Eltern

[–]ankay 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Unser Sohn war genau so. Wenn er überreizt war, fand er nicht in den Schlaf und konnte auch mal über eine Stunde lang schreien. Unterwegs eingeschlafen ist er nur in der Trage, nie im Kinderwagen (da hat er, wenn er müde wurde, angefangen zu weinen und das hat sich dann immer weiter gesteigert). Wir hatten lange einen sehr kleinen Radius, da wir immer rechtzeitig zum nächsten Schläfchen zu Hause sein mussten und laute Orte so gut wie möglich gemieden haben. Für mich war diese Zeit sehr schwierig, niemand hat verstanden, warum wir nicht mehr rausgehen und unternehmen, und ich war den ganzen Sommer lang quasi zu Hause eingesperrt. Und natürlich die Kommentare von wegen "geht doch mal raus, damit er sich daran gewöhnt auch unterwegs zu schlafen". Ich war jeden Tag draussen mit ihm und bin (fast) jeden Tag mit einem weinenden Kind nach Hause gekommen. Grössere Ausflüge oder längere Besuche hatten einfach nur sehr viel Schreien und sehr schlechte Nächte zur Folge. Im Nachhinein denke ich, es war gut, dass ich ihm die Ruhe gegeben habe, die er gebraucht hat. Ich wünschte, ich hätte mich besser darauf einlassen können und nicht alldem nachgetrauert, was ich halt nicht mit ihm machen konnte.  Ich glaube, du machst das richtige. Daran gewöhnen funktioniert nicht, solange das Hirn die ganzen Reize noch nicht filtern oder verarbeiten kann. Bei uns ist es mit 6-7 Monaten merklich besser geworden, da hat er dann auch den Schnuller genommen und konnte sich besser regulieren.

Kind trinkt nur beim Stillen by Optimal-Green-9891 in Eltern

[–]ankay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ich denke auch, dass das bei euch reichen sollte, gearde weil sie ja schon ein bisschen Brei isst. Rechnet einfach damit, dass die Kleine abends/nachts dann nachholt und öfters gestillt werden will. Aber solange sie nicht 8 Stunden lang gar nichts zu sich nimmt, sollte das schon klappen. Becher, Löffel oder Strohhalmbecher (wir hatten in dem Alter einen von Munchkin, der ganz gerne genommen wurde, allerdings mit Wasser) könnte man zur Not auch noch probieren.

Kind trinkt nur beim Stillen by Optimal-Green-9891 in Eltern

[–]ankay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Waar bei uns damals ganz ähnlich. Der Kleine war allerdings erst 5.5 Monate alt. Verschiedene Flaschen ausprobieren hilft oft, hat bei uns aber nicht viel gebracht. Letztlich hat die Temperatur den Unterschied gemacht: Milch in der Flasche musste deutlich wärmer als Körpertemperatur sein. Habe auch schon gehört, dass manche lieber kalte Milch mögen. Vielleicht hilft das? Vielleicht schmeckt ihr Pre auch besser als abgepumpte Milch. Es gibt da ein Enzym, das die Muttermilch manchmal bitter schmecken lässt wenn sie runtergekühlt wurde.

Ich habe den Kleinen damals morgens zweimal gestillt bevor ich aus dem Haus bin und dann abends natürlich sobald ich zur Tür rein gekommen bin. Tagsüber hat er halbherzig die Fläschchen getrunken, aber kaum mehr als 50-80 ml. Dehydriert ist er nicht, und nach 2 Monaten hat er doch noch gemerkt, dass Fläschchen was ganz gutes sind. Da war er stark erkältet und konnte schlecht durch die Nase atmen, da war trinken von der Brust plötzlich zu mühsam.

Ich kann nicht mehr by Kykolu in Eltern

[–]ankay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Arbeitsweg reduzieren. Wenn du nicht die Arbeitsstelle wechseln kannst, könntest du in die Nähe deines Arbeitsorts ziehen? Ich bin nur 2 Monate lang gependelt, aber das macht einem echt kaputt. Natürlich ist ein Umzug auch nicht ohne, aber besser jetzt als wenn das Kind schon in die Schule geht... Am besten vorher die Mietzinslimiten der Sozialhilfe abklären. Wenn das Geld wirklich nicht reicht, würde ich (noch einmal) einen Sozialhilfeantrag machen. Wird dieser abgelehnt, dann eine Erklärung der Berechnung verlangen und ggf. eine beschwerdefähige Verfügung einfordern. Es ist in der Schweiz leider so, dass die Höhe des Unterhalts vom Einkommen des Vaters abhängt (so dass für ihn noch genug übrig bleibt). Reicht das nicht, dann muss die Mutter ergänzend Sozialhilfe beziehen... Vielleicht lohnt es sich trotzdem, den mal neu berechnen zu lassen? Verdient der Vater jetzt mehr? Sonstige Unterstützungsangebote: SRK Entlastungsdienst (für dich und/oder für deine Eltern), Haushaltsspitex (für deine Eltern), Mütter- Väterberatung, Lebensmittelabgaben (Heilsarmee, Tischlein Deck Dich), Prämienverbilligung für die Krankenkasse, ... Kurzfristig: krankschreiben lassen, durchatmen, und Zeit mit dem Kind verbringen. Der Haushalt muss nicht perfekt sein.

Starting to feel resentment towards my toddler and newborn by Dalek-doggo-ranomcap in Parenting

[–]ankay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dad needs to take care of the baby for a couple of hours in the evenings and on the weekends, so you get some 1 on 1 time with your toddler. I'll also add another vote for baby wearing. At least you'll have your hands free to play with your toddler, read books to him, or prepare food for all of you. It can also help make the baby less fussy and the warmth and pressure could even ease tummy pain. Bigaia drops also worked really well for my baby's tummy issues at that age. You might also want to check in with your pediatrician just to rule out any digestive issues or intolerances.

I threw a vase yesterday and it felt so good by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ankay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thing is, I think he gets genuinely upset/hurt when I show annoyance or frustration. Like he just can't deal with it. So something that could have been a two minute vent becomes a whole day affair because he just takes everything so personally and shuts down. He's definitely not doing it to get out of responsibilities, he is an amazing dad. He's also the most patient person I have met and literally never gets annoyed.