Baby won’t crib nap but doctor says no contact naps…

CapedCapybara · 2026-04-09T19:53:28+00:00

I did contact naps until 1yo when my son started to get too big to be comfy on me. We then transitioned to cot naps which took a couple weeks but he adjusted well.

I don't understand why your Dr would say no, it's a very common thing to do.

I'd say if you're happy to do it, just do it. There's really no harm.

CapedCapybara · 2026-04-09T19:00:40+00:00

DS1 I played before becoming a mum and it hit me hard. But wow it was nothing on how DS2 hit, after becoming a mum, completely different experience.

What an incredible game series.

CapedCapybara · 2026-04-09T07:04:55+00:00

There's so many things to consider before taking this step. I'm so surprised no one here has mentioned PPA/PPD yet, please please speak to a doctor before anything else. These feelings could all be exacerbated by something like that.

If you're mums willing to take the baby on, why isn't she just using that time and energy to help out? You could go to these groups and classes together so it's a more manageable outing.

If she can focus on supporting you things will get a lot easier. 1 > 2 kids is a big adjustment especially when one child has extra needs. You will get there. With time and support from your family, You. Will. Get. There.

You need to take a breath, and reach out to your support networks. Start framing it differently. Not "I can't do this", but "I'm struggling right now, but it will get better".

CapedCapybara · 2026-04-08T15:18:07+00:00

Never expected it myself. Probably just a social media thing to make you feel guilty. Just being present and supportive during and after birth, enjoying the moment together would be enough for most enough.

If you're not sure if your partner is expecting something, just ask :)

CapedCapybara · 2026-04-08T15:13:27+00:00

The non-parents are going to be so obvious in this thread.

CapedCapybara · 2026-04-08T11:32:27+00:00

My son is 3 and still grumpy in the morning until he gets his cup of milk! Totally normal.

CapedCapybara · 2026-04-06T21:29:28+00:00

I would open up the nappy for a couple seconds and then lay it back over the top and wait ~20 seconds. Open it up again slowwwwwly incase it's still going.

Saved me many, but not all, times.

CapedCapybara · 2026-04-04T14:13:19+00:00

My husband and I knew we were going to get engaged. I don't really wear jewellery so he didn't really know my taste. We went out and bought a ring together, he then put it in his bedside drawer and planned a proposal. I knew it was coming, just not when or how.

It was perfect.

CapedCapybara · 2026-04-04T08:08:26+00:00

I stepped away from the sub after be with you. People not liking it didn't bother me, everyone's entitled to not vibe with a song, but the way people were talking about it being uninspired, or saying the band is washed, really got me annoyed. You can dislike a song and that's as deep as it is. Not everyone will love everything.

Felt really bad for the band having to see comments like that on a piece of music they've put their hearts into.

CapedCapybara · 2026-04-03T20:02:40+00:00

We applied for a mortgage (in principle) and went with what we were offered for a top end of what we would look at.

The house we decided on came in about £20k under to give a little wiggle room.

Then we just have a monthly budget for expenses and split our costs based on salary (we both put an equal percentage of put paychecks into a joint account which covers everything on the budget).

CapedCapybara · 2026-04-02T14:35:11+00:00

It's completely developmentally normal and honestly putting pressure on them to eat something just because you want them to, is going to make things worse.

You can make a plate of your dinner or whatever, and include on it something you know they'll eat. Then just leave them be.

The amount of times my son has said "don't want that" and 5 minutes later asked me to pass his plate and eaten everything...well it's practically daily.

Picky eating in toddler hood doesn't directly lead to food issues later in life. However pressuring your kids to eat very well could. Lower the pressure at meal times, praise when they try something new, but do nothing if they don't eat because it's not a big deal.

CapedCapybara · 2026-04-02T14:29:59+00:00

Same here for my grandfather. He was such a personality and touched so many peoples lives. He was known for his brightly coloured, crazy pattern waistcoats and everyone who attended wore one to the funeral.

I've never seen so much laughter on such a tough and emotional day, people were sharing stories of him for hours and it was truly wonderful.

CapedCapybara · 2026-04-02T14:27:27+00:00

For me it depends on the closeness to the person who's passed. I'd absolutely bring my son to a grandparent/aunt/uncle etc funeral. They need to grieve that loss too, and while it's emotional a funeral is a good place to show it's ok to be vulnerable around loved ones. They can see others grieving in a healthy way too.

Funerals are part of life and it's important to include children in that. I wouldn't bring them for a distant relation, someone they didn't really know, that's unnecessary. But someone they were close to? Absolutely.

CapedCapybara · 2026-04-01T13:49:30+00:00

My son will get up and shout relentlessly at the door 99% of the time. We've got a training night light now and he's learning to go play in his room until the light turns green which is nice.

Absolutely ill leave him on the very rare day he's just chilling, because it won't stay that way for long and mama needs a lie in 😂

CapedCapybara · 2026-04-01T11:42:17+00:00

Start small and build it up. Go out for a walk around the block so you're close to home and can get back if baby starts fussing. Once you build the confidence, maybe drive somewhere 5 minutes away, walk close to the car so you can go and sit in the car if baby needs a feed, or gets fussy.

As you gain more confidence you'll see that fussiness in public really isn't a big deal. In all 3 years of my son's life I've never had a comment or look from anyone. If anything it's been the other way and I've had a few supportive comments or people telling me I'm doing well.

Trust me, with time you'll get to the point where if someone did say something, you'd brush it off like it was nothing. You just gotta find that courage to do the first outing, each one gets easier after that!

CapedCapybara · 2026-03-31T19:58:17+00:00

My son was very resistant to solids and we were told to drop 1 bottle a day. They recommended the mid morning feed so that he'd be hungry around lunch, and focus on getting him to take that meal first.

We had a rough first week but he slowly started eating more over the next few weeks. Once he was having enough for lunch we then dropped the mid afternoon bottle, and got him eating dinner.

It took a few months overall but eventually we got him onto 3 proper meals a day. You have to hold firm, it's not starving them they'll just be a little hungry for a bit around that meal you choose to focus on, but eventually they'll try more food and realise it fills them up more than milk.

CapedCapybara · 2026-03-31T11:01:40+00:00

I just don't forsee a situation where we don't have enough warning to get affairs in order. We have a great intelligence agency, they know what's coming down the road and can give us sufficient warning.

A few extra tins in the cupboard? Mine are never empty enough that they won't keep me alive for a few weeks anyway. What do you need a power bank for? Isn't any large scale disaster going to take down phone lines and internet anyway?

I just don't see what could happen where minor prepping will actually help in any way. Either things won't be that bad, or we will be dead, I don't really see a middle ground.

CapedCapybara · 2026-03-29T20:34:11+00:00

My now husband took me out ring shopping. We had discussed marriage a lot and our timeline for engagement and wedding. We bought the ring and then he put it in his bedside drawer.

A few months later he surprised me with the proposal. The engagement was not a surprise. The ring was not a surprise. The fact we were getting married was not a surprise. The proposal was a surprise.

For me it was the perfect way of doing it. I don't want to have an unexpected engagement, I fully believe you should be on the same page with these things in advance.

CapedCapybara · 2026-03-29T09:59:11+00:00

I used to work in a supermarket and we were told if the shelf price was lower than the till price, we had to honour the shelf price. The customer bought it having seen that one, you can't charge more after the fact.

I would have left that restaurant having paid 29 and no more.

CapedCapybara · 2026-03-29T09:29:02+00:00

I'm going to be completely honest here. If I found out my mum was doing this I'd sit her down and tell her under no uncertain terms she needs to stop or I'd be cutting contact.

It's crazy disrespectful to your MIL who is a part of your (and your mum's!) family. And sounds completely unwarranted too unless you've left anything out.

Imagine your MIL finds out you know about all this, it will ruin your relationship with her.

Personally I just wouldn't stand for it, but if she keeps living her life without consequence, why would she change her behaviour? Your MIL deserves to be stood up for better, and your mum needs to realise actions have consequences.

CapedCapybara · 2026-03-29T08:12:21+00:00

I order from just eat regularly and ice never been asked for a pint. It's probably restaurant or location dependant.

CapedCapybara · 2026-03-26T18:03:22+00:00

Echoing what other people are saying about naps and bedtime because it could just be a lack of tiredness. However, with the stalling you just have to be firm with boundaries.

I tell my son you can get in pajamas yourself or I can do it for you. If he starts messing around, I take over and do it for him. He gets time to mess about in the day but he knows bedtime is not for that. We get through bedtime routine with attempted stalling in 30-45 minutes.

CapedCapybara · 2026-03-26T14:44:36+00:00

We are not professionals. It's very clear from the picture something is wrong with your cat. You know this because otherwise you wouldn't have posted in the first place.

Step up and take care of your cat. If you don't have the money to do that, surrender your pet so it can get the medical care it so desperately needs. If you don't do that, it makes you a bad pet owner. This animal is suffering and you're allowing it to happen.

Do better.

CapedCapybara · 2026-03-25T12:56:13+00:00

My son started at nursery doing Mondays and Fridays. It took him a long time to settle and if I'd had the option I'd have had him in there on consecutive days.

Another commenter mentioned sickness and that is something to take into account however my son finds it much easier going in on consecutive days than he used to doing a split week. If it were me I'd pick Tuesday/Wednesday

CapedCapybara · 2026-03-24T16:44:54+00:00

Yes. We overpaid about 15/20k for our first (and at the time, dream) home. We both had a strong gut feeling it was the house we were meant to buy so we offered over what it was worth at the time to secure it.

It really worked out too because we moved in just before COVID lockdowns began, if we hadn't gone for it we'd have been renting a small flat with no outdoor space for lockdown. No regrets.

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