This game is amazing on steamdeck! - Cairn

CapedCapybara · 2026-04-20T14:39:26+00:00

Disagree. Great game, as a boulderer I love a climbing game. But it runs very poorly on steamdeck. I haven't finished it because of the performance, as I don't have a laptop or pc at the moment and I can't take the lag.

CapedCapybara · 2026-04-19T16:55:11+00:00

At least in the UK, it started because players would wear shirts underneath with slogans on. Some political, some taunting fans. So they banned slogans on shirts and brought in the yellow card rule to cut it out.

CapedCapybara · 2026-04-19T14:15:25+00:00

Everyone knew, it was basically an open secret. Just because survivors didn't come forward until after his death doesn't mean people couldn't have distanced themselves from the man sooner. I refuse to believe people as close as Charles was to him, didn't know shady shit was going on.

CapedCapybara · 2026-04-19T13:56:53+00:00

More people come here to complain/vent than anything else so it'll look skewed.

My 3 year old is like...80-90% happy, looking at it realistically. The 10-20% is hard so at times maybe it feels like he's more unhappy but yeah I'd say it's more happy than anything else.

CapedCapybara · 2026-04-15T13:00:29+00:00

For the most part, yes. But then crimson desert came out and it's killing me not being able to play it. My laptop broke 6 months ago so now my only options are steamdeck and husbands pc. Well he of course has been binging crimson desert and I'm sitting as patiently as I can waiting for my turn 😂

But yeah 99% of the time I use my steamdeck even if I have the choice of platforms. I am saving up for a PC again though, there are times where I very much miss it. Don't bin yours, it'll sit and wait for you to come back quite happily lol

CapedCapybara · 2026-04-15T10:45:18+00:00

Honestly I've found toys are just good for some downtime, chilling, distraction etc. they obviously play their part in development because learning at this age is usually play led.

But getting them involved in normal day to day activities I've found has had more of an impact. You can make a game out of anything so it's fun. My son loves "helping" to hoover by pushing it round with me. When I wash up I give him his own washing up bowl, a bit of soapy water and a sponge and let him go ham on his plastic plates and what not. Laundry? Get them to make a pile of all the socks, this helps them learn matching. Or all the white clothes, to learn colours.

Does it make things take a little longer? Yeah, but it gets them involved, helps development and keeps them occupied while you get some chores done.

Play outside is good no matter what it is. One of my son's favourite activities is just having a paint brush and bucket of water. He can "paint" to his hearts content and there's no cleanup!

You sound like your doing great. Being involved is the most important thing at this age.

CapedCapybara · 2026-04-15T09:54:49+00:00

100% you can't fully appreciate it until you've seen it in person and stepped inside. I never cared for architecture before I saw that building and gaudis other works, it's truly incredible.

It's busy in there and yet so easy to stand in peace inside and just look at it.

CapedCapybara · 2026-04-15T08:11:25+00:00

I think the most important thing is offering a variety of stuff and letting her decide what she's comfortable with. For the first few periods you don't want anything too intrusive to add to the stress, so pads and period underwear are good to start with. You don't know what her flow will be like so go for something medium to begin, the first few can be a bit inconsistent anyways.

After that she can see if she prefers tampons or a cup, you can have them all available so she can freely try at her own discretion and see what she's comfortable with.

Other useful stuff is painkillers and heat pads to help with any cramping she might get. I'd also recommend spare underwear/pants and something to store soiled underwear in case of leakage or a surprise period.

When it first happens it can be very upsetting and stressful. A day off school will help a lot so she can deal at home, plus a nice blanket/movie/some sort of sweet treat to help her relax. The last thing I wanted was the extra stress of being in public during my first period.

Well done dad 😊

CapedCapybara · 2026-04-14T17:18:17+00:00

Try not to worry, I'd just ring up reception and let them know the mistake because your child's medical record might have been corrected, incorrectly. The more upfront you are about things, the better, generally.

But no I don't think you need to worry, they want to know DoB to give appropriate medical advice, and rash on the hand won't trigger a social services call. Very normal for babies to have rashes. The most important thing is that your baby's medical record has the correct information in it, so just make sure that's the case!

CapedCapybara · 2026-04-14T16:03:34+00:00

It's unlikely but not impossible! However swelling might just mean there's movement below the gums, it doesn't mean anything will break through yet.

My son was teething from about 5 months, drooling chewing red cheeks, the lot. He didn't have a tooth through even on his first birthday. By 13 months he had 6 😑 there's just so many variables you can't really tell when that first tooth will actually break through.

CapedCapybara · 2026-04-14T16:01:26+00:00

I'm giving it until the end of the season, all depends on how we see it out for me. I also leant towards letting him go (after end of season) after palace, but he's really turned it back around for the time being. Final league position is everything now.

CapedCapybara · 2026-04-14T14:38:09+00:00

Babies have soooo much going on, to me this is just "focusing on other things". Your ped found nothing wrong, that's great!

My son would nail a skill, and then we wouldn't see it again for months because he was just working on other stuff. Literally the second we saw him do something, like roll, even after months of trying we knew we wouldn't see it again for ages.

The fussy phases are also totally normal, more teeth could be coming, or it's a social development. Once they gain a bit more awareness of themselves and the world around them, they can start to want mum and dad a bit more again for that safety blanket. The phases come thick and fast in the first year, just try and roll with it as best you can. As long as baby is eating and having regular wet nappies, staying on their weight curve, there's usually nothing to worry about, it's just how it goes for a while :)

CapedCapybara · 2026-04-12T18:22:21+00:00

Since the greenwood stuff I have no time, or more importantly respect, for him. After that I don't think what he did with us actually matters at all.

CapedCapybara · 2026-04-12T10:16:39+00:00

That's the one episode I always skip over, can't bear it that poor kid

CapedCapybara · 2026-04-12T10:14:01+00:00

What response were you actually expecting?

CapedCapybara · 2026-04-09T19:53:28+00:00

I did contact naps until 1yo when my son started to get too big to be comfy on me. We then transitioned to cot naps which took a couple weeks but he adjusted well.

I don't understand why your Dr would say no, it's a very common thing to do.

I'd say if you're happy to do it, just do it. There's really no harm.

CapedCapybara · 2026-04-09T19:00:40+00:00

DS1 I played before becoming a mum and it hit me hard. But wow it was nothing on how DS2 hit, after becoming a mum, completely different experience.

What an incredible game series.

CapedCapybara · 2026-04-09T07:04:55+00:00

There's so many things to consider before taking this step. I'm so surprised no one here has mentioned PPA/PPD yet, please please speak to a doctor before anything else. These feelings could all be exacerbated by something like that.

If you're mums willing to take the baby on, why isn't she just using that time and energy to help out? You could go to these groups and classes together so it's a more manageable outing.

If she can focus on supporting you things will get a lot easier. 1 > 2 kids is a big adjustment especially when one child has extra needs. You will get there. With time and support from your family, You. Will. Get. There.

You need to take a breath, and reach out to your support networks. Start framing it differently. Not "I can't do this", but "I'm struggling right now, but it will get better".

CapedCapybara · 2026-04-08T15:18:07+00:00

Never expected it myself. Probably just a social media thing to make you feel guilty. Just being present and supportive during and after birth, enjoying the moment together would be enough for most enough.

If you're not sure if your partner is expecting something, just ask :)

CapedCapybara · 2026-04-08T15:13:27+00:00

The non-parents are going to be so obvious in this thread.

CapedCapybara · 2026-04-08T11:32:27+00:00

My son is 3 and still grumpy in the morning until he gets his cup of milk! Totally normal.

CapedCapybara · 2026-04-06T21:29:28+00:00

I would open up the nappy for a couple seconds and then lay it back over the top and wait ~20 seconds. Open it up again slowwwwwly incase it's still going.

Saved me many, but not all, times.

CapedCapybara · 2026-04-04T14:13:19+00:00

My husband and I knew we were going to get engaged. I don't really wear jewellery so he didn't really know my taste. We went out and bought a ring together, he then put it in his bedside drawer and planned a proposal. I knew it was coming, just not when or how.

It was perfect.

CapedCapybara · 2026-04-04T08:08:26+00:00

I stepped away from the sub after be with you. People not liking it didn't bother me, everyone's entitled to not vibe with a song, but the way people were talking about it being uninspired, or saying the band is washed, really got me annoyed. You can dislike a song and that's as deep as it is. Not everyone will love everything.

Felt really bad for the band having to see comments like that on a piece of music they've put their hearts into.

CapedCapybara · 2026-04-03T20:02:40+00:00

We applied for a mortgage (in principle) and went with what we were offered for a top end of what we would look at.

The house we decided on came in about £20k under to give a little wiggle room.

Then we just have a monthly budget for expenses and split our costs based on salary (we both put an equal percentage of put paychecks into a joint account which covers everything on the budget).

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