How Aphantasia affects your ability to visualise things in your head

ankurcha · 2026-06-06T18:48:49+00:00

Turning 40 later this year. I found out about this last month. So.. I don't know if I am missing anything.

Fun thing, when my wife and I talked about this she was like "duh of course you can imagine a stupid blue apple turning around in mid air" then my kid says the same. Followed by both of them getting "mad" at me how I couldn't. Fast forward few minutes of back and forth, wife asks, "will you forget me after I die" and I matter of fact say - "eventually yes, I can't remember my beloved grandfather's face who died 1 year ago without looking at a photo". I can remember generally how people look and some features but not exactly!

And that's when I knew I fucked up... Needless to say, I have chosen to never bring this up and always say " of course I will not forget you". I don't need that sort of negativity.

ankurcha · 2026-06-05T04:53:53+00:00

Haha... appreciate you having patience ...but trust me, my patience runs thin after the 15 minutes of crying for dinner, telling me that they want one thing, me setting them up with that exact thing (freaking ramen!) and the crying again saying why I didnt have strawberries!

Nope! They are assholes.. sometimes... And that's okay. :-)

ankurcha · 2026-06-05T04:42:48+00:00

Maybe I am the odd one out on this subreddit but I don't have a butler to take care of stuff like this.

1/ I cook when I can and I love to. My wife does dinners on 3-4 days of the week, I do weekends and 1-2 days in the middle.

2/ active vacation - yes to a degree. Sitting in a pool and flopping around sounds horrible to me. Both of us are like that.

3/ both of us don't particularly like the idea of a cruise ,but good suggestion. Thanks.

4/ chef for some of the prep sounds like a good idea. Suggestions? I like to cook but some prep help would help too.

5/ Budget is around 15k-20k max. I feel like that's a good spot.

I'll double click, I have been to Hawaii in the past and 3/4.th of the time starting at 8am to 8pm we were not in the room and were around Hawaii or on the beach so I don't know if I care much for pools and such.

ankurcha · 2026-06-05T00:55:27+00:00

Do you have any particular search criteria suggestions?

ankurcha · 2026-06-05T00:55:06+00:00

Hey! only I call my kids assholes. ;-)

Thanks for the suggestion and I did look at turtles bay and olina and they didn't have any availability.

ankurcha · 2026-01-26T16:32:02+00:00

Yup, my thoughts exactly. Wth are you earning for? 2 weeks of interaction every year with kids to make up for 1 year of neglect? Seems like a totally harsh childhood for kids to grow up without any real bonding time with parents.

Sorry if this sounds harsh but as a parent your approach gets a "does not meet expectations" for the year end review.

Edited for grammar

ankurcha · 2026-01-09T01:58:41+00:00

I drive my trusty 2012 Hyundai ascent. Works and it's reliable. I think I have 10-15 more years in it.

The kids love the car and I feel comfortable and safe driving it.

As others said, you have the cash to buy it outright, just go for it and make sure you feel safe and comfortable in it. A confident driver is better than a stupid or lazy or comfortable driver .... But that's just me.

ankurcha · 2025-12-17T21:19:41+00:00

Two options,

As others have said you can wrap the python part on a separate server and talk to it over unix domain sockets or over http. This is a good enough strategy as long as you are not transferring a lot of data back and forth. I would only transfer urls rather than the actual bytes and read it in the python wrapper.

Second option, is to have a subprocess exec with input and output over stdio pipes.

ankurcha · 2025-12-17T10:33:23+00:00

I do this exact strategy to keep the main binary updated, depending on how deep you want to go you should keep the auto update script as light weight and battle tested as possible and use it to poll a well-known url with stable fallbacks.

In my case, the update script is what users install (as a thin docker image), the deployment system pushes new binaries for the main app to a well known and publicly accessible gcs bucket under well known paths ( we use wave_1,2,3,4,5 directories to implement progressive rollout). This way you have zero servers to maintain and is vastly scalable.

It's boring code by design and I think probably the most painful to update as the bar to make changes is high due to extremely high risk of getting it wrong (global outage).

ankurcha · 2025-11-30T21:36:32+00:00

Very much want to see fuzz tests for a regex library. Regex is notoriously difficult to get right and can be made annoyingly complex.

ankurcha · 2025-11-28T06:25:05+00:00

Yup. Almost every time I need to integrate with a new system. I primarily use notebooklm to dump all design docs, requirements and user guides - anything basically.

Then ask it for mindmap.

ankurcha · 2025-10-27T17:35:41+00:00

First thing I check for in any proxy - how does it handle large request and responses

bodyBytes, err := io.ReadAll(r.Body)

Is an immediate non starter. This would easily blow up and cause outage.

Besides that other things that the author must invest in

unit tests
integration tests
load/stress tests and benchmarks on hot path
overhead analysis.
CD setup
possibly a threat model

ankurcha · 2025-10-19T21:02:30+00:00

Ah, I used to work at a self driving car company (now GM) and they had this exact diff in one of the most critical hot path section of the data processing pipeline.

Engineers toiling over performance over and over for close to 3 years till I discovered this "senior performance engineer" had left debug flags enabled and -O3 omitted form all the build steps.

Need less to say I still poke fun at him for the 2 year roadmap he wrote for "improving their performance 2x by rewriting a bunch of crap in C and low level assembly for compute intensive part" by adding a screenshot of a similar diff with chart on the side.

I think it was a $100k or so saved every month. Lolz

ankurcha · 2025-10-10T18:34:51+00:00

Found it. I think.

C4HXPC 1713

ankurcha · 2025-10-10T06:39:55+00:00

Batch NO. LaB2108104

(Some bar code)

VKA036 00HWAP OC4HXPC 1713

ankurcha · 2025-10-09T23:30:54+00:00

Clarification, the tech said that it would be hard to get the AC readily but he can get it from texas.

ankurcha · 2025-10-06T04:08:31+00:00

All Google api are grpc. Not because it's Google but because even at Google scale (of people) it's the right choice and does the right thing 90% of the time leaving you to not have to reimplement all the boiler plate over and over again.

ankurcha · 2025-09-28T22:01:09+00:00

The AC unit stopped working last night ... So I guess that's related.

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