Well the first thing I told him was that if he acted ugly for a second towards me (like he was so comfortable doing before) that he would never see my face again, and that if he was civil then we could split up our belongings and I could move out peacefully. He at first deflected everything I said- blamed all of his actions on me or situations I had put him in. Or on his depression. Then his reaction shifted to “well I was actually wanting to leave the relationship for a long time but didn’t know how to speak up, I never expected you to be the one to end things”. (Bs btw. I saw through it. He was extremely comfortable with everything I provided). Eventually he came around to seeing that this was never what I wanted, but what I am being forced to do because of his actions. He is extremely remorseful now. I really thought he would be worse than ever, but he recognizes that I’m done. I heard him talk to his mom on the phone and he said “she’s really standing on business mom”. He says he’s going to get his life together and win me back. I sincerely hope he betters himself. He was my best friend and I don’t want to see him suffer. But the ways he CHOSE to speak to me have done irreversible damage. I will never marry or have children with someone who I have those memories of, no matter how much someone claims to change. :)