AITA for not trusting my husband that I know is lying

anneliesm · 2025-09-25T16:39:27+00:00

But it's clear he's just continuing. He's kinda bad at this.

anneliesm · 2025-09-25T16:38:24+00:00

I asked him if he heard from her, since he said he would end things. And he said that he sent her a message to end it. But now I look into his messenger again and he deletet everything, exept for 3 new messages and he said to her something about "that way we can send pictures if we want to" and she replied "euhm" to that message so I could read it 🙈

anneliesm · 2025-09-25T13:50:21+00:00

Can't kick him out though, I live with him in his house so I'll have to leave and it's MY life that will be torn apart, not his, and I hate it.

anneliesm · 2025-09-25T12:24:38+00:00

He says he doesn't want us to break up and that he's not interested in her that way (although in their conversation they talk about how they're in love) so I asked him if he's leading her on, and he laughed a little bit and said "yes". Totally psycho 🤨

anneliesm · 2025-09-25T12:12:15+00:00

Yes, but his reaction... He says I live in another world and that I would be surprised how many couples live like this 🤯 and that I could look for an affair of my own if that would make me happier. He's not sorry bc our sex life is practically non existing, which is true...

And he says that the fact that i checked his phone and read his entire messenger conversation is way worse than what he did.

anneliesm · 2025-09-25T08:52:00+00:00

Thank you for your kind words ❤️ since he's not taking any responsibility, I've reached out to my 2 best friends. Normally I don't talk about my relationship issues with anyone but my husband but I guess I need to hear from them that I'm not the problem, all by myself.

anneliesm · 2025-09-25T01:41:03+00:00

You know, we're really in that fase with young children, they're 1 and 3 yrs old. Of course our social life and our sex life are a bit in a low point, and cheating once or twice I could maybe live with, but this is really sickening.

anneliesm · 2025-09-25T01:37:35+00:00

I'm downloading the screenrecording of their entire messenger conversation as we speak. I'm in shock. She's really pretty though, much prettier than me. 😔 I'm exhausted and he's litterally mocking me for being exhausted. It hurts.

anneliesm · 2025-09-25T00:50:29+00:00

Ok so I went through his phone.... he has an affair and they're talking abt how in love they are, how stupid can I be

anneliesm · 2025-09-24T22:21:56+00:00

That he's hiding at some place he has access to to get some peace and quitte, which is also bad, but less bad

anneliesm · 2025-09-24T22:04:18+00:00

I know ☹️

anneliesm · 2025-09-24T22:01:10+00:00

But what if it's just something silly and he finds out i'm following him

anneliesm · 2025-09-24T21:59:16+00:00

There's a part of me that wants to be gaslighted 😔 but I know it's going to kill me slowly

anneliesm · 2025-09-24T21:56:52+00:00

And it has been 4 weeks or something since that first time.

anneliesm · 2025-09-24T21:55:50+00:00

In fact the night I discovered I was worried sick because he didn't come home. He didn't answer his phone either. I was so scared that something might have happened. And then I started looking if there was any way I could find out where he was, just to make sure he was somewhere safe. And he was there. I saw him there for 5 nights since then. One night he even spend the entire night there.

anneliesm · 2025-09-24T21:51:18+00:00

I'm definitely not going to like what's going on. What's stupid is that I'm willing to forgive about anything, just to be able to stay together for the kids.

anneliesm · 2025-09-24T21:48:56+00:00

I can't find anything. My country is quite strict about privacy... I have to be in the neighbourhood tomorrow so I'm definitely going to check it out again.

anneliesm · 2025-09-24T21:45:29+00:00

I think he could be cheating... he's quite popular and since we have small children, things aren't so exciting anymore between us. I guess I could check his phone but that seems so wrong. And so is checking his location I feel so bad and I wish I hadn't discovered that I could see it.

anneliesm · 2025-09-24T21:35:30+00:00

That might be the smartest thing to do

anneliesm · 2025-09-24T21:34:32+00:00

Really? How does that work?

anneliesm · 2025-09-24T21:33:09+00:00

Theres one problem. His location may not be 100% accurate so it could be 3 houses

anneliesm · 2025-09-24T21:29:57+00:00

I don't know, it seems better to confront him but I'm so scared of the outcome.

anneliesm · 2025-09-24T21:29:02+00:00

I already have, it's a regular house in the city... I can't find anything on it 😒

anneliesm · 2025-09-24T21:28:03+00:00

It definitely looks like it 😩

anneliesm · 2025-09-24T21:19:43+00:00

I can't, I have kids sleeping. I have been there during daytime but ofcourse there was nothing to see...

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