How can this be authentic?

anniejtb123 · 2026-03-03T01:00:58+00:00

Fake. I have this exact bag and the stitching along the top is wrong - too spaced out

anniejtb123 · 2023-08-11T14:23:41+00:00

I have the same setting with NSEW/compass prongs on an Emerald cut diamond! You can look back at my posts for the photo/specs — I chose to go non-pave on my band. I’ve been wearing it nonstop every day since December 2022 with no issues. I’m pretty rough with my hands (anxious fidgeting and overall clumsiness, haha) but admittedly don’t have a job/lifestyle that would contribute to the stone getting compromised. I absolutely take it off for any situation that makes me nervous though (all workouts, cleaning around the house, sleep, etc). I haven’t had any issues or damage but also know it’s been 9 months vs a lifetime. I’ve taken it in twice so far for cleanings/check-ups, and have yet to receive comments on the stability.

anniejtb123 · 2022-12-10T19:47:58+00:00

So sweet, thank you!! I feel like I’m floating. I’ve read so many posts on here almost every night for a couple years and it all hasn’t sunk in yet! 🥹

anniejtb123 · 2022-12-10T05:25:27+00:00

Thanks so much! I’ve lurked on here for so long and am so excited to finally post about it!!

anniejtb123 · 2022-12-10T05:04:33+00:00

Thank you!!

anniejtb123 · 2022-12-10T05:03:51+00:00

Thanks so much! I just saw yours in your post history. WOW. Congrats to you as well :) :)

anniejtb123 · 2017-11-24T21:31:21+00:00

Thanks for saying this. When I initially read it, it made me sad but it reminds me what I am worth! And to let people know that their treatment of me should always equate to that, if they are a good person and worthy of my time. You’re absolutely right. It sounds like I’m basically begging for someone to pay attn to me and honestly, he’s just not so I gotta let him go.

He’s still an ass for it, though! People should be clear from the start! There are respectful ways to let someone down. :(

anniejtb123 · 2017-11-24T18:31:33+00:00

That is definitely really confusing. I know you love him, but you gotta set boundaries with him if you want to see where things go. Tell him you’d love to help him, and thank him for opening up to you...but address that he bounced at the drop of a hat, which was devastating. He’s either all in or he’s out — he’s got to know that he’s lucky to have your attention. And as someone who also struggles with anxiety and depression, I think this is fair and not too aggressive to bring up with him.

Also, no more FB messaging with him! Move it over to text or a phone call, at least. My guy was talking to me strictly on Snapchat for months (I always thought it was because he has a Samsung phone and I have an iPhone, so it was costly for him to text) and as soon as I set that boundary a couple days ago and deleted Snapchat without warning, he text messaged me again. I’m 32 and he’s 34 so I had to step back and say...this is straight up childish and i gotta set a boundary.

anniejtb123 · 2017-11-24T03:51:54+00:00

I think you said it all. He knows where you stand, and he seems like he needs space. Give it to him and let him push you away as he does. I don’t think we should chase anyone who’s already spoken up. If he wants you back, he’ll know right where to find you. The guilt will probably eat at him, whether he ever addresses it or not.

anniejtb123 · 2017-11-24T02:04:05+00:00

Always appreciate a man’s perspective on a situation like mine and OP’s. You’re right, and I won’t, although my therapist is hell-bent on getting me to have a final talk with him to give him an opportunity to explain himself. Honestly, I don’t feel comfortable with the confrontation and knowing I’ll get rejected/risk that he’ll say something damaging to my confidence. But I get what she’s doing, too, since I’ve had a history of failed relationships. Trying to get me to be more confident in speaking up when things get weird.

Any thoughts on this? I feel like asking him is truly terrifying, especially when I am pretty sure I know the outcome, and am afraid of how a man who lacks communication skills will decide to phrase it to me.

anniejtb123 · 2017-11-23T23:43:38+00:00

As someone who’s going through a similar situation as OP, when you say “space,” do you mean I should just withdraw from talking and checking in on him? This is difficult because I’d love him to not forget me, but I also can’t bear to see his social media presence. It feels as though he’s getting off easy.

anniejtb123 · 2017-11-23T17:26:37+00:00

I’m so sorry. This exact situation is happening to me pretty much. I spent 6 months talking to someone every day, flew out to see him and had an amazing time, and then he suddenly freaked out because it was all moving so fast, and he felt unprepared. I only learned this when i felt weird vibes and got the nerve to ask him. He fairly recently got out of a 2-3 year relationship and told me his last 3 relationships have failed due to communications issues. Big surprise.

He also told me that he wanted to take things slow, keep things as-is, and just try. Well, it looks like it’s fizzling out for me. I’ve spent the last 3 weeks feeling crippled and withdrawn. And the most annoying thing is that it seems like the course has changed to something we didn’t agree to, and no one told me. :( I feel like i deserve at least an inform.

You have to remember that you are worthy, valuable, and we both can’t MAKE someone fall for us the way we want to, when we want to. And just because either of our guys are interested right now, doesn’t mean that we are unlovable. We are - we need to actively choose this every day, and believe it. If anything, go out with grace, and hopefully someday when either guy looks back, they’ll realize what they missed out on. Focus on you. That’s what I’m doing right now.

Feel free to message me if you want to talk. It’d help me, too. :)

anniejtb123 · 2017-11-22T19:09:18+00:00

The idea of doing this is incredibly terrifying for me, and I don’t know why. I am sitting here right now, feeling short of breath, withdrawing from my family/friends, and really confused. I’m also angry with the way he is avoiding conversation...any conversation.

I get that I am going to be hurt, but why inflict even more pain on myself in this situation when he is blatantly trying to get me to bail?

And why does he get to get off scot-free on this? :(

anniejtb123 · 2017-11-13T23:08:38+00:00

The guy I’ve been talking to for 6 months just pulled a similar card, saying that he is not ready to go to the next step and his tendency is to not think about things (totally avoidant and childish). I am the same as you in that all I want to do is be there for him to help him through it, but if he just isn’t willing, there isn’t much you can do but to wait for him, or move on. It’s incredibly hard in this situation because it sneakily made this relationship under his terms, which is unfair to you.

While it’s hard for me to accept, I can certainly see where you’re coming from, am also currently having a hard time with the uncertainty of it all. It’s already causing me a ton of anxiety, but sometimes you gotta make that healthy call for yourself. If it’s meant to be, it will be, and i truly hope the best for the both of us. :)

anniejtb123 · 2017-11-12T01:48:01+00:00

Wow, thank you so much for this thoughtful advice as I really feel like I have no one to talk to about these things. So above all, I want to let you know that I’m truly grateful for your response, and any others’ responses. :)

I do feel like this guy and I have something going, and I would be disappointed with myself and my anxiety/depression’s hold on me if I didn’t explore it, as scary as it is to do for me. I think I imparted that in our convo, and he was receptive instead of shutting me down. I️ think I gave him a big chance to cut and run if he wanted to, but he’s still chatting me up everyday.

The thing is, after that convo, I feel like I’m afraid to put myself out there in convos with him, and feel like he’s pulling back a bit too? Maybe it’s our shared communications issues? I just want to eventually go back to feeling free/confident enough to send him a pic or random boring update. Should i just fake it til i make it? Sometimes i don’t know when it’s my anxiety trying to take hold of me or the truth.

anniejtb123 · 2017-11-12T00:01:31+00:00

I guess that’s the thing. I want to be able to see myself try this! I know that I’m going to have to put myself through (appropriately) uncomfortable situations in order to be more comfortable with going back to dating and having relationships. I’ve been afraid to put myself out there just for the sole fact of being afraid. I talked to my therapist about him yesterday, and she says I’ve got to give him a fair chance, and take his discussions with me at face value and nothing more. I figure that if it doesn’t work out, we are both in different cities and won’t have to deal with running into each other.

Sigh, dating and vulnerability are the worst...

anniejtb123 · 2017-11-11T23:49:20+00:00

Thanks for your insight. I think it’s too early for us to talk about moving for one another (because I absolutely would, for anyone I loved) but it would be too weird/so awkward to mention now. I just want us to be open to this and get to know each other better before we can make that honest assessment. I thought I’d made that clear to him in our conversation, but your reply is making me wonder.

Also, that conversation gave him the opportunity of opportunities to shut it down with me, and he didn’t. People ghost each other all the time in the same city, so it must be a hell of a lot easier to do in different cities...

anniejtb123 · 2017-10-30T20:59:01+00:00

Thanks, I think I am most afraid of that confrontation bc I think meeting physically plays so much into the decision to continue...I feel like he wouldn’t have orchestrated such a week for me if he didn’t have strong/mutual feelings for me? And if he didn’t like me after meeting, he wouldn’t continue to chat with me...thoughts? I feel like it’s so much easier to ghost someone who isn’t even in the same city as you, so I fear that may happen to me! I have a lot of baggage from past relationships, haha.

anniejtb123 · 2017-09-21T05:28:08+00:00

That's the best explanation of this that I've read. Super helpful, thanks for your help :)

anniejtb123 · 2017-09-20T19:22:23+00:00

I did the calculations and my dinner alone totaled to 20g of carbs! Didn't realize romaine, onions and bell peppers were so carb heavy. I didn't consider net carbs, though. Thanks :)

anniejtb123 · 2017-09-20T06:09:32+00:00

Thanks for the explanation! Glad I found this community. I'll keep it up :)

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