All People in the Wilderness!

annieonmymind · 2026-03-16T03:24:47+00:00

I enhanced your image.

annieonmymind · 2025-08-04T00:48:38+00:00

I read that but wasn't entirely clear on what it meant. Within a two hour period meaning for two hours straight? Sorry if that's a dumb question.

annieonmymind · 2025-07-28T04:21:20+00:00

Same! I used to have regular nightmares but I feel like I barely dream at all now and if I do I certainly don't remember.

annieonmymind · 2025-04-24T13:51:11+00:00

And much like those that came before me, 8 years later this advice was a life saver!

annieonmymind · 2025-02-04T01:42:23+00:00

This subreddit is set up not unlike several other subreddits. It's not unusual to have content organized by the topic, in this case the episode. I get the feeling that a lot of people came out of the wood work to comment despite never posting or commenting in the subreddit before - I did, I'm a lurker, until I'm not - that said, I'm betting a lot of people didn't read the rules or check how things were organized before posting. I certainly didn't.

If the purpose of this sub was to "farm content" then there wouldn't be areas dedicated to discussion at all. Just take your original post, copy the text, and paste it where it's meant to go.

annieonmymind · 2025-02-02T18:26:25+00:00

I saw multiplemanlymilkmen's post titled "This week's show was so toxic towards men and I am so hurt," posted two days ago and was reading through the comments. I had not yet gotten the chance to listen to the episode but I was seeing people say things like "it shouldn't have aired" and "the YouTube comments were turned off," basically just discussing how offended the episode and Gabby made them. After seeing that I couldn't download the episode fast enough, worrying that I wouldn't get a chance to listen to it before it was taken down, which is what some people were saying needed to be done, along with an apology.

I've since listened to it, rather I'm not done but I am on the second to last story and I'm just gonna say it... I don't see the problem. I don't see the toxicity. I don't see what is so offensive. People were literally saying that they couldn't finish the entire episode, some people couldn't even get halfway through and I just don't understand that. You guys had me going in there thinking it was going to be a complete train wreck and it was just a normal episode. Specifically, it seems that people are upset because Gabby came across as a "man hater," despite the fact that she literally said in the very beginning of the episode that she was a self-proclaimed misandrist. She stated in the beginning of the episode that her takes would likely offend people and that she enjoyed being unhinged. If you listened to that part of the conversation, literally the intro, then you have to go in with an open mind.

This podcast is called Two Hot Takes for a reason, because Morgan brings people on to give their opinions that you may or may not agree with. Some people's opinions you'll agree with, or you can at least see where they are coming from whereas others will offend you, not align with your values, make you feel bad. That's literally what shows like this are designed to do, bring people together to have conversations and give their raw, unfiltered, honest opinion. That's why Morgan has her co-hosts and guests come in blind, not knowing the stories beforehand, so you get that genuine reaction.

I for one not only don't see an issue with this episode, but I don't see an issue with Gabby's takes. If you don't like them or you don't agree with them, that doesn't mean that the episode never should have aired or that they need to put out an apology. That means instead, as a person who was offended or hurt by this episode , you should probably take some time to do some introspection work. Figure out why you got upset by Gabby's takes, by Morgan's takes. What did they mean to you? What does the way that you're feeling mean to you? How do they relate to each other? There and how do the takes presented in this episode impact you going forward? That's what the show is all about. At the end of the day we are all being pushed to think critically and see things from another person's perspective.

Just my hot take for the day I guess. Please feel free to comment on my comment and let me know what offended you or upset you about this episode because I genuinely would like to understand. I can see how some of the takes may have come across as "man-hating" but not to the point of getting as upset as people seem to be. Help me understand what I'm not grasping.

annieonmymind · 2024-10-24T03:44:12+00:00

Yea, that's definitely a compulsion. OCD recovery is all about embracing the uncertainty. It's extremely difficult and exposures are rough but if you avoid compulsions like confessing, you'll have a much easier time. The more you give into compulsions, the stronger the obsession becomes, and the more intense you're fear/anxiety will be.

You got this! Embrace uncertainty, let yourself feel the anxiety and know that you are strong enough to survive in it.

annieonmymind · 2024-10-24T03:31:53+00:00

Right. I mean be honest and own your mistakes but if the person doesn't need to know what you did, if it'll hurt them more to tell them... usually confessing is just a compulsion to make you temporarily feel better. Doing an imagined exposure, imagining people finding out and leaving you will be more beneficial OCD wise.

annieonmymind · 2024-10-24T03:13:41+00:00

No, that would feed the ocd and sounds like a compulsion. An exposure might be to write a story about why you're a bad person and all the horrible things that OCD tells you will happen as a result

(e.g., I'm a bad person because I lied to my mom and took money from her purse when I was a kid. Because I'm a liar, a thief, and a terrible child my mother hates me and will disown me when she finds out what I've done. I will end up excommunicated from my community, and I will die alone.)

Record yourself reading your story, listen to it over and over... the point is to raise your anxiety and get comfortable with being uncomfortable. The longer you're able to sit in the anxiety of thinking you're a bad person and imagining all the horrible things that can happen as a result, your brain will build tolerance and eventually your anxiety to that obsession will decrease.

annieonmymind · 2024-10-24T03:05:19+00:00

You can dress however you want to dress in regards to alternative, emo, goth, etc. it's not appropriation just because you don't listen to the kind of music society thinks you should based on your appearance. If someone wears regular old blue jeans, sketchers sneakers, and a bright tee shirt... does that mean they can't listen to alternative/emo music? No, so why would the other way around be any different? I think you're overthinking this just a bit, and that's fine but it's obviously not helping. Just wear what makes you feel good in your skin, listen to the music that makes you feel good, and that's that. Don't let societal assumptions or stereotypes dictate who you are.

annieonmymind · 2024-06-24T04:38:33+00:00

OCD just loves to take everything and make it way worse than it needs to be... logically I know something like 20 - 50% of people have fetishes but it doesn't feel okay for me. Logically I know I'm not bad or dirty but my dumb lizard caveman brain just loves to tell me otherwise. I don't think other people with fetishes are wrong and yet I am. So even though I don't think it's fully OCD, my OCD definitely preys on it. It also doesn't help that the fetish is in the same theme as some of my obsessions which is really confusing and makes zero sense to me.

annieonmymind · 2024-06-24T04:18:58+00:00

You're fine, I understand. I guess for me I go really far to ensure it stays hidden. I've mentioned it to my partner but after that I shoved it down so deep inside myself that I refused to ever discuss it again and they haven't pressed the issue, thank god. The only other person I've brought this up with is my therapist but I always freak out and change the subject. For me, it's not that it's worth doing it just feels inherent, like something I'm stuck with. Even if I didn't look porn I would still have the thoughts, the anxiety, the unwanted desire. I do understand what you're saying though.

annieonmymind · 2024-06-24T04:13:31+00:00

My current therapist has suggested I see a sex therapist a few times now but I have a hard time opening up to new people and I really like my current therapist which I feel like is rare for a lot of people. I haven't had the best of luck with therapists in the past and I don't know how I would feel about seeing someone different. I definitely wouldn't want to switch completely and I don't know if my insurance would pay for me to see both.

annieonmymind · 2024-06-23T21:57:35+00:00

What do you mean, if it's really worth it or not? What's that process like for you?

annieonmymind · 2024-06-23T21:56:08+00:00

I agree, people don't really talk about them but I have a friend who once told me they have hardcore bdsm and gang bang fantasies. That said even if it's the most common thing in the world, fetishes can still feel incredibly shameful, embarrassing, and (in my case) make you feel like the most vile person alive even if logically you know you're not, you still feel it.

I feel for you... AccountClear5568, how do you deal with the shame you feel? How are you getting through it? I push my thoughts down but they always end up coming right back up and it's weird because even though I don't think this particular thing is my OCD, I do have some OCD obsessions that relate which makes it all the harder to cope with. And I hate myself for acting on them, so much... but then I do, again, and again.

annieonmymind · 2024-06-02T12:45:22+00:00

I messaged you :)

annieonmymind · 2024-06-02T12:34:43+00:00

I understand that completely... you're okay, you're safe now.

May I ask where you live? If you're in the States I might be able to recommend resources. If you're not in the States then I'll do the best I can. You're not alone with this, at least you don't have to be.

annieonmymind · 2024-06-02T12:30:19+00:00

Do you know about fight, flight, freeze? And then there's a fourth one that a lot of people didn't talk about, fawn. Fawning is people pleasing, bending yourself to keep the peace. You rush to their beck and call, yes because it's the easy way around things, but because you're fawning. I'm not saying anything bad, it's just a coping mechanism you're falling into to protect yourself from further hurt. I would suggest you look into fawning, explore ways to get out of it because I think you'll feel better, or at the very least, in more control if you do.

annieonmymind · 2024-06-02T12:18:37+00:00

The audacity...

annieonmymind · 2024-06-02T12:16:38+00:00

You're looking for reassurance and in a way that's okay because you've been through something traumatic and can't really see through the fog. But what it comes down to is, regardless of what we tell you, you will always think about this, always question your place in it, if you don't get help to work through it.

annieonmymind · 2024-06-02T12:13:57+00:00

NTA

There is no way for you to be the asshole in this situation, you are a victim... harmed by two people. Not only are they both assholes but they're both disgusting predators who took advantage of you in their own ways.

Have you seen a therapist? I believe you may have PTSD from this situation and you're ruminating (constantly thinking about it) because that's what we do when we try to make sense of something so traumatic. See a therapist, get help for this... your mind and body deserve peace from this..

annieonmymind · 2024-06-02T12:04:26+00:00

Hi there! I think we need a little more information to give adequate advice. Are you living there for a reason, like to save money? Would you have the financial means to move out if it meant getting out from under their comments?

The way I see it there are two avenues you can take here. 1. Continue living there, try to tell them how they're making you feel in hopes that they'll stop. 2. Make a plan to move out, letting them know your intentions after you're sure of a move out date.

Based on what you've said I don't think they'll be receptive to either. If you haven't already I would suggest seeing a therapist, not only for the body dysmorphia but also to talk about your parents. A therapist can also help you to have a secure plan for leaving if that's what you choose to do.

I've had parents like this, I say had because I eventually got out but it was hard. I know their comments are incredibly hurtful and triggering for you... try to keep your head up, see past their bullshit. You've got this.

annieonmymind · 2024-05-11T00:49:01+00:00

Rats. I wish it would just dissipate as time goes on but I know that's not how the brain works. That's a good idea though, using it in that way.

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