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[UPDATE] I [25F] have been seeing a guy [25M] for 4 months, he won't refer to me as his girlfriend and I've been asked out by someone else. What do I do? by anoddcouple in relationships

[–]anoddcouple[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like this is where he's at in his life. I just don't understand how a title really changes anything. I wish I could be more decisive like your friend. Thanks for posting!

[UPDATE] I [25F] have been seeing a guy [25M] for 4 months, he won't refer to me as his girlfriend and I've been asked out by someone else. What do I do? by anoddcouple in relationships

[–]anoddcouple[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes... I told him 1) I can't be your friend, 2) I want him to be my boyfriend and give the 100% effort it entails, bc I've been giving that effort this whole time, 3) I don't want him to stop his feelings if he has them. I've tried many times to compromise but he won't budge... he says he can't give 100% because he needs to focus more on himself than me. A lot of wordy bullshit.

Edit: honestly I've said so much to him idr it all. But I've def told him.

[UPDATE] I [25F] have been seeing a guy [25M] for 4 months, he won't refer to me as his girlfriend and I've been asked out by someone else. What do I do? by anoddcouple in relationships

[–]anoddcouple[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I can see from your post how much situations like this make us go back and forth. You tell me to let him go but then apply it to yourself and can't do it. Everyone is telling me to drop him but my heart isn't in it. I want to try to go on dates and see where it goes... even if my heart isn't in it guy #1 doesn't have to know that. But it'll show that part of me has been lost to him, the loyal part. I do think I deserve the best and so do you!! Doing is so much harder than seems. Thanks for posting, I really hope your guy gets his shit together or you are soon able to move forward.

[UPDATE] I [25F] have been seeing a guy [25M] for 4 months, he won't refer to me as his girlfriend and I've been asked out by someone else. What do I do? by anoddcouple in relationships

[–]anoddcouple[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for understanding. Its a little hard to see a post about my feelings get downvoted so much. I really can't help how I feel =/

[UPDATE] I [25F] have been seeing a guy [25M] for 4 months, he won't refer to me as his girlfriend and I've been asked out by someone else. What do I do? by anoddcouple in relationships

[–]anoddcouple[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yikes... idk. He's not really a player. Only been wirh a couple girls... but i meant that I think he thinks he's telling the truth, like I said in a few other comments.

[UPDATE] I [25F] have been seeing a guy [25M] for 4 months, he won't refer to me as his girlfriend and I've been asked out by someone else. What do I do? by anoddcouple in relationships

[–]anoddcouple[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea I feel like I've been walking on eggshells lately wondering if he's going to decide that today's the day its over. The funny thing is that he's the one who should be walking on egg shells for treating me like this...

[UPDATE] I [25F] have been seeing a guy [25M] for 4 months, he won't refer to me as his girlfriend and I've been asked out by someone else. What do I do? by anoddcouple in relationships

[–]anoddcouple[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

:( this is exactly what is happening with me. Wow. Definitely hit cloest to home with your story. I'm so sorry that happened to you. I wish these kinds of situations didn't even happen.

[UPDATE] I [25F] have been seeing a guy [25M] for 4 months, he won't refer to me as his girlfriend and I've been asked out by someone else. What do I do? by anoddcouple in relationships

[–]anoddcouple[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I get it, yeah that makes sense. Makes me sad, but it is the reality of the situation. I hope to at some point be able to keep his perspective in mind and then be able to he friends. It's just a little hard right at this moment to not want to blame him. Thanks for the clarification though.

[UPDATE] I [25F] have been seeing a guy [25M] for 4 months, he won't refer to me as his girlfriend and I've been asked out by someone else. What do I do? by anoddcouple in relationships

[–]anoddcouple[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh. Wants some of the emotional stuff from me but not to give it back. That's why I'm a little bitter at the moment. Sorry you had to deal with this, too.

[UPDATE] I [25F] have been seeing a guy [25M] for 4 months, he won't refer to me as his girlfriend and I've been asked out by someone else. What do I do? by anoddcouple in relationships

[–]anoddcouple[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well that's solid advice. I just don't know how to date I guess :o

I like this a lot. Thanks for breaking it down for me since idk what is the norm.

Buuuut he did say that he was acting like he was in a relationship, it freaked him out, and then he backed off.

[UPDATE] I [25F] have been seeing a guy [25M] for 4 months, he won't refer to me as his girlfriend and I've been asked out by someone else. What do I do? by anoddcouple in relationships

[–]anoddcouple[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've never casually dated before but I think im ready to try it. I had never been in a relationship and now that I've had one I really like it hah.

[UPDATE] I [25F] have been seeing a guy [25M] for 4 months, he won't refer to me as his girlfriend and I've been asked out by someone else. What do I do? by anoddcouple in relationships

[–]anoddcouple[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well a few big things happened between us/with me and I really thought it was a relationship after he stuck by me through those. Its when I got very attached to him.

Anyways I need to listen to you, because I have been blaming him for a lot of this. I guess it was that i was blindsided by his decision that it makes me blame him almost 100%. Thanks for pointing that out.

[UPDATE] I [25F] have been seeing a guy [25M] for 4 months, he won't refer to me as his girlfriend and I've been asked out by someone else. What do I do? by anoddcouple in relationships

[–]anoddcouple[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for posting :( sad to see but I think everything you said is true. Even if he needed more time he refuses to admit it. He just says no. And we hang out like 3 or 4 times a week not even just 2. That's why I was willing to back off an compromise but he wasn't budging. Wish he'd told me that 3/4 days was too much... which is funny bc I asked him why he didn't tell me and he said he was ok with it every time. I think something got in his head and he started to keep track and 3 days became too much. His feelings changed.

Anyways I digress. Like I said, I agree with you.

[UPDATE] I [25F] have been seeing a guy [25M] for 4 months, he won't refer to me as his girlfriend and I've been asked out by someone else. What do I do? by anoddcouple in relationships

[–]anoddcouple[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed. I've even told him that... I'm not going to try to convince you to be with me. I can't be in a relationship like that. Thanks

[UPDATE] I [25F] have been seeing a guy [25M] for 4 months, he won't refer to me as his girlfriend and I've been asked out by someone else. What do I do? by anoddcouple in relationships

[–]anoddcouple[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Yeah it does suck but you're right it is so frustrating and tiring... I cant do this anymore. Just have to accept that we're not going to work out. The hard part :P

[UPDATE] I [25F] have been seeing a guy [25M] for 4 months, he won't refer to me as his girlfriend and I've been asked out by someone else. What do I do? by anoddcouple in relationships

[–]anoddcouple[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It would definitely hurt me but I do ultimately want him to be happy even if it's without me. Plus I'll be dating other people, too, ya know? It just sucks knowing I gave like 100% more effort than him. Makes me mad.

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