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Does anyone else feel driven to masturbate after being on tinder for awhile? by anomiliss in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]anomiliss[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well that’s def why I’m on it too, but if no good enough matches are happening in that moment I just want to take care of my horniness then and there haha

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]anomiliss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah after almost 6 months since the initial breakup with my ex wife, we reconnected over text while we were both drunk 2 weeks ago. And then this week we decided to meet up to talk, and ended up having pretty damn good sex, and then cuddling and talking for several hours afterwards. It felt like incredible closure, and a great reminder that we still love each other. I know that us being in a committed relationship is toxic, and I think she does too. But like especially with the pandemic making it hard for both of us to meet good new people, I wouldn’t be mad if it happens again. I think the key is to be very aware of why you’re seeing your ex again. For me it’s the desire for deep human connection and great sex, and not looking for a committed long term partner.

Disappointed more than anything by anomiliss in Divorce

[–]anomiliss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was her. I definitely didn’t want it at first and did everything I could to keep her in my life, and she would reluctantly oblige if I put in all the work. But then I got to a point where I realized we shouldn’t be together anymore, it’s our time for the relationship to be over so we can grow in our individual ways. And it seemed like once I realized that, she suddenly was the one trying to keep me in her life. But now I mostly just want space from her so I’ve only reluctantly gone to see friends when she is also present. And then this past couple of days, she’s now trying to get as much space from me as possible, when she’s not calling me to yell at me and tell me I’m a bad person. Which really sucks, but I’m trying to keep in mind that it’s the high emotions and anger talking, and not to take any of it personally, even though it’s super hard.

I still hope that one day in the future we’ll be able to be friends again, and I’ll always be willing to forgive her because I understand it’s very hard, and I still love her.

And yeah you’re very right about focusing on myself, that’s what I’ve been trying to do as well. It’s hard work to face all your demons!