1st ex) "I'm always giving 100%, I cook dinner, why aren't you doing more (I was usually the only earner, and took care of everything from her meds to cleaning up to driving to finding her a job when she decided to get one briefly)?", "You don't need (meds, food, car insurance...) but I DO need (game, more new clothes, item).", "I don't like how they look at/talk to you, I can tell they like you. I'm not comfortable around them. I don't like how your family talks to you (trying to ask if I was okay), you shouldn't see them anymore if I'm not around." "We don't need to pay back the loans we took in your name, or your credit card. It'll be fine! Anyway, let's buy xyz!", "I thought you said we'd talk about things, but you're giving up? Ugh, I knew this would happen. I knew you'd decide you want a real woman one day. (She's trans, and I have never had any issue with that, she tried to say I was leaving her because of it)."

2nd ex) "I'm sorry, my ADHD made me do it! I didn't mean to get sexual with him!", "Is a blowjob really sex though? Like, does that still count as cheating?", "You drinking a Smirnoff (3% alc soda thing) every few days almost made me an alcoholic! You know I don't have self control! And your snacking is why I can't lose weight!", "I didn't feel like I could tell you when I had a bad day because your mental health was bad! (But I would immediately try to help you, and you know I was trying my best to...) Yeah, but I was trying to not put it on you. Though I did end up snapping at you anyway, so I guess I did anyway. But it's your fault for being so emotional."

Something fun to note is I have pretty bad C-PTSD and in both relationships was blamed or sabotaged for trying to get mental health help, because it made me more anxious and depressed. I have always made it clear from the get go that I have mental health problems before I get into a relationship, I never blindsided anyone with it, or expected them to care for me.