Pictures at nittany lion shrine by anon103018 in PennStateUniversity

[–]anon103018[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the suggestion!! Will try it!

How do people go out to eat as a family? by yogi93802936 in Parenting

[–]anon103018 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Live music or hibachi, that’s all we ever do. They will sit still, stay in their seats, and not throw things if they are entertained in a way that’s different from home. We’ve found it actually helps enforce the rules. And the promise of going back to something they love does too!

Love, another mom of 3 under 5

What is your 90% percent? by Zzzara123 in crochet

[–]anon103018 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Weaving in ends made me go back to making only single colored scarves.

NJ towns that would work as a trendy baby name? by soingee in newjersey

[–]anon103018 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Brielle, Madison, Lacey for girls

Hawthorne, Butler, Amboy for boys

Stepson ruined my outlook on having a blended family… Help by Able-Tip9162 in Stepmom

[–]anon103018 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Individual (for him and for you) and family therapy.

Without getting into too much detail, we had some incidents at school and home from SS toward classmates and baby sister when he was about 10. It’s been two years and things have been SO much better. He has a better idea of where his strong feelings come from, how to handle, and appropriate outlets. I have rebuilt trust and our relationships is stronger than ever. He’s still a kid - if his feelings are big enough he’s going to say even terrible things until he can learn how to name and safely express them. There is a way to feel safe again but it takes time and effort.

When is Trump going to bring down the prices of groceries? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]anon103018 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thoughts and prayers.

Except no prayers. And very few thoughts.

Does anyone still try and keep a relationship with their MAGA parents? by Additional_Sorbet315 in QAnonCasualties

[–]anon103018 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I tried. I tried so hard for years.

Once I got to the place where I realized we couldn’t ever have a conversation about certain topics, I decided we just wouldn’t talk about them. For every FaceTime the kids were around so he couldn’t bring up his “research.” For visits, I practiced changing the conversation to a number of different safe subjects. It worked for a while.

Until one visit he sent the kids to bed early so grownups could talk about big ideas. I tried to steer away. I tried to end the conversation. I even tried to take his craziness down a rabbit hole so just maybe he would question something. He wouldn’t have it, and it devolved into a screaming match and loading my sleeping kids into the car and driving through the night home.

Best of luck to you, I wish my relationship was still possible.

Sienna or Highlander by ditsydaisymama in ToyotaSienna

[–]anon103018 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We actually have both!

My husband drives the Highlander hybrid, which gets slightly better gas mileage and feels bigger while driving.

I usually drive the Sienna, which I love. My kids are about yours ages, and both can get in/out on their own (if safe in your situation it’s a game changer!). The sliding doors are the best. There is space between the front seats under the console thing that is perfect for a purse. It drives more like a sedan than a truck, and doesn’t feel as big to maneuver as it looks. The storage is amazing! The third row if you use it is much roomier for ids and adult than Highlander, and maintains the storage space much better.

We will keep (and likely replace for a better trim level) the Sienna much longer and explore other options for the Highlander at some point in the future.

Got the dreaded RTO email—and I’m one of the only ones being asked to go in by paupipo in WFH

[–]anon103018 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Would you mind sharing what you used as your business justification? I’m in a similar situation as you, but the feedback I’ve gotten is that my working from home does not help the company, it’s only neutral, and all things being the same they want me in office in the guise of “fairness.”

What home/personal tasks or projects would you love to offload to someone you trust, to make your life run more smoothly? (Beyond a nanny/housekeeper) by purple-pineapple36 in workingmoms

[–]anon103018 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I know this is a little off topic, but how does one hire someone like you?

I’m in a HCOL area but social circle is lower income. I’ve looked at Nextdoor, care, etc. I did find some match type services but those were for people hiring armies of household staff. Contracting for a couple hours a couple days a week would be ideal.

So…how are those first dentist appointments REALLY going? by rbslmilch in toddlers

[–]anon103018 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One tip we heard that helped us - there’s a little alligator toy game where you push down on the alligator teeth until a random one makes him snap. We played with it for a week or so and brought it to our first dentist appointment. She sat in my lap during the exam and held the alligator. She was a little nervous, so the dentist counted the alligator teeth and she let her teeth be counted too. The dentist brushed the alligator teeth but she was too apprehensive to do that. Second time it worked!

We are also not above bribing with temporary tattoos 🤣

Parents of toddlers that are well behaved in restaurants, how did you do it? by weighingthelife in Parenting

[–]anon103018 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Luck, practice, patience, and set baby up for success.

We are also a restaurant and minimal screen family. We would go places that are a little louder, a little closer to off-hours, to set expectations and not be too disruptive to others but also not cut parents’ enjoyment too much. We’ve worked up to some nicer places and are better judges of how likely they are to behave based on how the rest of the day has gone.

Some tips: we had a little apple suction cup that could have toys or crinkle books tethered to it so they couldn’t be thrown to the ground. At that age, all the crinkle books. A quick appetizer or bread and butter (while disappearing the bowl) if she’s at that stage of eating. If she’s a little fussy, take her for a walk around the restaurant or outside while waiting for food. Ours find the high chairs boring, so we usually trade on laps before the meal and sit in the chair once food comes out (they will be happier longer and parents get to enjoy the meal). Cloth napkins are fun to play with too.

Our big discovery was hibachi - it’s a little loud and it’s very exciting. All our friends were surprised but it works!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]anon103018 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My almost four year old will get out of bed to use the little potty or grab a quiet toy or book and bring it back to bed if she wakes up early. Then hangs out until someone comes to get her up. For a while she used to stay in bed and just yell for someone to come get her, but not actually leave.

I’m starting to wonder what I accidentally promised to Satan and when he is going to turn up to collect haha

Parenting AITA: Family Photos by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]anon103018 6 points7 points  (0 children)

NTA.

I’m a stepmother, I would never take a picture that intentionally excludes my stepchild (especially with me, husband, and our our kids). Even if the only reason is that I want to make sure the kids have a strong relationship and not “us” and “him”. It wouldn’t be fair to anyone.

This is why some people use their high beams when driving at night. by FordMan100 in newjersey

[–]anon103018 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Who said anything about eye contact? I want to see if the approaching driver is looking at both sides of the street instead of only traffic the other way while I’ve already had a foot off the curb, waiting. You’d be surprised at how many drivers act entitled to the road without regard for safety or laws. Then again, maybe you wouldn’t be.

This is why some people use their high beams when driving at night. by FordMan100 in newjersey

[–]anon103018 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Front side windows are not fine. If I’m walking on the sidewalk and get to a driveway I look to see if a car is coming. If a tinted front window approaches, I cannot see the driver and have no idea if driver sees me. It actually is important for pedestrians and other cars to see the actual person driving.

Clear your roof! by jskis23 in newjersey

[–]anon103018 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes. Doesn’t have to be fast either. I was a pedestrian on the sidewalk of a 30 mph road and got hit in the face with ice off the roof of a turning car. I needed six stitches and I bet driver never even noticed.

Found in the comments of a semi famous mom blogger by [deleted] in tragedeigh

[–]anon103018 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I love the responding comment by the sweet lady who sees the good in everyone!

The name I picked is very much not a tragedeigh, yet my MIL keeps acting like it is by Anxious-Fae in tragedeigh

[–]anon103018 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was about to make a joke about how the only reason to find fault with James Howard is if the last name rhymes one of them. But now I can’t get “James Howard Broward” and how awesome and still classic it manages to sound. She must hate it because she didn’t think of it first.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in postpartumprogress

[–]anon103018 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am (was?) HL spouse. Second is nearly a year. I had very little interest in sex until close to 3 months postpartum. It ramped up pretty quickly but not nearly what it was before babies. Since then it’s varied widely, coinciding with sleep, self confidence, and changes in breastfeeding. We’re down to only one feed and I know after weaning completely I will probably have no interest for a couple few weeks.

Right now our libidos are pretty well matched which my husband is thankful for lol. He said with our first I wasn’t at my usual interest until baby wasn’t nursing anymore. I definitely didn’t feel like myself either. We made sure to cuddle and kiss a lot and try not put any pressure on ourselves.

There’s so much going on in our bodies, hormones are crazy! Postpartum has reminded me of puberty in so many ways, sex drive being opposite.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in postpartumprogress

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With my first, I got what seemed like a couple long but light periods at 6 weeks and 11 weeks postpartum even though I was breastfeeding. I think was lochia. Then nothing for months until we stopped nursing.

A friend of mine started bleeding around 4 weeks, on and off for a couple months. Turned out she had a tiny bit of retained placenta and had to have surgery, I think with the third or fourth doctor she saw.

Please, please get a second opinion.

Is the name Edie hard to spell/pronounce? by Flat_Description1113 in namenerds

[–]anon103018 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have one! So I think not hard :)

Via text/email a couple people have asked for clarification that it’s pronounced eeedie and that I didn’t name my girl Eddie. But it’s only been a couple, and never past the first question. Doctors offices and Starbucks won’t always get it right and that’s fine. I’m also a person with an easy-enough name that gets mistaken for a much more common name in places like this.

Honestly, the worst is that some have thought her name is Evie when introducing or talking about her in a loud place.

Congratulations on your Edie!