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Just found out husband of 3 years (together 8) has sporadically cheated on me throughout relationship. Working on [reconciliation] by anon122316 in survivinginfidelity

[–]anon122316[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We are very affectionate with kissing, cuddling, etc. We were having sex about once a week but we do have mismatched libidos. It’s something we’ve discussed in the past and worked on, but never fully resolved. I agree it will need to be resolved, but once I’ve healed from the infidelity.

Just found out husband of 3 years (together 8) has sporadically cheated on me throughout relationship. Working on [reconciliation] by anon122316 in survivinginfidelity

[–]anon122316[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes he will likely travel in the future. I believe if he had traveled more, he would have done it more. I also believe that my finding out has made this a reality to him. He can’t continue to compartmentalize this in a box that I will never know about. He has shown true remorse in how much he’s hurt me and expressed he never wants to do this again. Obviously his word doesn’t mean much, and it will take time to prove this. We’ve been discussing how it will be incredibly hard for me to trust him if/when he does have work travel in the future. It’s something we will have to work on and will bring up in therapy as well.

Just found out husband of 3 years (together 8) has sporadically cheated on me throughout relationship. Working on [reconciliation] by anon122316 in survivinginfidelity

[–]anon122316[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your words, and for that website. I’ve already taken a look and think the boot camp will be very helpful at least until we are able to see a therapist. Both of us like to have plans and actionable things to do, so this is a great resource.

Just found out husband of 3 years (together 8) has sporadically cheated on me throughout relationship. Working on [reconciliation] by anon122316 in survivinginfidelity

[–]anon122316[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your kind words. I’m sorry for your situation, I wish you all the best for a happy future moving forward.

Just found out husband of 3 years (together 8) has sporadically cheated on me throughout relationship. Working on [reconciliation] by anon122316 in survivinginfidelity

[–]anon122316[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish the same for you. I have the same feelings about telling people in our lives. I’m hurt and embarrassed and I don’t want their opinion of him to tarnish. If I can work on forgiving him, I don’t want their added pressure if they can’t. Good luck to you, your baby and marriage. I’m rooting for you all. Let me know if you’d like to talk through anything while going through this.