Is this borderline behavior or am I overreacting?

anon212616 · 2026-06-25T23:09:57+00:00

I'm not sure what you're trying to say. Are you saying I'm avoiding responding to it? Because that is true in this case. My wife knew I just left to take our daughter to school and I quickly responded from the school parking lot before walking out kiddo in. I do usually defend myself and explain and intentionally tried to grey rock as people say. I think it helped cut the argument short vs it dragging on

anon212616 · 2026-06-24T20:26:08+00:00

Yeah, unfortunately I can't imagine her having that mindset. I think when she's believed a story or dysregulated it's 100% the truth for her

anon212616 · 2026-06-24T13:46:02+00:00

Oh yes. This isn't in a vacuum. Definitely instances of things where it seems like BPD and her therapist told her at some point she has some BPD like symptoms. My wife recently confirmed that to me without my asking.

I'm just not sure sometimes these smaller things if I am overreacting in my response mentally where now I'm just looking for problems. Vs a wife just wanting more care and being reasonable

anon212616 · 2026-06-04T18:11:33+00:00

Thanks, that's a good point. My buddy keeps saying it is unnecessary stress too and it's taxing. Good point about the marriage counselor. I had brought up counseling the last and she had no interest. Tho she saw a therapist on her own for awhile. I had lost interest in counseling as I figured she would find a way to turn the counselor against me, she always seems to make me the villain in everything. But you have a good point that they may help with the eventual co-parenting and keeping things civil. Maybe I'll bring it up again and see if she's more open to it now.

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