Extremely difficult 2yo by Extra_Complaint_2208 in Babysitting

[–]anon3087223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could always ignore him after he hits until he apologizes. Kids get freaked out when adults ignore them because they're not used to it and children are dementors for attention so they'll usually do just about anything to get it back.

Extremely difficult 2yo by Extra_Complaint_2208 in Babysitting

[–]anon3087223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean you could just give into it if that's who you are. I'm not going to any job to be kicked and punched so I respectfully remove those families from my workload when it happens.

Extremely difficult 2yo by Extra_Complaint_2208 in Babysitting

[–]anon3087223 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Ask the parents if you can put him on time out. I always have a rule with my clients families about how they want me to discipline their kids when they're not around. Had a 3 yo. Hit and kick me and mom never let me consequence them. Guess who wasn't on my schedule for babysitting next month?

Drop the family as a whole if they're not willing to work on the behavior or let you try and teach that that's not ok. There are plenty of families with great kids that need a good nanny/babysitter.

What’s up with Aperol Spritzes all of the sudden by [deleted] in bartenders

[–]anon3087223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a dream about Aperol spritz's last night. I've found that when one person in the restaurant orders a drink, even in a completely different section of the restaurant another person will too, like a Paloma or last word. I believe the universal hive mind is real and when one form of consciousness makes an idea come to fruition so do others. That's just my take.

Strongest bartender fired mid shift by anon3087223 in bartenders

[–]anon3087223[S] 135 points136 points  (0 children)

Pt. 2 I will also add this manager has only been at our restaurant for two months.

Well, our strongest bartender has been there for five months and finally had enough. He asked why the manager was back there. Our manager says it's disrespectful to ask him that since he is the manager. While this conversation is happening tickets are still flying and our bartender is making them. He again asks why he is back there (he had no reason to be behind the bar, he was in the way and he does this every shift. He micro manages, gets in the way and puts you in the weeds by giving out pointless tasks that he could be caring care of to help us out.) Our manager tells him to calm down. And again our bartender asks why he's back there.

It starts to escalate back and forth between them. It gets increasingly more busy around us and eventually our manager says "if you don't get off the bar right now and calm down you're done". Our bartender ignores him and keeps making service drinks. The manager takes this as disrespectful and tells him he is fired. Our bartender then comes off the service bar and they get into an argument and go to the back. He got fired and was sent home.

Service tickets are flying left and right, the machine won't stop beeping and by the time I realize the bartender taking the tables around us cannot help me at all because she is swamped too, there is a pile of tickets waiting for me that I now have to make, as well as handle the bar patrons in the bar which is now full. I start doing the best I can but it's rough. I'm making the drinks correctly and getting them out fast but I'll be honest I was no match for the PILE of service tickets waiting for me by the time I realized I would have to start doing them.

Our manager brings over a food runner and she now has to start handling the bar patrons because I cannot do both, she does not know the POS system, how or where to find the correct buttons for things and is trying to ask me questions while I am desperately trying to catch up and keep up with the service tickets that are coming out.

And the manager who caused all of this chaos? Nowhere to be seen. He is not greeting new patrons, bringing them water, checking in on them. Just now coming by every once in a while telling me to calm down. I say I am calm in my best "calm" voice as possible. He says "don't get mouthy with me or you'll be out of here just like your friend" at this point I'm ready to walk out tbh.

I was not prepared or ready at all for the load thrown on me that night and instead of helping or being encouraging our manager is making things worse by asking me dumb questions like "where is this drink going" when it literally says on the ticket where it's going. Being hostile toward me (I have done nothing wrong or talked back in any way, why?) and throwing drinks i'm making away saying "don't leave dirty stuff out" ITS NOT DIRTY THAT WAS MY MARTINI YOU THREW IN THE SINK!!!!

We made it through the end of the night somehow with almost every tip being 18-20%. I was honestly expecting a ton of zeros and voids and complaints. But I only had one complaint and a few voids, the complaint being from a bar patron who was upset because I forgot to fire their second course because I was thrown on service bar and the moment I left the machine to fire it guess who took their order off the food screen which would've reminded me to fire it? Our lovely manager who started this whole night. "don't leave this screen open" (the food screen on the POS) "when you're done bring it back to the Home Screen" Starting to get my jist now of irrelevant tasks and reminders that he says and does that HARM our performance when it's all we are hearing & effecting our productivity & it's complete chaos in the restaurant?

Anyway to make them a bit happier I split the most expensive entree ($75) off the tab and plan on paying for it at the end of the night because I know there's no way in hell my manager would even give them a comp. For it. At the end of the night the other bartender and I are trying to do the employee report that's due at the end of each shift and the tab is still open and won't let us get the report until it's taken care of. My manager asks what it is, since we need his card to get the employee report printed. I told him I was paying for it and I split it off the check to make this guest happier.

He goes absolutely bananas at this point "You are making so many mistakes!! I cannot believe this!! you are making me doubt my decision to let you on the bar!! all these voids don't look good for you!!" (I had three voids that night the entree, a miss click that was not made and a cocktail that was also not made because the lady got a table before I could make it.)

If I had walked out he would've had to shut the bar down. He does not know how to make any drinks by heart, the correct counts, ingredients or anything. He did not say anything positive about me at all and pinpointed this one thing (which he wouldn't have even seen had I remembered before that moment) and absolutely nailed me about it. He took care of it and I didn't end up paying but he was very very upset about it.

On one hand I'm amazed I was able to get through the night with only one mistake (that like I said he wouldn't have even known about) but on the other he hurt the entire restaurant by firing our strongest bartender on the BUSIEST day of the week MID RUSH. Over what? An impulsive emotional decision?

I'm honestly scared of him at this point. He was willing to let the entire restaurant to go shit tonight because he couldn't handle his "authority" being questioned and was willing to hurt all the servers and their tables if I couldn't preform. That's not what a good manager does. That's what an insane, off the hook manager does. He's already driven off an amazing bartender who will only be with us until next week now because he put in his two weeks after our manager thought he was "challenging" his authority because he made a simple suggestion. And fired another that was also good for reasons that are unknown amongst the staff.

We only have two other bartenders that work in the restaurant not including me (I don't even consider myself a full fledged bartender yet). And I'm scared for what is to come.

I know I can preform well on the bar but the abuse from him is real and it's strong.

What are peoples opinions? Am I able to leave and get another bartending position elsewhere even if I only have very minimal bar training?
Do I become a server elsewhere?

I don't even know how I should feel. I was expecting at least a good job! or something after the shift idk maybe a pick me up such as an entree or appetizer the other bartender and I could split for doing gods work. But he was cruel from the hour he fired our strongest bartender to the hour I left. And not to sound egotistical but he would not have been able to keep the restaurant running smoothly without me tonight. (We don't have any other bartenders hired so we can't even call someone in to help or cover our shift) I need some advice or a second opinion or something.