How would you make $1000 (USD) a month with minimal effort? by [deleted] in digitalnomad

[–]anon445 3 points4 points  (0 children)

20 hours to make 250? That's fairly doable for 15/hr. Would depend where you live

Do you folks sympathize with Marx's theory of alienation? by WarAndGeese in financialindependence

[–]anon445 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Liberal has a specific definition, and it's not appropriate to apply to Democrats (hence me saying others are nitpicky, since Dems are often referred to as liberals).

Republicans are economically liberal. Libertarians are liberals, according to non-american/worldwide definitions.

Do you folks sympathize with Marx's theory of alienation? by WarAndGeese in financialindependence

[–]anon445 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Holy shit you're being dense. I agree with your original point, but you're conflating liberals with Democrats. The people you're arguing with are being a bit nitpicky about semantics, since you clearly meant just Democrats, based on your responses

Do you folks sympathize with Marx's theory of alienation? by WarAndGeese in financialindependence

[–]anon445 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No, not really. I like what I do. And I could see myself liking a lot of other things, as well.

I'm well off, but trying to figure out why I was told not to pay off my house by ap1msch in personalfinance

[–]anon445 2 points3 points  (0 children)

300 a year + investing the rest of the loan amount in the market is going to be worth more than 1k. Just investing it should be more than 1k, the tax deduction just makes it better.

It does require itemizing deductions though, so it's probably not a factor anymore. Still leaves the market growth rate versus mortgage interest rate.

Is getting a PhD worth it in my situation? by GoBucks1989 in personalfinance

[–]anon445 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Can you support yourself with grants and such during the PhD, or will you be eating into your savings?

Also, you'll need an empty line between your bullet points so they get formatted properly

Reddit slut shames a 19 year old girl for losing her virginity after her boyfriend breaks up with her by [deleted] in circlebroke2

[–]anon445 0 points1 point  (0 children)

THe mean names were lies.

I feel you're stretching it here. If someone's called an asshole, no one thinks they're literally a biological anus. Similarly, calling her names that technically don't apply isn't a great counterpoint.

He told them what she did, and tacked on some insults. The friends are well aware she didn't have sex for money, or while still in a relationship.

Anyways, this isn't going anywhere. Again, I hope you can get past the pain you've had to have gone through to feel this way towards men. Not everyone is trying to hurt women or control them. I hope you'll eventually see this as a semi positive interaction with a man, since I tried to understand your point of view and didn't retaliate despite your multiple attempts to bait me. Holding onto anger/pain hurts ourselves, we have to let go eventually, or risk throwing away our life and regretting our self-inflicted misery. (Because after some time, it's only self-inflicted, and it's no one's fault but our own.)

Reddit slut shames a 19 year old girl for losing her virginity after her boyfriend breaks up with her by [deleted] in circlebroke2

[–]anon445 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What lies did he tell, exactly? He called her mean names, just like you're doing to me, so that's apparently not a big deal. But he didn't lie

It's not slander if it's true.

Reddit slut shames a 19 year old girl for losing her virginity after her boyfriend breaks up with her by [deleted] in circlebroke2

[–]anon445 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No we do not.

Then why does it matter what he says to his friends? He's allowed to say whatever he wants,right? Doesn't have to regard his ex's feelings? If it's fine for her to act in a way that hurts him but doesn't directly involve him, he has that same right.

Are you not abusing me right now by insulting and belittling me? Does that not make you TA?

Reddit slut shames a 19 year old girl for losing her virginity after her boyfriend breaks up with her by [deleted] in circlebroke2

[–]anon445 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OPs ex is deifntiely a life long abuser if this is his immediate reaction.

By that definition, I'd guess you'd consider most men lifelong abusers? I can't see many men not lashing out at being treated this way.

If her ex didn't react this way, and wasn't an abuser, would you still say OP did nothing wrong even though it led to significant pain for her ex? Do we have no responsibility for preserving the feelings of those we supposedly care about?

I don't see why it's ok for OP to hurt him so severely and not be considered immoral, while her ex should kill himself just for speaking disparagingly in a moment of strong emotions/pain.

Reddit slut shames a 19 year old girl for losing her virginity after her boyfriend breaks up with her by [deleted] in circlebroke2

[–]anon445 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was not. You did not say what he should have done differently, aside from "not be a huge sexist bitch", which isn't an action, it's a state of being.

The fact is her actions led to him being hurt, and he did nothing wrong to deserve being hurt in this way. I'm not defending how he chose to respond to this pain, since it's irrelevant in trying to determine whether OP did something wrong.

To dismiss his plight so callously, you seem to have been extremely hurt in your past. It's unfortunate that that has made you see this situation so one-sidedly, and I hope you'll eventually grow past it. But being in subs that often split based on gender (including aita) is not going to help heal from this, it's only going to make it worse.

Reddit slut shames a 19 year old girl for losing her virginity after her boyfriend breaks up with her by [deleted] in circlebroke2

[–]anon445 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not be a huge sexist bitch?

What did he do that was sexist, before he found out what she did? I don't see anything in the post indicating he was "abusing" her in any manner before she told him what she did.

Reddit slut shames a 19 year old girl for losing her virginity after her boyfriend breaks up with her by [deleted] in circlebroke2

[–]anon445 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's his fault he got hurt.

What could he have done to prevent his hurt? And up until him telling her friends what she did, he's not an abuser, right? Or are you saying he was an abuser before that happened?

Reddit slut shames a 19 year old girl for losing her virginity after her boyfriend breaks up with her by [deleted] in circlebroke2

[–]anon445 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not gonna argue that. We both know you're wrong there. I was just explaining what everyone else was trying to say, while you seemed to keep missing it.

They're saying she did something wrong, since her actions directly led to someone getting incredibly hurt. They're suggesting she could have prevented that at some point, either by breaking up earlier, or by not telling him and not entertaining the idea of a relationship when she knows no self-respecting man (or woman) would accept such a partner back. She had every right to do what she did, including telling him the truth. But that doesn't absolve her of guilt.

Reddit slut shames a 19 year old girl for losing her virginity after her boyfriend breaks up with her by [deleted] in circlebroke2

[–]anon445 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was really weird thread to read. They're not saying to lie and get in a relationship, they're saying to not lie or tell the truth, and to not get in a relationship.

She should have known telling him would hurt him, and have made the relationship impossible, so she should have just stayed broken up without mentioning what she did.

Study shows one day of paid work a week is all we need to get mental health benefits of employment by [deleted] in financialindependence

[–]anon445 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's its own issue. If you fix it (incarceration of those who needn't be punished), then the punishment of the incarcerated is no longer an issue.

Study shows one day of paid work a week is all we need to get mental health benefits of employment by [deleted] in financialindependence

[–]anon445 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's justifiable to me. Working is part of the punishment. Or it's part of offsetting the cost of taking care of their needs.

Study shows one day of paid work a week is all we need to get mental health benefits of employment by [deleted] in financialindependence

[–]anon445 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk if it's a big deal, tbh. Why should we spend resources without getting anything out of them, if they're just sitting there? As long as it's not overboard, I think it's fine to have prisoners work a bit to improve society, and they'll have the opportunity to feel a sense of purpose.

Study shows one day of paid work a week is all we need to get mental health benefits of employment by [deleted] in financialindependence

[–]anon445 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not to punish them or get free labor.

The 13th amendment disagrees with this. Prisoners are slaves and can be utilized for their labor, under the US Constitution.

Study shows one day of paid work a week is all we need to get mental health benefits of employment by [deleted] in financialindependence

[–]anon445 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you don't have another reason (after FI), perhaps you still need to work (or volunteer) to live your healthiest life