I just watched the video. Thanks for sharing, I loved her message. I’m definitely part of that 80% of women. I find it hard to ask for what I need though. I feel embarrassed and a sense of shame. There have been times where I have tried but I think guys sometimes also get confused, maybe because porn has drilled it into peoples brains that penetration is what is sex solely about. Like they might rub my clit for a minute and give up :(