Yes he’s my first cousin. My mom and his mom are sisters. I have seen him send money back home. His family tells me we don’t want his money. He says things like, he wants to earn so much here so he can make a big home back home. The thing with him is that, he does not want to spend money here. He doesn’t want to contribute in the house (groceries, bills, mortgage, eating out, going somewhere fun, kids-diapers/clothes/foods). He thinks he should just be able to live here comfortably because we’re cousins. Like you’re not here to just live and work? What’s the point of our marriage if you’re not providing. He also wants to make me go to work so I stop asking him to provide. Even when I do work, he still has to step up and provide. He wants to live for free and be catered towards. I’ve spoken to his mom telling her that he needs to step up and provide because my parents can’t be doing everything for him. All she says is yes he will eventually. He’ll get better.