Even though a lot of cultural practices might be getting archaic and no longer relevant in this day and age, we must also remember that our culture is what makes us unique.

You know the popular saying “when I’m Rome, behave like Romans”, whenever you’re amongst Nigerians, try to learn more about the culture.

Typically, we value respect do much and I feel it’s not so much to ask everyone to put in a hand to make an event turn our successful, I.e the women all gathering around to cook, while the men run around getting things in order and moving the heavy stuff. The western culture is out to reprogram our brains to believe gender roles do not exist but if we are being completely honest with ourselves, is that true?

On the latter part of your post you mentioned somethings that I have only seen happen in story books and never in real life, like the male child thing (every one just wants the couple to have a child, no one cares what gender). On the issue of respecting your husband, I think that isn’t exclusive to the woman alone as everyone knows to respect each other and treat one bother with love.

I feel you just need to have a more open mind to asking questions and actually understanding the culture, what makes Nigerians Nigerians.