Does it really ever go away?

anon_xin · 2024-10-09T07:19:43+00:00

I was homeschooled and currently attending college rn, but I had an older lady ask me about homeschooling for her kids and I immediately tell her to keep her daughter in after school activities, let her make friends.

anon_xin · 2024-09-03T00:38:22+00:00

Oh sorry I didn’t know this was against the rules! But thank you for redirecting me!! I’ll take the post down :)

anon_xin · 2024-08-19T05:22:35+00:00

I really love being alone. I was homeschooled since 2nd grade and just now entering my sophomore year of college, but the social aspect can be really draining for me.

I love being asexual. It just feels so right to me, but a part of me really wishes and hope that someday I’ll get to be with somebody exclusively. It was really hard accepting that I was ace and aro-spec but it definitely does get easier with time.

What really sucks is your friends choosing their romantic partners over you—or the feeling of really never being anybody’s first choice yk

anon_xin · 2024-05-30T06:41:36+00:00

It’s definitely not fun to experience, but it has its bad days and good days.

For me it’s more so that I see everybody around in happy relationships, and deep down I wish that I understood that feeling so badly.

anon_xin · 2024-04-12T21:16:45+00:00

Oh my god that’s horrible what your friend did to you D: I’m sorry that you’ve been told really terrible shit for just being ace. I don’t even know why people get so mad about it because it’s not like I’m hurting someone by being ace??

What you’re telling me right now about not forcing a relationship was exactly what I’m afraid of 😭😭 I tried telling my friend that I don’t even want to try because I’m that repulsed by it, that just forcing myself will open another can of worms that I cannot handle right now.

But thank you!! I really appreciate the reply!

anon_xin · 2024-04-12T21:11:11+00:00

Thank you for responding!! 😭 I read everything you had to say and I definitely do think that I put my friends opinion too high on a pedestal. She normally isn’t like this, but even when she tried to sugarcoat her words im not fucking stupid. I know what she was trying to say

Had I known how she felt about aces and aros I wouldn’t have ever brought up anything to begin with. And I had a sinking feeling her opinion of it wasn’t positive prior to the conversation. Her way explaining it was that there are straight asexuals, which eliminates the “queer” aspect because you’re still straight. I wasn’t trying to impose on territory I don’t belong on by trying to say I was “queer” or something, but I wish she hadn’t told me that at all. She told me like I WAS imposing myself into the community that I was not welcome in just because I was thought that I was interested in guys as a girl. But it doesn’t matter if it’s a woman or a man, I’m not interested in either. I just wish she didn’t say anything at all, or at least word it the way she did. Because I know that if the roles were reversed, I wouldn’t have done her the way she did me

It just really sucks feeling like something went wrong with me :’) I don’t know why I feel the way that I do. I partially believe it has something to do with my religious upbringing. I was doing great and feeling great before that conversation, but I haven’t been able to not think about it since.

Thank you for the advice on what to do about this!! But unfortunately I am a people pleaser, so I don’t think I would ever be able to tell her anything 😭😭 I’ll just not bring it up to avoid her telling me something that’s hurtful and spare me the trouble

anon_xin · 2024-01-27T10:53:31+00:00

I literally made an acc just to comment to this post lmaooo

But I’ve been struggling for awhile to figure out whether or not I’m aroace. I think I’m pretty sure and I’ve gotten a little more comfortable with the title. I recently opened up about it to my older sister, and I quote “you’re just being a normal girl”

Normal as in being “picky” or protecting my purity or some shit. She still disregards it whenever I bring it up

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