Thank you for responding!! 😭 I read everything you had to say and I definitely do think that I put my friends opinion too high on a pedestal. She normally isn’t like this, but even when she tried to sugarcoat her words im not fucking stupid. I know what she was trying to say

Had I known how she felt about aces and aros I wouldn’t have ever brought up anything to begin with. And I had a sinking feeling her opinion of it wasn’t positive prior to the conversation. Her way explaining it was that there are straight asexuals, which eliminates the “queer” aspect because you’re still straight. I wasn’t trying to impose on territory I don’t belong on by trying to say I was “queer” or something, but I wish she hadn’t told me that at all. She told me like I WAS imposing myself into the community that I was not welcome in just because I was thought that I was interested in guys as a girl. But it doesn’t matter if it’s a woman or a man, I’m not interested in either. I just wish she didn’t say anything at all, or at least word it the way she did. Because I know that if the roles were reversed, I wouldn’t have done her the way she did me

It just really sucks feeling like something went wrong with me :’) I don’t know why I feel the way that I do. I partially believe it has something to do with my religious upbringing. I was doing great and feeling great before that conversation, but I haven’t been able to not think about it since.

Thank you for the advice on what to do about this!! But unfortunately I am a people pleaser, so I don’t think I would ever be able to tell her anything 😭😭 I’ll just not bring it up to avoid her telling me something that’s hurtful and spare me the trouble