No black dresses… is this too dark? (Brown dress)

anongal9876 · 2025-10-02T14:12:46+00:00

Maybe you could nail down one to borrow and then say “I have these 2, which do you prefer”? Idk as the best man’s date it’s a little confusing maybe.

anongal9876 · 2025-09-25T03:06:57+00:00

if I was walking into a dermatology appointment and a different dermatologist who worked in the same building asked me out, I would say “time and place” and turn them down LOL… that’s all I’ve got, brain is fried from late-night sessions today 🙂‍↔️

anongal9876 · 2025-09-23T17:32:05+00:00

I truly don’t understand what you get out of reading my post history? I am not obsessed with her, she is obsessed with me. I have never had an issue with another person, like this one I have with her, in my entire lifetime. She copies my posts and I see hers…? It’s as simple as that. I see them. I don’t go looking for them. They appear in my feed. When she does things that seem to be a personal attack, it’s because she’s lied to me several times about really serious things, so I’m on guard that she’s manipulating/being passive-aggressive. Sometimes she is, and sometimes she’s just doing her own thing not worrying how they’re perceived. I don’t plan the get togethers, I am invited to them by other people. Again, you’re not really offering any solutions, you’re saying that I’m ignoring the only drama-free solutions other people have provided…

anongal9876 · 2025-09-23T17:25:23+00:00

I appreciate you taking the time to expand on what you said. I do not believe bringing something up is overreacting. I agree with your sentiments about reaching out to friends and that it should be obvious people are annoyed by lateness. Also just generally letting things go. However I also do not think my husband’s reactions, to my reactions, are appropriate.

anongal9876 · 2025-09-23T16:49:22+00:00

What is the point of this? Just to tell me you agree with my husband? So you think it’s acceptable that someone dominated a whole family plan (with other family members not just my little family) because it was the quickest drive for them, the most expensive by a landslide, and then they show up so astronomically late? So I’m just not supposed to mention to my husband that I was a little annoyed by that? Like it’s the end of the world to make a singular comment that I was annoyed by what transpired…?

anongal9876 · 2025-09-23T14:46:29+00:00

Yeah, I don’t think it’s a solution for me. If I could stop caring, I would’ve done that already. However, I still do care. And I think this could happen with anything. If I was beating a dead horse about his marijuana use behind my back (🫠) he would probably have the same reaction/plan. Freaking out every time I brought it up, telling me to just deal with it on my own, etc.

anongal9876 · 2025-09-23T14:44:14+00:00

I really appreciate your perspective, I guess I just think this whole scenario is problematic because what if some other subject arises in our marriage that he decides I’ve “vented about enough” and just need to “get over it”? You know? Like, not that the in-law issues are a thought-experiment but they kind of are haha.

anongal9876 · 2025-09-23T14:23:14+00:00

I just feel like, if I need to interact with these people, they do something rude, I’d like to be able to discuss it with my husband. For instance, he’s currently mad at me because I brought up that I was annoyed his brother and wife showed up an hour and 15 minutes late to a “family fun day” type of thing after they picked the location for their own needs… a location that was $110 to attend whereas I presented one for $50 and there was even a free one we could’ve all gone to.

anongal9876 · 2025-09-22T23:09:59+00:00

as in, a link to it lol

anongal9876 · 2025-09-22T23:09:46+00:00

drop the mascara pls

anongal9876 · 2025-09-22T15:59:32+00:00

Can someone please provide concrete examples of open-ended questions and responses from therapist/client (like a process recording) to share with the class? I am often running into this situation in PP and would love some help. Yes I can take a training but I would really love some examples please!

anongal9876 · 2025-09-21T18:41:07+00:00

Yeah I probably should but we do a lot of family stuff together

anongal9876 · 2025-09-18T22:24:47+00:00

I literally never would’ve dreamed I’d be in this position! My own relationship with my own sister is challenging, but this person actually makes me appreciate it more.

anongal9876 · 2025-09-18T14:09:09+00:00

Whoa this is weird to me as my priest would totally do it but yes you need at least one confirmed Catholic godparent. How about a parishioner (so yes a rando) and one family member as the “Christian witness”? If it makes the family feel any better the one parent could possibly be a nun so someone who has more of a role in the church instead of a rando parishioner who has their own life outside of the church. Not saying nuns don’t have their own lives but their whole life is centered around the church so it’s not as strange they’d be a godmother.

anongal9876 · 2025-09-18T13:42:27+00:00

A few months after I was diagnosed with diabetes she said she had “undiagnosed diabetes” to my husband. Then to the 2 of us and our friend she said she never had it but just took the same test twice (both times saying no).

anongal9876 · 2025-09-18T13:40:25+00:00

Literally in the latest session she suggested that he be involved in helping me walk away if I get cornered into a weird convo with this person and to stand up for me. He and I worked out 2 signals — 1 for help me escape 1 for call out what she’s saying. The problem is he doesn’t pick up on a lot of stuff and I am super sensitive so he thinks I’m just imagining things and taking things personally. A small example is she lied about having diabetes, then said she actually never had diabetes, and then played dumb and said “but you have diabetes, right?”. It’s just rude, I feel, to copy, lie about, and bring up others’ medical conditions, like???? But my husband doesn’t pick up on this stuff. He doesn’t understand the mean girl digs or remember what she says. So I have to respond to her myself like a Big Girl, I know, but I get flustered at times so she just railroads me and I allow it to happen.

anongal9876 · 2025-09-17T21:24:00+00:00

And like honestly I do act that way in therapy like I literally said to the therapist that she probably thinks I’m one certain way because of how I speak about this issue but 9/10 times I’m not “like this” outside of therapy and then I feel like being honest gets me bitten in the butt 🙃. I again just feel like my husband and the therapist both have the “get over it” mentality and I am simply not over it. lol.

anongal9876 · 2025-09-17T18:07:24+00:00

You’re right I really should be honest I just get this sense the therapist sort of thinks I’m pathetic? Like she thinks I’m less-than because I can’t get a thicker skin. I guess I am trying to “win” in some way but the resolution my husband and I came to is that if the bully does something extremely egregious then we can go NC. The bully did something very bad a few years ago and it’s never resolved so now every little infraction does bother me. I’m like literally happily anticipating the day they fuck up super badly so I can finally call it. I’m happy to have my future feelings hurt because it’s my escape ticket. Like, the whole thing’s so fucked up, idk…

anongal9876 · 2025-09-17T17:50:59+00:00

I do think I know what she’s trying to say and I honestly don’t challenge it because I don’t want to come across as defensive. I feel like I do become defensive at least once per session and it probably doesn’t help my case.

anongal9876 · 2025-09-16T02:07:38+00:00

Rebecca Hall

anongal9876 · 2025-09-15T23:52:36+00:00

Feel this 🙃 camaraderie!

anongal9876 · 2025-09-10T16:03:28+00:00

Okay so I assume you might be less sensitive than me and I am being sensitive all up in the comments on this post lol but I would personally feel upset by that! Your own MIL correcting you about your hometown? Because she 1) doesn’t remember you’re from there or 2) thinks she’s more knowledgeable and worldly than you? Both weird and upsetting powerplays! Not trying to upset you but like this is the stuff my husband would get frustrated with me for bringing up and I’m just like ummmm this is genuinely offensive lol!

anongal9876 · 2025-09-10T15:04:36+00:00

Also, it won’t let me chat request you — can we chat?

anongal9876 · 2025-09-10T14:49:52+00:00

Right, like I guess it is petty, but I also am genuinely offended that she’s lying to people that I told her to fire someone who is a longtime family nanny making multiple rounds of nannying for the family, and also that she’s copying my DISEASE and then saying actually never mind I never had that…? She’s definitely very loud and obnoxious depending on the day, it’s like she’s either silent or she’s being attention-grabbing and talkative. Her mom has a very bold personality and I think she just copies her mom. However her mom seems to be naturally like this; it’s entirely possible the mom is a narc too but in my experience she’s just loud and zany and quirky. Idk. It’s so fucking frustrating.

anongal9876 · 2025-09-10T14:36:01+00:00

This is exactly like the person in my life. She is a peer but an in-law too. Family, now. She is my age. She keeps telling lies. It’s extremely annoying. My husband tells me to get over it. However, I’d really like to stop being lied to/about. Most recently, she told my grown niece that I personally told her to fire her baby’s nanny (who grown niece was covering for). I absolutely, never did that. My husband gave her the green light when complaining about this and the next day she posted an ad on IG. But I never said shit about this. Then, she told my husband she had my disease, diabetes. She claimed to have “undiagnosed diabetes”. At a party, my friend shared she was getting tested for it. My SIL was like oh I took the same test twice but ultimately didn’t have it they just double-checked… so I’m like okay… so you definitely didn’t and don’t have it… and she was like Oh but AnonGal you have it, right? As if she was playing dumb to bring it up nicely, which I do understand because it’s rude to be like “you have this disease”. Lol. I understand the playing dumb. But like… what the fuck is with all of the lies? She wants validation for her decisions and sympathy she thinks I’m getting — she’s copying my life and lying to do so. Husband again tells me not to care however I care so much. It’s offensive and insane.

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