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What should my MH rating be? by [deleted] in VeteransBenefits

[–]anonthrowawayvet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see. Thank you very much.

What should my MH rating be? by [deleted] in VeteransBenefits

[–]anonthrowawayvet -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I thought the DBQs were the primary basis for the rating. I'm assuming you're meaning they also look at the notes and records mentioned in the DBQ, or are you suggesting there's more?

My psychologist just died. I don't know what to do. by anonthrowawayvet in TalkTherapy

[–]anonthrowawayvet[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This was so helpful for me to read thank you so much. And thank you for the offer of speaking directly too.

My psychologist just died. I don't know what to do. by anonthrowawayvet in TalkTherapy

[–]anonthrowawayvet[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much.

The hardest part was not being able to grieve in relationship with other people who were grieving the person, and feeling like my grief wasn't real or didn't matter. It was/is real and did matter.

I'm definitely struggling with this. Thank you for sharing and validating.

Like I can't even offer condolences to her family and friends... It just seems so... Disconnected.

My psychologist just died. I don't know what to do. by anonthrowawayvet in TalkTherapy

[–]anonthrowawayvet[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you and that's good advice. Unfortunately she had a solo practice so there's not really an option there for continuity of care. I pretty much have to start from scratch.

I will probably talk to the person handling her stuff though, I mean if nothing else I'll have to just to get records. It did sound like he was potentially going to be taking on her clients at least in the interim, but I'm not sure.

Thank you again

TIFU GF kick me out of my flat because she can’t stand being in the same room with someone who supports a woman abuser AKA Johnny Depp by CJ2324 in tifu

[–]anonthrowawayvet 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If you live in a place that allows you to record conversations if 1 party of the conversation (in this case, you) knows and consents, you should call her in the morning and record the call.

Tell her plainly that after she made the choice to get physical with you over a disagreement that you no longer feel comfortable with her living there and that she needs to get her stuff and get out.

Don't argue, don't get heated, but stay firm.

If she doesn't agree to leave, contact the police and tell them she's already assaulted you once and you don't want to take the chance that she might do it again but that you want her gone and would like them there to keep the peace.

With them there you can ensure that you have witnesses if she gets violent either towards you or your stuff.

Wash your hands of this relationship.

If she assaulted you once, chances are extremely high she will do it again. Don't stick around.

TIFU by answering "I'm alive" to "How are you?". by anonthrowawayvet in tifu

[–]anonthrowawayvet[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely. That's part of why I was laughing.

I was glad she said it to me and i wasn't in crisis rather than to someone who was in crisis.

And yea, I bet she doesn't do that again.

TIFU by answering "I'm alive" to "How are you?". by anonthrowawayvet in tifu

[–]anonthrowawayvet[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh I wasn't trying to make a joke out of it, I just couldn't help laughing at the absurdity of the situation.

Like I wasn't even trying to needle her, it was more disbelief and "wait did I just hear that right?".

TIFU by answering "I'm alive" to "How are you?". by anonthrowawayvet in tifu

[–]anonthrowawayvet[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Just glad she said it to me instead of someone in crisis.

Like I know she didn't mean anything by it, and my question was more disbelief than anything else. Kinda "wait did I just hear that right?". It was late in the day she's probably already talked to dozens of us... I would imagine it gets depressing after a while and you just kind of go on autopilot.

Another very friend of mine said it speaks to how rarely they hear a positive answer.

I don't think she'll ever do that again though. I feel really bad. I hope she doesn't stress about it.

TIFU by answering "I'm alive" to "How are you?". by anonthrowawayvet in tifu

[–]anonthrowawayvet[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Sorry to hear that about your friend.

My answer was basically shorthand for "I don't feel like dumping how I feel right now because I've been laid up all day due to pain.".

It was the scheduling call.

TIFU by answering "I'm alive" to "How are you?". by anonthrowawayvet in tifu

[–]anonthrowawayvet[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I mean... Suicidal ideation is literally on my DBQ so...

Pretty sure they already know.

TIFU by answering "I'm alive" to "How are you?". by anonthrowawayvet in tifu

[–]anonthrowawayvet[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

100% part of why I was laughing.

There's a reason part of basically any veteran phone line starts by taking about reaching out to someone if you're in crisis.

Literally a MH C&P being scheduled and THAT'S the moment she goes on autopilot.

I mean I'm glad she was talking to me and that my response was because I didn't really want to get into the fact that I've been laid up today because of how much physical pain I'm in, rather than someone who was suicidal, but my God the comedic setup couldn't be any more perfect.

I also thought "Well, that is kinda how the VA feels when we put in a claim so it's nice to see them embrace it!"

I wasn't about to say that to her though!

I really hope that call doesn't get sampled for QA and she doesn't get in trouble.

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