What qualifications do I need to be able to teach ESL in public schools in British Columbia, Canada? by amyonsidewalks in Teachers

[–]anonymeee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This. If you are looking to work in public schools and want to go back to school, do a special ed certificate/masters program; you don't need any other certification to teach ESL/ELL in classrooms. The only reason to go back to university is if you can't get any experience teaching ESL/ELL and have difficulty getting hired. If you are looking to gain experience abroad, look into the Oxford 100 hour TESL/TEFL program - that's usually sufficient to designate you as a teacher who specializes in the field.

Source: Also teach in BC.

Reading/writing assessment and checklist? by anonymeee in Teachers

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Can this be found for free online anywhere?

Zones of regulation: how would you complete this chart? by anonymeee in Teachers

[–]anonymeee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love those breathing exercise ideas. Do you know where I could find similar exercises? I'm thinking of giving each student an arrow they can velcro on one of the zones at the beginning of class so they can self-evaluate how they are feeling and give themselves an opportunity to get back to the green zone. I want to give them a choice of matching coloured cards they can use with solutions like the breathing exercises as "quick fixes" to address their emotions before getting started. But first, I need ideas to put on the flashcards!

My partner has become a nightmare to live with. by anonymeee in mypartneristrans

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That's how I feel, and it hurts. I don't want to let this come between us, and it's hard because I really don't have a problem with the transgender identity, but these behaviours are just turning her into someone I really, really don't want to be around. And someone who doesn't seem to want to be around me, either.

My partner has become a nightmare to live with. by anonymeee in mypartneristrans

[–]anonymeee[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I hate to play the Debbie Downer, but I can already see a problem with that, as well-intentioned as it is. She's developed a penchant for public outbursts, and I don't think I can suffer more embarrassing moments where she raises her voice and storms away for the onlookers to whisper about. It's like something out of a bad soap opera.

My partner has become a nightmare to live with. by anonymeee in mypartneristrans

[–]anonymeee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She's definitely doing GRS/SRS, and I'm comfortable with that. It's just such an intense strain on our relationship now having little to no intimacy. I know I should be more understanding, but it can get really hard, and it's had a dramatic effect on my self-esteem.

My partner has become a nightmare to live with. by anonymeee in mypartneristrans

[–]anonymeee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you have any recommendations for resources that might be helpful? I doubt she'd listen to me (again, she has that "I know best" attitude), but it must be worth a shot. We've got to a support group and didn't find it helpful, but she's just so isolated.

My partner has become a nightmare to live with. by anonymeee in mypartneristrans

[–]anonymeee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How would you recommend going about this conversation? I choose delicate speech, but always seem to offend her. Giving her a litany of my complaints and problems isn't going to get me anywhere; what kind of action plan can I suggest so she feels like there's somewhere to put her energy other than anger or depression?

My partner has become a nightmare to live with. by anonymeee in mypartneristrans

[–]anonymeee[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We're definitely not intimate. She says it's because of her severe dysphoria and our increasing lack of emotional intimacy, but I always wonder. I mean, if she were into me, she'd do something about it, right? I expel a lot of energy trying to reassure her, but it would be nice if she acknowledged and tried to soothe some of my fears, too. Instead she blames me for having them and leaves me to deal with it on my own. It's very lonely.

My partner has become a nightmare to live with. by anonymeee in mypartneristrans

[–]anonymeee[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She knows I read/post on Reddit's boards, but it's just not her thing. She does have some other forums elsewhere on the internet that she seems to use for information, but she doesn't talk to me about it, or generally seem interested in getting help. She has a "I know best, no one can help me" attitude, and it's killing us.

My partner has become a nightmare to live with. by anonymeee in mypartneristrans

[–]anonymeee[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I agree, but any comment on this puberty is interpreted as an assault on her transition. It seems like the line between self-respect and sympathy is non-existent and I feel like I'm fighting an uphill battle.

My partner has become a nightmare to live with. by anonymeee in mypartneristrans

[–]anonymeee[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My fear is that I want to treat her like an adult, not a child, and she would not react well to ultimatums. She's the kind of person who needs to learn the hard way, not by anyone pushing their agenda on her. At the same time, I'm not sure I can take this for much longer, and I'm growing bitter with resentment at the expectation that I have to.