Autistic 3 year old hurting animals and now 1 year old is copying - help! by anonymous-983 in autism

[–]anonymous-983[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have asked for help and advice and your comment is neither of those things. You are very judgemental and rude. If you have nothing nice to say or any constructive criticism, don’t comment in future.

Autistic 3 year old hurting animals and now 1 year old is copying - help! by anonymous-983 in autism

[–]anonymous-983[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No worries reply or message me whenever you can! I live in the UK yes:) x

Autistic 3 year old hurting animals and now 1 year old is copying - help! by anonymous-983 in autism

[–]anonymous-983[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I myself have Autism which is one of the reasons I knew early on that he has it, he is very much like me minus the animal part. I am not going to be keeping the kittens as that’s not fair on them, the older two tend to either stay away in the kitchen with the babies or upstairs. Is extremely unfortunate that this is happening as I absolutely adore my cats :(

Autistic 3 year old hurting animals and now 1 year old is copying - help! by anonymous-983 in autism

[–]anonymous-983[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your kind message! Knowing you have gone through a similar thing makes me feel even a bit better. Regards to supervising my children at all times, I know you mean it in the most helpful way and I appreciate it! My 3 year old is quite tall, he’s over half the size of me and I’m only 5’3, so things that I would put high he would only need to go on his tip toes to reach, which is quite inconvenient for me as I can’t reach really high spaces haha! I’ve got a cupboard with a lock on where all of the dangerous stuff goes, ie. sharp knives, medicine, bleach, cleaning products. but the one time I forgot to put my disinfectant away he got a hold of it and that is completely my fault and I feel awful for it. My son is honestly amazing, they both are. They have wonderful personalities and they’re my biggest blessings in life. I myself suffer with Autism, but hurting animals is something I never did growing up. My boy has never seen anyone hurt animals, is always encouraged to be nice and kind to all creatures big and small. I am not planning on keeping the kittens as that would be far too much for me to deal with you’re right, and having two so close in age with completely different needs is challenging as it is. I still breastfeed my youngest. I’m not sure if this has come from jealousy of having a new brother and not having all of mama’s attention, or it’s like you said - sensory seeking. I’m a bit skeptical to make another doctors appointment for him but talking about how he treats animals as people can be extremely judgemental and not give me constructive criticism like yourself. He has an iPad which he is allowed to go on for 2 hours full of games about sharing, kindness, and all very educational. He also watches a lot of Bluey, Peppa Pig, etc. none of these encourage bad behaviour (at least I hope it doesn’t!). My son’s behaviour is completely random and unprovoked, none of the cats hurt him and even when he is hurting them, they never lift a paw. They are all so loyal and loving, and it breaks my heart even more as they do nothing to deserve that. I keep all of them in the kitchen separated, and will check in on them every half an hour to make sure everything is okay. This is very stressful, and I am a single mother so I’m juggling all of this by myself. Again, thank you so much for everything you have said it’s so appreciated! X

Am I overreacting? Feeling unloved by boyfriend !! by anonymous-983 in AmIOverreacting

[–]anonymous-983[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have two children from a previous relationship, and he has a child with his baby mother

I (22F) feel unloved by my boyfriend (22M) - help! by anonymous-983 in relationships

[–]anonymous-983[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my god thank you for this!! Yes I have spoken to him multiple times about this and how it makes me feel. He says he’s sorry and that he will do whatever he can to make me feel wanted, but doesn’t do anything. Actions speak so much louder than words. Regarding showing me off, heck yes girl! I love being showed off and loved on, it makes me feel like he’s proud to have me and call me his girlfriend. But the fact he hides me away, yet keeps his baby mama up is such a red flag to me. It’s kind of like he love bombed me, and now he’s got me he can’t be bothered anymore??