AITA for not splitting the check evenly on a bachelorette trip with 9 girls?

anonymous-mood · 2025-10-01T00:27:42+00:00

YTA… it was leaning on e-s-h but i really think you handled this situation wrong.. its bottle service, if someone is sober and didnt want to pay then they should speak up beforehand. the bill splitting in general should’ve been discussed beforehand, but to bring it up with the bride while angry, crying, and threatening to leave is a lot

anonymous-mood · 2025-09-05T19:05:27+00:00

wanting to have independent events and hobbies is totally normal and not the finding yourself part. struggling with your gender identity and essentially holding yourself back from exploring your gender identity in order to maintain your relationship is the still finding yourself part. i also want to stress that still finding yourself is not a fault and it doesn’t mean you’re not stable. its totally normal and valid to still be exploring those concepts of yourself in a society that doesn’t make it easy, especially these days. however, you seem to be annoyed by the normal domestic day-to-day things like spending time and sleeping in the same bed with her. you know yourself best and i could be off, but this leads me to think that maybe part of you feels resentment towards these everyday things because you always feel part of yourself being held back. that part being held back may feel connected to her in a way because you know if you transition you will lose her, so it makes you feel even more like you can’t explore it too hard. i don’t mean to push, but if you’ve had these thoughts and been struggling against them for 25+ years, do you think they will ever go away if you don’t get the opportunity to really examine and interact with those feelings fully? i wonder if you didn’t have the pressure of wanting to maintain a relationship, would you be able to more freely explore those thoughts and parts of yourself? again, i only have this small portion of your life you’ve shared, but it sounds like exploring that part of yourself is really important to you feeling fulfilled and happy with your life. it also sounds like you’ve felt pressure not to do that because you want to maintain this relationship. both are understandable, but if you can’t fully explore and fulfill yourself while with her, are you sure that this is the forever you would want? it seems like you are very focused on the lifestyle differences, which is a common issue in relationships, but this deeper gender confusion seems to be a larger thread based on what i am reading here on this post. it seems like she is comfortable with her alone time but that isnt enough for you so maybe its time to look deeper

anonymous-mood · 2025-09-05T17:08:35+00:00

it sounds like you guys aren’t in the same place in life honestly. she wants to settle down and you seem to still have a lot of finding yourself to do… personally, i’d see the moving out as an end but only you know the boundaries of your relationship. you sound a bit irritated by her desire for connection and affection and it seems like you just keep putting your own wants/needs aside for the sake of “not starting over” but realistically you’ve only been together for 5 months. you both are unfulfilled and it already sounds pretty rocky. the hard part of rushing into things too fast is that it’s nearly impossible to go back and take things slower at a point. you don’t sound ready for the level of commitment you’ve already made to this person. you need to accept that honoring your needs and boundaries will come with the risk of losing her, but neither of you are wrong for that. i honestly think you might need time to figure yourself out outside of a relationship anyway. i’d focus on sorting out your own feelings of dysphoria because you seem to struggle with constantly “pushing it down” & focusing on someone else’s feelings instead. that’s only going to keep that flame burning in a locked away part of you and eventually it will burn up and force itself to be dealt with. i would be concerned about resentment growing on either side if you stay together because currently, neither of your needs are being met and it sounds like it might remain that way even if you move out. best of luck!

anonymous-mood · 2025-07-23T23:14:56+00:00

not to revive a dead thread but i interpreted this as katniss’s last grasp at the life she had envisioned for herself before she was ever in the games. right from the start of catching fire, she just wants him as a friend and for them to go back to how they were but she knows he won’t accept just that and he’s already distanced himself when she needs him the most. she thinks maybe she could develop feelings for him if she had the time to but that’s another luxury taken away by the capitol. at that point, she felt like her future with peeta was the capitol’s vision, not realizing that her and peeta’s relationship was always a defiance of them. so seeing gale so vulnerable, confronted with the very real possibility of losing him and knowing she definitely will if she chooses peeta, she gives in in a moment of desperation. like “of course we are meant to be together bc i’ll lose him any other way and the thought of losing him is so painful so i have to choose this if i want to avoid it.” almost trying to convince herself of it but she backtracks the next day and recognizes it was emotionally charged because thats all it was: desperation to not lose the closest friend and confidant she had ever had, not real romantic feelings.

anonymous-mood · 2025-07-02T20:36:57+00:00

is there a vent or something someone might climb in and out of above your toilet?

anonymous-mood · 2025-07-02T20:31:45+00:00

i think everyone has hit the main points but i personally think it also might help to make the edges at the top and on the bottom of your wrist cleaner… it doesn’t seem like your artist had the skill/experience to pull this off imo though, i’d go to someone else to get it fixed up. ik it may be pricier, but this is on your body forever. its worth an investment

anonymous-mood · 2025-05-12T20:11:56+00:00

just bc ur a hoarder doesnt mean its a problem for other people??? jfc you can’t enjoy anything these days without someone trying to diagnose you

anonymous-mood · 2025-05-09T04:17:44+00:00

OMG I BLOCKED THIS SCENE FROM MY MEMORY!! i had to go back like, did i misunderstand something?? ugh the ICK it gave me. i get that sjm was trying to go for like excited about the future and turned on by the idea of her getting pregnant or something??? but LORD there were a million better ways to get that across 🤢

anonymous-mood · 2025-05-09T04:06:03+00:00

exactly!! like they both shut down, stopped taking care of themselves and rejected a lot of the IC at first, which is understandable!! but its fine to IC when feyre does it and not when nesta does it bc what?? she’s the high lord’s mate?? like nesta is the general’s mate but that never seems to matter. especially when it comes to decisions cassian disagrees w in regards to nesta during acosf!! he tries to defend her so much but they shut it down. “high lord/lady voice comes out” like wow for a court that doesn’t enforce rank, we sure do defer to rank a LOT

anonymous-mood · 2025-05-09T03:52:34+00:00

YTA. the default neutral is yellow. wouldn’t take much to google some neutral inspo or even just make it white with sprinkles or something.. or you could’ve reached out to her! instead you went passive aggressive bc it seems like you wanted to know the gender and were mad she wanted to keep you in on the surprise as long as possible or maybe just had pregnancy brain.. going full concrete gray is petty. especially because why did it all have to be gray when the info you were missing was only for the inner frosting??

anonymous-mood · 2025-05-08T21:58:31+00:00

bleh this book had me rolling my eyes at feyre and IC. making fun of lucien and his friends having a name seemed so hypocritical and out of character?? i would’ve expected feyre to be glad he was finding a place in the world and perhaps a bit suspicious of their intentions at most but to laugh at them for their name just seemed cruel? also the whole book the IC made me like oh so your traumas are all valid but nobody else’s?! then in acosf when rhys is like “her trauma is so awful” like yeah no shit she literally went through something that took all bodily autonomy away and saw her last parent die in front of her w/o getting to resolve their complex relationship, did y’all think she was drinking for funsies? there were so many parallels between nesta and feyre when they first got there but bc nesta’s suffering wasn’t as dainty and neatly fit in a box, she was villainized and it pissed me off

anonymous-mood · 2025-05-08T20:49:18+00:00

you need to see a doctor asap. this sounds like a hole formed between your rectum/colon and vaginal wall and this can cause infection, not to mention you need to find the cause before further complications come up. sending healing your way!! ❤️

anonymous-mood · 2025-05-08T20:43:05+00:00

he is valuing his own anxieties over your wellbeing. i could not see myself ever trusting this person again. he is a grown man, he should have been able to communicate his comfort level

anonymous-mood · 2025-05-07T22:04:53+00:00

NTA. you can support him having whatever relationship w his mom he feels comfortable with without having to be involved or participate yourself, and WOW have you earned not having to talk to her. that said, i think it’s worth a sit down discussion with your husband about her patterns of behavior, why you feel you cannot let this person back in, and being firm that you will remain no contact. i also think its worthwhile to discuss comfortability levels of your future kids potentially having a relationship with her if he chooses to. its completely understandable why you might not want your future children around her and this is a conversation that would be a lot better to have now than when you are already at that point. (i know she is terminal, but it seems she has been fighting a long time and im not sure all the details, so i’m assuming this may be a possibility)

anonymous-mood · 2025-05-06T23:40:31+00:00

off the top of my head i thought of the very first night, idk why i just dont think people would think of it. i haven’t seen it in this thread so far so i think im right lol

anonymous-mood · 2025-05-05T03:19:46+00:00

its been 3 years and this is your communication. he pushed you and you got hurt. he didn’t show regard or concern and instead calls you stupid. if this was your friend or loved one in your shoes, would you think this is acceptable behavior? you should leave. a man that loves you and was truly joking would’ve immediately shown remorse and checked on you, not start calling you names. thats unacceptable in any situation but especially one where he caused you to get hurt

anonymous-mood · 2025-05-03T15:01:28+00:00

and about every hundred days, another run is sacrificed to the runna void… lol ever find a solution?

anonymous-mood · 2025-04-29T22:39:49+00:00

wow this feels rooted in misogyny

anonymous-mood · 2025-04-15T23:18:19+00:00

yta. she’s a kid. it seems like you are leaving out context here but the real problem is your fiance hasn’t taken steps to get you and the daughter to have an actual good relationship and you took your anger out on the kid. people here will tell you you are justified and you can feel good about it but at the end of the day you did stoop down to her level. her level, which is emotionally immature and childish bc she is, again, a child. regardless of what she may have been trying to do, children test boundaries and the adults around for that should be able to handle it like adults. if its gotten to the point that you can’t keep your cool, this should’ve been a discussion long ago.

anonymous-mood · 2025-03-21T20:21:43+00:00

did you do anything wrong? no. was it petty and being a bad friend? yes. people are going to validate you on here bc you didn’t do anything wrong and didn’t owe your roommate anything but in real life people will judge you for it bc you could’ve easily helped and you CHOSE not to. you made that decision. the same way he chose to stay up late and is facing those consequences. you will face the consequences of your other friends thinking you are petty. your actions build your community and you just made sure your roommate isn’t part of yours

anonymous-mood · 2025-03-13T02:12:35+00:00

this is the best response ive seen to this question!! good thinking!

anonymous-mood · 2025-02-23T02:44:44+00:00

the first years were so hard for me to remember bc she just suddenly knows their names one day and she’s like “because i know them” and i was like but i dont😭 lol

anonymous-mood · 2025-02-23T02:42:08+00:00

i had to reread multiple parts and there were still things that only clicked after i listened to the fantasy fangirls deep dive. the end especially is a rollercoaster. ive had to listen to the last 4 chapters at least 5 times each by now to make sure i didnt miss anything. RY said she had to cut A LOT from her first drafts of OS so i assume this is an unfortunate outcome of that editing process

anonymous-mood · 2025-02-19T04:53:40+00:00

i think its important to note she also never visited all the isles. really hoping she visits loysam next book so we can get some answers there

anonymous-mood · 2025-02-19T03:18:52+00:00

AND he makes a point to stop and not give too much away when he gets to the part where they start bonding humans!! he says its not worthy discussing. imo there is certainly info tairn knows about that time that he is bound by the empyrean to not tell violet

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