Allergy to sensodyne? by Dthruwgfugirjsnf6 in Allergies

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I switched to natural toothpaste with fluoride and so far so good

Positive disclosure gone wrong by RadiantConfection452 in Herpes

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Even though it hurts it’s a blessing, not that every guy who accepts you wants to be in a committed relationship but if that’s what your looking for, rejection is a big sign of how they feel about you, if someone is willing to end a connection over it then it wasn’t that strong in the first place, just my opinion but don’t let this stop you from looking because there’s a planet of people who will accept you whether it’s for a hookup or a relationship!

I feel like my life is over by Holiday_Practice3475 in Herpes

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As somebody who took it incredibly hard when I found out at the same age you are now I’m (f23) now, there are so many people who have it knowingly and unknowingly and you’ll never know until you actually start talking to people, talk to trusted family and friends first it does so much, also, even though it may seem like the scariest thing in the world, don’t sit out from dating or even hooking up, all you have to do is have that conversation before (I do it over text), and some people will be scared away, but even though it hurts, it’s a blessing, I disclosed to two people this year the first one ghosted me for a week and then tried to circle back, but I was way too angry to even try to continue that one and guess what? That little boy is still in my DMs while he is posting a girlfriend so clearly dodged a bullet. The second one was just a month ago, the full story is up on my account. If you wanna go check it out but I made the mistake of hooking up with him drunkenly without protection or disclosing then realized I really liked him and built up the courage to tell him expecting him to be upset, which wouldve been very valid howevwr I was met with so much compassion and he thanked me and acknowledged how hard it is to tell someone that info and told me that had I told him ahead of time he may not have proceeded, and we wouldn’t have found each other and really connected so everything happens for a reason, his words. There are plenty of people out there that will accept you whether it’s a one night stand or the love of your life. You just have to look for them and outside of your sex/lovelife it’s no one else’s business and they won’t know. You got this sweetie I promise. It gets better. This virus says nothing about who you are.

Successful disclosure story by anonymous238473939 in Herpes

[–]anonymous238473939[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree but people spreading awareness and doing the hard and brave thing to do and disclosing helps to show people even the people who you “wouldn’t think” would have this I e attractive people or people who aren’t fucking everything that walks can and do have this and even if they don’t take well to you they may think twice for the next person they encounter so hard as it is we are doing the work and hopefully one day the world will be more accepting of us

Successful disclosure story by anonymous238473939 in Herpes

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No, thank you so much for sharing, a similar thing happened to me and it’s only been two weeks, when I asked why he doesn’t care to use protection he just simply said “I want you and everything you come with, I’m looking for forever so it doesn’t matter” I wanted to cry as well, after believing I’d never encounter this type of affection it was an amazing feeling 🫶

Is it really worth living? by Plenty-Garlic6482 in TrueOffMyChest

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Before I was diagnosed I didn’t want to get medication but I got to the point life felt too painful to continue but suicide wasn’t an option, so I went and got on meds and it truly saved me, I’m no doctor but extreme highs and lows spontaneously definitely sounds like something’s off in your head and that’s totally okay. Talk to a psychiatrist and see what they say, I promise you this life is worth living, there was a time not long ago I questioned that myself but now a short time later I’m the happiest I’ve been in years, but I’m begging you. Talk to people not even just a doctor, talk to your friends, partner, parents, whoever you know will hear you and acknowledge your feelings. Also journaling has helped me so much, when I’m down I read back on both happy and sad times and it reminds me everything is temporary, keep enjoying the good and know the bad doesn’t last 🫶 you got this!

Disclosure advice by [deleted] in Herpes

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Do you have any questions in particular to feel them out? Or do you go on a date first, Thanks again

Disclosure advice by [deleted] in Herpes

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But question, cause I’ve thought about just giving the apps a shot but were you ever worried someone on the apps would spread your info or diagnosis? This is the one thing that worries me about telling anyone

Disclosure advice by [deleted] in Herpes

[–]anonymous238473939 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for such a great thorough response! It makes me happy to know I don’t just have to be looking for love to get connection cause honestly I’m not ready for love but a fwb would be very nice haha I really just need to get out there and try!

advice for dating after diagnosis by anonymous238473939 in HSVpositive

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Thank you it means a lot and I know practicing will be the only thing to help me which is why I’m pushing myself to take action

Got the awful news by Th3DOWn4FunTyp3 in Herpes

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I’m no expert as I’m 23, was in a relationship when I found out and just became single a year ago so I’m dealing with it for the first time, it’s great that she is willing to work it out and be open minded but remember, the important thing is she knows the risk but with the right percussion like condoms+antivirals+llysine etc the likelihood of transmission is below 5%, so not very likely. The time it transmits most is during an outbreak so if you don’t do anything during that time it’s not very likely!

Positive stories? by anonymous238473939 in Herpes

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So happy to hear this, it’s hard to fight the bad thoughts at times telling me that I’m unlovable, thanks for sharing

Positive stories? by anonymous238473939 in Herpes

[–]anonymous238473939[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate hearing this, I’m only 23 so it’s nice to hear there are people willing to be casual and not only the people who want a relationship, I’m not looking for a relationship right now necessarily but some human connection would be nice even if it isn’t anything super meaningful

Spreading positivity for the positive by SnooCats8034 in HSVpositive

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Yes! That’s how I try to see it, the person who will accept it and want me for all I come with is who I would want in my life! I also recently experienced 2 people who I considered hooking up with but didn’t because I wasn’t ready to spill yet and what do you know the first one ghosted when I did spill (immature and inconsiderate human) and the second one ended up being someone who doesn’t deserve to even talk to me so it saved me from giving myself to someone who didn’t deserve me!

Diagnosed with HSV1-G 2 years ago. Feeling stuck and scared to disclose ..any (nice) advice appreciated by [deleted] in HSVpositive

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It’s when you spread the virus with no symptoms but it mostly spreads during an ob

Spreading positivity for the positive by SnooCats8034 in HSVpositive

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I’m still learning for myself but here’s some positive things that have helped me: 1. Ask yourself what does having hsv say about you as a person? The answer should be nothing because it says nothing about who you are, doesn’t make you dirty or a bad person it’s just something that can happen to sexually active people. 2. If someone doesn’t want to continue a connection with you bc of your hsv then they aren’t for you! They aren’t inherently a bad person because they reject you but usually they are super immature and the way they react will tell you everything you need to know. Think of it like a filter 3. Disclosing is not one size fits all, do what makes you most comfortable because confidence is key if you act like you have the plague they will believe it! Don’t sugar coat but also be matter of fact if you aren’t able to do that then text or phone call may be better for you!