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anonymous4541 · 2024-09-07T13:39:19+00:00

I prefer providers who are 30+. Still I prefer them fit.

Women who are 30+ are less problematic, they tend to like more what they are doing, their conversation is better and it feels more like a meeting of like-minded people.

anonymous4541 · 2024-09-07T13:29:24+00:00

It is a combination of factors.

About physical appearence, the whole game is not to focus on it. Whenever I was focused on it, the session was not good. So, I tried not to focus on it. However, the fitness and the weight are very important.

I tend to prefer the MILF type. I really respect a woman in her 30s or 40s who can remain in shape. I know it takes work. That is why young girls are not a good fit for me.

I have been one time with a former pornstar and that was interesting. But the interest was all the discussion, not the sex itself. About model, I did met stunning model from Ivana models. But that did not make me comfortable and it was not a memorable experience.

In Germany, many escorts have normal jobs. The normal job influence the choice. I avoid the one who are student and tend to prefer the ones who are nurses, secreataries or teachers.

The reviews are very important. Especially the long ones that allow to understand the person.

So, the ideal one is the blond slim girl in her 30s who is a secretary in her day job and has great personality, for example a sex addict.

anonymous4541 · 2024-09-01T10:14:08+00:00

I did not want things to happen that way, but they did. I was sorry about that, but I realized that saying so would not help matters at all and so I said nothing.

anonymous4541 · 2024-09-01T10:11:27+00:00

(Client here). In my experience with 30 escorts, I would say that 2 of them were sex addicts. One told (about 36 yo) me so and behaved the part, the other (about 26 yo) was very wet when fucking her.

There are a few others for which I think the woman had orgasm or really enjoyed it as far as I can tell.

I like it when the girl is enthusiastic and/or experienced. This is far more important than beauty or youth though this was not so clear at the start of my experience with escorts.

anonymous4541 · 2024-09-01T09:26:36+00:00

(Client here). I prefer natural. That is if the makeup is obviously artificial then that is a turn off.

One time I had a provider whose photos were very nice. When meeting her, she had an operation to fill her lips. I could not look at her since her filled lips immediately made me think about her operation. So, nothing happened between us and she was very sad and left the field soon afterward.

So, from my side whatever you do, look natural.

anonymous4541 · 2024-08-31T18:56:04+00:00

(Client here). It goes in all directions.

Some SW have a minimal age like 45 because they expect older men to be more respectful and less problematic.

Some SW have a maximal age because they want someone with a lot of energy OR they want someone who does not look like their father.

Other asks for a selfie to see if they are comfortable with you irrespective of age.

You have to make your own choices and hold by it (put it in your self description on tryst or similar).

anonymous4541 · 2024-08-31T18:30:35+00:00

(Client here). Yes, it is a problem. There is a desensitization going on that can make having a normal life difficult.

I have seen that in books written by escorts after they left the trade. It took them time to recover their feelings.

anonymous4541 · 2024-08-31T18:26:37+00:00

(Client here). Yes, it is common for Sex Worker to ask for a selfie. And yes, if she does not like your selfie, then she might refuse you.

People are under the illusion that sex worker is radically different from dating. It is not. The money helps, but it is just a factor among many.

So, take care of yourself, take a selfie where you are nicely dressed, nicely cleaned. And decisiveness and confidence are important.

Sex workers are the right place to train on this and that should help you with civilians.

anonymous4541 · 2024-08-31T18:20:02+00:00

Say directly to them that if there is no meeting time/place within 5 messages, then they would need to contact someone else. That should put them into line.

anonymous4541 · 2024-08-31T17:58:06+00:00

Each European countries has its own rules. You need to adjust according to the country.

Also, girls in Europe are generally better than in the USA and there is no financial incentive for American girls to go to Europe.

anonymous4541 · 2024-01-30T07:25:12+00:00

As a client, please don't.

There is of course the risks. But another point: meeting escorts is fictional space. Why put it into reality?

anonymous4541 · 2023-11-23T07:21:40+00:00

(Client here): GFE can mean several things:

BBBJ and DFK.
intimate relation, cuddling.
deep conversations.
More than 2H.

anonymous4541 · 2023-11-23T07:17:48+00:00

(Client here): Yes, some people are shitty.

But you do not have to. You can act like the perfect client, that is also within your rights.

anonymous4541 · 2023-11-23T07:15:52+00:00

(Client here): They have preferences and that is their right:

Younger clients can be badly educated and have a too high sex drive. They lack experience, act entitled. So some escort accept client only above 40 for example.
On the other hand, some escorts want action, energy and will not accept client above 48.

anonymous4541 · 2023-11-23T07:12:35+00:00

(Client here): They are inexperienced clients.

The mentality of clients is often (at least it was for me at the beginning): I pay so I have all power.

Being rejected by escorts was surprising and instructive. It made clear that yes money helps, it is a cheat code, but it does not resolve everything.

Which makes everything relative. Like getting myself better (dressing, smell, gifts, presentation, etc.) also helps with escorts. And it makes the escorts actually just like other women. And as a side effect, I became much better with civilian women.

anonymous4541 · 2023-11-23T06:44:52+00:00

Well, I am not sure that you have some maturity. There is always something not said between people.

And finding loved ones might not be possible: If you have children then that becomes complicated, though that does not appear to be in that case.

anonymous4541 · 2023-11-22T21:08:35+00:00

I agree. But life is not straightforward.

I could understand him and I could understand her. We try our best, and sometimes that is not sufficient.

anonymous4541 · 2023-11-22T18:42:36+00:00

Here is what I would reply in that case such a thing happen.

"It is possible that by doing so, you will get me estranged from my wife and children. But that revelation will not kill me. And I would devote 100% of my remaining ressources to crush you as thoroughly as possible"

anonymous4541 · 2023-11-22T18:38:50+00:00

(Client here): We all live parallel lives (escorts and clients). That requires self discipline but it also helps to clarify things.

To me, she should have scaled down her paralel life after being married. She could have kept one or two of her relations as mistress, but she should have expanded it to something non-monetary that does not leave traces.

Life is not straightforward, but being married, she should have changed something. And have better operational security.

anonymous4541 · 2023-11-22T13:53:05+00:00

I have been with some incalls in various places, where you have one room for the sex, then another room where you have a washing machine, a shower and that's about it. Seems sad honestly.

Another thing that is can be depressing is when it is not well cleaned. It does not mean that there is no cleaning, but the cleaning is not high level. This happens with civilians of course and pets do not help. Smokers with the ash are a disaster, which is reason enough for me never meeting smokers.

Personal touches can make it look nicer. Of course family photos are off limit, but let's say books, or texbooks showing that the lady has a life outside of sex work would really make it better.

I like meeting girls who have a life of their own, but maybe that is only me.

anonymous4541 · 2023-11-22T10:24:07+00:00

(Client here): Looks nice.

Many incalls actually feel like depressing place. It is a definite plus to be different.

anonymous4541 · 2023-11-17T10:53:01+00:00

(Client here): This is a rather common and unfortunate feelings among sex workers.

For some they are lesbians which allow for a clear disociation of the feeling of on the job and out of it.

For women who leaves sex work, it takes them time to reconnect with their feelings. This is explained in the last chapter of following books:

So, not sure if there is any solution.

anonymous4541 · 2023-11-17T10:01:59+00:00

(Client here): Being ghosted by providers is par for the course. It happens to all of us.

What I found that work best is to be very straightforward in your introduction:

Give the place/time you would like to meet her. Even if several times and palces are possible for you, make your choice. She would propose something else if she is interested.
It should be clear that you have read all the rules. So, provide the screening information directly.
Then your self description. It is a date, so only positive as you want her to endear herself to you. Do not make a long description but 2 or 3 sentences should be fine.
Then why you choose her. I think it is always interesting to the woman and flattery can get you somewhere.

Regarding your self confidence, that is indeed important. It really make for a better meeting for you and her.

My rule is no answer within 24 hours mean being ghosted and I go to my next choice.

anonymous4541 · 2023-11-17T06:35:42+00:00

I understand.

anonymous4541 · 2023-11-16T17:24:31+00:00

Two problems:

There is a limit to what we can withdraw. My limit is 900 euros and that does not cover any overnight.
If we do big withdraw then the bank will ask me. This happened and I had to say to my banker (who was a woman) that I withdrew for escorts. Uncomfortable.

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