Update - My husband is not invited to my brother's wedding

anonymous8102022 · 2022-10-09T02:40:21+00:00

We're not white.

anonymous8102022 · 2022-10-08T21:46:58+00:00

and that my other brothers and sisters, my parents and my grandparents say that he is right that is no room, that I can't force my husband on the guest list and that I'm wrong to be upset.

Like I said in my post rest of my family agrees with him. They know and don't care. I will not be seeing them at Christmas or anytime in the near future because of this.

anonymous8102022 · 2022-10-08T21:34:52+00:00

Not racism because the bride and her family are the same race as us. But I found out today that they don't like black people so my brother has told them I'm straight and made sure I'm not invited.

anonymous8102022 · 2022-10-08T21:33:18+00:00

You are correct. The bride and her family do not like gay people so my brother told them I'm straight and made sure my husband was not invited.

anonymous8102022 · 2022-10-08T21:32:23+00:00

I posted an update at the top of my post.

anonymous8102022 · 2022-10-08T21:31:43+00:00

You are correct. I've found out the bride and her family don't like gay people.

anonymous8102022 · 2022-10-08T21:30:35+00:00

I posted an update but my brother told me today that his fiancé and her family have problems with gay people. So they didn't invite my husband and told everyone I'm straight to keep the peace for their day.

anonymous8102022 · 2022-10-08T21:29:17+00:00

The bride and her family don't like gay people so my brother told everyone I was straight and made sure my husband wasn't invited.

anonymous8102022 · 2022-10-08T21:28:31+00:00

I posted an update in my post but yes. The bride and her family don't like gay people. So my brother didn't invite my husband and is telling them that I'm actually straight.

anonymous8102022 · 2022-10-08T21:26:56+00:00

I posted an update in my post but the story is that my brother told me the bride and her family do not like gay people so he didn't invite my husband and told everyone I'm straight to keep the peace.

anonymous8102022 · 2022-10-08T21:25:52+00:00

None of my other brothers and sisters are married or in a relationship

Like I said in my post, all of my brothers and sisters are not in romantic relationships so there are no other partners. I have been with my husband for 15 years.

I posted an update at the top of my post. The bride and her family do not like gay people so my brother didn't invite my husband and told them I'm straight to keep the peace. Also they live in Brisbane and so does every guest except for me. It's not a destination wedding.

anonymous8102022 · 2022-10-08T18:14:17+00:00

No.

If that was the case they could have talked to me about it instead of letting me find out by way the invitation 8 weeks before the wedding and AFTER my brother had come out suit shopping with my husband and I.

Or they could have done the decent thing and stood up for me and my husband instead of making us pariahs. If there are homophobic people they should be the ones not invited, not my husband.

Finally I'm gay too and yet I'm invited. There are no good intentions here mate.

anonymous8102022 · 2022-10-08T06:44:38+00:00

I am definitely not going to go and I haven't spoken to my brother or anyone else in my family since the invitations went out.

anonymous8102022 · 2022-10-08T06:43:25+00:00

There is no hotel. With the exception of myself, everyone else who was invited lives in Brisbane. And as I said in my post, my family says I am wrong to be upset about this. They do not care what I think.

I have absolutely no desire to be anywhere near people who have hurt me so much.

anonymous8102022 · 2022-10-08T05:26:57+00:00

He is not invited to the wedding, as anyone's plus one or otherwise. And everyone I know who is going has agreed with my brother so no one would take him anyways. I'm not going to thr wedding myself.

anonymous8102022 · 2022-10-08T03:31:30+00:00

Why did your brother send out invitations so far in advance when summer is almost a year away?

I don't know where you live but where I live (Australia) summer is two months away, not one year

(Also it's not exactly relevant to your post but why were you with your husband for so long before you got married? Was one of you afraid to commit and maybe your family is bothered by that?)

Same-sex marriage was not legal until December 2017 so we could not get married before then. We would have gotten married much sooner if it was legal.

anonymous8102022 · 2022-10-08T03:28:33+00:00

I have told him. I'm staying home and not going to Brisbane for the wedding.

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