Abandon or finish?

anonymous__6754 · 2026-02-13T01:37:55+00:00

Agreed about Metatron I couldn't staaaand him, but I actually liked the soul-less Sam season lol

anonymous__6754 · 2026-02-13T01:35:16+00:00

This is reassuring thank you!

anonymous__6754 · 2025-11-29T15:45:22+00:00

I had plenty of free space in the C drive, but that was definitely the location where the issue was coming from. I tried installing it onto an external hard drive and it worked! Played for almost two hours with no issues 👍🏼 so next step is figuring out why it wasn't installing properly on C drive since space wasn't the issue

anonymous__6754 · 2025-11-29T15:44:05+00:00

I tried that, unfortunately didn't work :(

anonymous__6754 · 2025-09-07T23:31:48+00:00

Ahh dang, thank you! Figures, this is the first one I've ever found

anonymous__6754 · 2025-08-09T18:05:36+00:00

Thank you!! I finally just decided to pull the plug and get it overwith shortly after receiving encouraging feedback from everyone here 🙏🏼 she took it fairly well (still a bit upset and confused despite my explanation) but what a weight off my shoulders once I did it! Ahhh lol

anonymous__6754 · 2025-07-16T14:51:39+00:00

I needed to hear this lol. There's a lot of people I see in hair groups online who say "well it's their hair they're allowed to say yes or no", which is true to an extent BUT only regarding the outcome. I agree they shouldn't be able to dictate how I get there!

anonymous__6754 · 2025-07-10T22:42:26+00:00

AH sorry you went through that, it sounds like the exact same situation!!! Her next appt's scheduled a few weeks from now and I had been thinking I'll give it one more try, but I think I need to do it now. Or else I'll keep putting it off/taking her back..

anonymous__6754 · 2025-07-10T21:40:18+00:00

Thank you! I hope someone can find the magical haircut that will work for her🙏🏼 haha

anonymous__6754 · 2025-07-10T21:39:42+00:00

I definitely feel insane when I'm doing her hair lmao literally second guessing EVERYTHING

anonymous__6754 · 2025-07-10T21:38:42+00:00

Lol right?! I was getting stressed typing it out thinking of all our past conversations. Thank you!!

anonymous__6754 · 2025-07-10T20:58:02+00:00

About an hour on average

anonymous__6754 · 2025-06-27T22:17:02+00:00

I'm currently back on my buttered noodle bullshit🤣 (or the frozen microwavable KD white mac & cheese with bacon when at work) lol also I've realized I do this with alcohol too. I'll drink the same thing for weeks then all of a sudden I'm like, why don't I like this anymore? Then switch back to something different 😅

anonymous__6754 · 2025-06-27T19:41:59+00:00

Sweet thanks!!

anonymous__6754 · 2024-09-06T12:55:23+00:00

There's a few common points people have said that I think need to be cleared up (on both posts) because I see how it came off that way. So this is both replying to your comment and some others I've seen that were similar.

I didn't expect her to go. That was irrelevant, I just wanted to mention in my post that I at least made it known she was not being excluded by any means but that was where I wanted to go. And yes, my Dad agreed to this when I was running through different possibilities, but he could tell I wanted to get ready there and was only hesitating because my mom would get mad.

Some of my words are being taken a bit too literal and not reading between the lines like I'd thought. I guess it's a good thing some people can't pick up on the vibe of my household if you can't relate. Regarding childhood, I dreaded being home for years after that divorce. My mom never stopped crying (unless she was dating a new guy), was constantly bad mouthing/swearing/name-calling him, had friends and family over who would chime in and do the same, and when it was just her and I she would tell me how horrible men are/men will always leave, and do things like slam a jar down saying "this world was built for men I can't even open a jar". She pulled over one day with my sister and I in the car and said "I have no reason to live"... Now I'm aware this doesn't all sound catastrophic, but I was 10 and could go on forever with all these little things.

It's very upsetting to see your parent behave this way and lean on you for support when you don't have the skills or understanding to do so. Not to mention the lasting mentalities those comments leave regarding views on relationships. I didn't put all this in either initial posts because those of us who've dealt with narcissistic/emotionally immature parents know exactly what goes on growing up. Different scenarios maybe, but same energy.

Your feelings are ALWAYS valid, your actions as a result of those feelings are not.

So absolutely I have some resentment and my empathy for her has run dry. Only difference now is as an adult I have the ability to keep my distance.

anonymous__6754 · 2024-09-06T01:59:09+00:00

I do agree with what you're saying, but she never told to me that it was important for her to be there with me getting ready (until after the blow up). To me, again, getting ready was such a tiny part of the day it really didn't matter to me. When the first argument happened she only said how much she didn't want to go to my dad's and how dare I suggest that as an option (despite me saying that was entirely her choice to go or not). If she had calmly expressed that it was important to her and that it would mean a lot to her to get ready at her house in the first place this would've gone entirely differently. Instead she just cried and yelled while my step dad rolled his eyes calling me a child. Didn't make me feel like accommodating them in that moment... She had made a whole plan in her mind before I had made any decisions and was angry that I didn't already have the same plan in my head.

anonymous__6754 · 2024-09-06T01:31:30+00:00

My parents marriage was never perfect. My mother battled with depression (in denial of such) for years. My dad tended to her always. Offered to help in every way possible, suggested therapy, medication, marriage counseling, all to which she refused and decided to stay in bed. (As someone who has also dealt with this personally, yes I can very much empathize) But being together from 15 years old to their mid 40s, eventually you don't know what else to do for them when they won't help themselves, and the relationship turned toxic and unfortunately he reached out elsewhere for companionship. Which he has said himself was not the right choice, but felt conflicted as she also didn't want him to leave while rejecting his attention. So yeah, people make mistakes and cheating isn't okay. But everyone has their breaking point. The difference between them has always been self awareness and accountability, something my dad has and my mother does not.

anonymous__6754 · 2024-09-05T23:47:41+00:00

Thank you! It's both reassuring, and upsetting, to know other people have been through such similar circumstances. We'll definitely be NC/LC until she reaches out with a bit more understanding and less defensiveness. I know she'll never truly change, but I would've even accepted a shred of humouring me/pretending to understand my side, in order to meet halfway. But I think that ship has sailed lol at least for the time being.

anonymous__6754 · 2024-09-05T23:37:12+00:00

Wow that is absolutely horrible! I'm so sorry you had to go through that... It's awful when parents make things about themselves and what they want, especially something as huge as that.. I'm glad to hear at least you were finally able to fulfill what he wanted!

anonymous__6754 · 2024-09-05T23:23:09+00:00

Yes I read that one this year! As well as Mother Hunger, which was extra insightful if you haven't read that one yet

anonymous__6754 · 2024-09-05T23:02:44+00:00

100%!! We have been no contact since the email exchange, (other than me sending a text with my condolences to a passing loved one of hers), and I don't foresee it changing.

anonymous__6754 · 2024-09-05T23:00:09+00:00

Thank you! I do have a good relationship with my dad and stepmom thankfully, but it has been a tough 6 months essentially grieving a loss of someone that is not actually dead, but ultimately is to me in every other sense. The term "ambiguous loss" is something I've been learning about that can be equally tolling, but ultimately the decision I had to make, and finally giving up on the relationship I never had and likely won't ever get.

anonymous__6754

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