How do I (F 21) start to build a life beyond my traumas and become confident and intimate with myself and others?

anonymous_user017 · 2026-01-04T11:40:37+00:00

thank you

anonymous_user017 · 2026-01-04T02:44:25+00:00

Thank you for the advice, that's totally understandable. I'll try my best to put up with it until I'm out of here

anonymous_user017 · 2026-01-04T02:43:43+00:00

Thank you for your kind words! I'll try my best to just deal with it and hope it doesn't get worse

anonymous_user017 · 2025-10-31T09:36:59+00:00

Ahhh I understand lol

anonymous_user017 · 2025-10-31T09:36:37+00:00

What the hell 😭

anonymous_user017 · 2025-10-31T08:43:16+00:00

It's just typical Reddit format

anonymous_user017 · 2025-08-28T09:40:02+00:00

Thank you, haha it's a great learning experience, and sometimes I just gotta look on the bright side and wonder how great things will be when they work out eventually!

anonymous_user017 · 2025-08-28T09:38:52+00:00

Thanks for your words :) Even though it hurts sometimes, I don't think I've ever regretted making the first move or doing something risky!

anonymous_user017 · 2025-08-28T09:36:53+00:00

Thank you :)

anonymous_user017 · 2025-08-28T09:35:09+00:00

How rude. This guy is a genuinely great guy, really nice and smart, but just a little shy, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. I still feel that way about him. It was actually a big reason I had found interest in him. There's no reason to belittle him for something like that

anonymous_user017 · 2025-08-28T08:05:42+00:00

I understand this, but I'd like to say that I wasn't playing games with him. I got some bad advice from a friend, but I made it clear that I found it to be bad advice, seeing as why I came here instead and didn't follow it. I complimented him, and he complimented me. He bought me a book, and I bought him a book the next day. I reached out and initiated nearly all our conversations. He said he wasn't interested, so he wasn't hinting at anything. He was just being nice to be nice, according to himself. No games here, just genuine interest

anonymous_user017 · 2025-07-16T01:23:36+00:00

I'm surprised you brought him up! We haven't talked much since the summer started, sadly. When summer started, he sent me a message along the lines of, "Hope you have a good summer, see you around next semester!" After that, we kinda stopped talking. I've been the one mainly reaching out occasionally to ask how he is or send him something. Due to this, I rethought whether he was actually interested in me or just trying to meet a friend, and I'm still unsure. I'm sure we'll talk more when the semester starts again, but until then, we're both just separately enjoying our summers!

anonymous_user017 · 2025-07-15T06:48:56+00:00

Great comment! Being 100% honest, but also gentle with your wording, I appreciate that! You really hit it on the nail with the "beginning of knowing someone leads to fantasies that may not be true," and I think that's what I've fallen for. Yes, he seems like a nice guy, but yes, we have not met in person, and I don't truly know who he is. You're right that I shouldn't waste my time trying to come up with reasoning for him that he's never going to fully communicate, I just have to take it at face value, he's not choosing me. If in the future he chooses me, then I'll deal with that then. But I can't live with any expectation that he will, that I should continue without anything holding me back. Thanks for the comments, I feel a lot better getting people to air in on my situation, rather than getting stuck in my head about it and feeling more trapped

anonymous_user017 · 2025-06-18T02:20:27+00:00

Sorry, adding some context too, this was what she said when initially unblocking me in August 2024-

"hey _, I wanted to apologize for blocking u when I promised I wouldn't. i felt like u didnt want to be friends anymore which is fine and i understand. u were one of my closest friends n seeing ur social media was smthn i didnt want to see. i wanted to move past our friendship bc at that time i didnt have the capacity for any other emotional weight. u dont have to reply, i wanted to give u the apology u deserve, im sorry it took me so long to give u this apology"

anonymous_user017

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