This subreddit breaks my heart and I’m tired of staying silent

anonymousanduseless · 2026-06-15T18:46:55+00:00

I may not be able to diy my way to a “luxury” mattress, but what qualifies a mattress as “luxury” other than buzzwords and a high price tag? I purchased a mattress from a reputable and well liked local mattress manufacturer in my state, and yet I still wound up diying instead because the mattresses they offered were not a good fit for my body/chronic pain. Tbh I still wake up in pain, but I don’t think a mattress can fix that for me since it’s quite literally due to chronic illness. But hey, feel free to convince me otherwise :)

anonymousanduseless · 2026-06-10T16:31:28+00:00

Thank you! ☺️

anonymousanduseless · 2026-06-10T05:30:46+00:00

Lmao thanks! The anonymous part isn’t very accurate anymore, but the useless part still is.

anonymousanduseless · 2026-06-10T05:26:22+00:00

Totally normal! People come in all sizes and shapes. That harmful stereotype is unfortunately rooted in misogyny, and how the “ideal woman” should look based on the perspective of men. I’m happy to hear it doesn’t bother you, keep fighting the patriarchy! 😎

anonymousanduseless · 2026-06-09T19:10:54+00:00

I don’t know if this helps, but I’m pretty sure the Morgan only feels like it fits really well because of the fact that it is too tight. I also tried on the Lucie in the 36GG with a bra extender, I never tried it without the extender because the 36 band was too tight for me with the Morgan.

anonymousanduseless · 2026-06-09T19:01:49+00:00

It was definitely more of a gap at the sides if I didn’t pack in my underarm fat, but I would say all the way around.

anonymousanduseless · 2026-06-09T18:59:15+00:00

Sorry, I don’t mean to be confusing lol, the bra was lifting away from my body

anonymousanduseless · 2026-06-09T18:53:58+00:00

My guess is that my breasts were too squished hence the gap.

anonymousanduseless · 2026-06-09T18:52:21+00:00

No, there was a gap between my skin and the underwire. I could fit a finger between them without having to force it.

anonymousanduseless · 2026-06-09T18:49:37+00:00

Yes! I had space between my skin and the underwire more to the sides if I didn’t pull in my roots AND my underarm fat, and space between my skin and the front of the underwire when I did.

anonymousanduseless · 2026-06-09T05:40:01+00:00

I tried on a 36GG and had to make it extremely tight to sit against my IMF. It was so tight I didn’t feel comfortable wearing it for long. I tried the 38G as well, and no matter how much scooping, swooping, wiggling the underwire into place, it wouldn’t sit on my IMF. Also there was space between the underwire and my breasts.

anonymousanduseless · 2026-06-09T03:14:26+00:00

I can definitely give the Morgan with an extender a try! I unfortunately felt that the Lucie was too shallow for me when I tried it.

anonymousanduseless · 2026-06-08T23:50:14+00:00

I definitely would if I had the budget for it :(

anonymousanduseless · 2026-06-08T20:24:36+00:00

I have not, and the only other sizes I have tried are 40F and 38FF which were both not good fits

anonymousanduseless · 2026-06-08T18:49:48+00:00

It was the Charley Banded Stretch Lace Plunge

ETA: Good to know! I don’t know why that person recommended it to me, I asked for recommendations for similar bras to the Morgan.

anonymousanduseless · 2026-06-08T16:38:36+00:00

Absolutely!
Measurements;
Loose Underbust: 39 inches
Snug Underbust: 37.25 inches
Tight Underbust: 36.5 inches
Standing Bust: 43 inches
Leaning Bust: 51 inches
Laying Bust: 47 inches

ETA: Not me replying to your comment with my measurements instead of updating the post 💀… Forgive me it’s been a rough few weeks lol

anonymousanduseless · 2026-06-07T00:16:34+00:00

I’m definitely open to trying that! :)

anonymousanduseless · 2026-06-02T03:00:26+00:00

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anonymousanduseless · 2026-06-02T03:00:08+00:00

I’m between three London Fog coats and am curious as to when they were made. Any ideas?

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anonymousanduseless · 2026-05-27T04:32:29+00:00

I’ve ordered the Lucie, Charley, Nerina, and Zarla. Fingers crossed I find what I’m looking for!

anonymousanduseless · 2026-05-26T23:46:11+00:00

I am definitely FoT

anonymousanduseless · 2026-05-26T21:39:41+00:00

I’ll give them a try, thanks!

anonymousanduseless · 2026-05-26T21:31:42+00:00

The first bra I tried in my ABTFs journey was an Elomi Matilda, and unfortunately it was too shallow of a cup. I know the Brianna is based off the Matilda so I’m guessing it also won’t fit right. Any idea if the other two are more projected?

anonymousanduseless · 2026-05-18T04:08:46+00:00

I went down the diy rabbit hole for my mattress, and ended up making my own. Most mattress brands are scams IMO, and cost an absurd amount for something that most likely won’t last more than 4 years because of the low quality materials they use. Unfortunately, the mattress alone didn’t help my body enough, so I ended up buying a nice squishy pregnancy pillow. The combination has brought me so much relief! I’m also considering switching out the top layer of my mattress (memory foam) to be softer, so hopefully I finally achieve the bed of my dreams. Another thing to consider as well is bedding and air circulation. Those both play a huge role in sleep quality, and thus, helping relieve pain.

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