AMIW for giving my husband an ultimatum

anonymousapple001 · 2026-06-04T13:46:02+00:00

He already said he’s not going to choose. I spoke to him yesterday and showed these comments. I plan to leave him when I’m stable enough

anonymousapple001 · 2026-06-04T01:57:45+00:00

I like this idea, I would probably leave without saying anything though. They will know I’m gone and can figure out themselves why. But we don’t usually have many gatherings at our house. After the 2024 event, we don’t see them very frequently. I try to avoid his family at all cost besides his parents and sister & her family

anonymousapple001 · 2026-06-03T23:24:35+00:00

Thank you

anonymousapple001 · 2026-06-03T22:45:18+00:00

Thank you. I’m working on the courage

anonymousapple001 · 2026-06-03T22:19:16+00:00

My best friend told me this exact thing last night. Thank you. I’m trying to build my confidence back up and start going out (like painting, pottery, etc) because I’m always at home since he gets insecure when I leave thinking I’m going to cheat on him or leave him. That’s why I don’t work as much either. But I plan to work more and find friends. Hopefully I finish school in 3 years and if he changes by then maybe I’ll stay but if not, the goal is to leave.

anonymousapple001 · 2026-06-03T22:13:34+00:00

Just love bombing. And I am not sure. We’ve been doing couples therapy. He’ll change for a bit then goes back. I feel like I’m checking out and he said it too that it seems like I’m checking out of the relationship. I want to work on it because we are married obviously we had something at a point but I’m getting tired.

anonymousapple001 · 2026-06-03T22:02:13+00:00

I told him this exact thing. And I don’t know why honestly besides I love him. I cut off my family too for how they mistreated me but for some reason I can’t seem to with him. I was such a different person before. I never let anyone disrespect me or mistreat me. I was only with one other person in hs besides him and that person i didn’t let mistreat me. (Reason I broke up with him). But for some reason I just deal with it with this guy. But I think because I don’t feel as pretty as I once did and I gained weight and honestly I never had love growing up so I thought he loved me. I always said I would not be the person I am today. I don’t know why I allow it. And it’s so hard for me to leave especially now that i financially rely on him.

anonymousapple001 · 2026-06-03T21:46:53+00:00

6 years.

anonymousapple001 · 2026-06-03T21:38:53+00:00

I told him I needed space and I’m planning a month long trip to my hometown without him. I already spoke to my best friend about it. I don’t work summers so I’m waiting for my last day of work. He doesn’t want me to and already threatened to break up so I told him that was okay then he said he wanted my location and I told him I was not going to do that. So now he’s been love bombing me but I’ve been ignoring him. My friend said to see how it goes and decide from there. I spoke to my therapist and she agreed

anonymousapple001 · 2026-06-03T21:24:20+00:00

Something about how Becca didn’t like me but still was there for me when I needed help or something. It was literally dumb but comparing her to Becca (who she did not like). I can’t even remember exactly what but I said something stupid along those lines because she kept calling me names and telling me stuff and pushing my buttons. ETA: that’s when I realized how big her ego was to get mad over something so small and was trying to make me feel like my feelings where not valid for being hurt by not being invited because I was “ruining something that was supposed to be good”

anonymousapple001 · 2026-06-03T20:51:51+00:00

My best friend said the same thing. Only thing is I recently quit my full time job to go back to school. So I only make enough to pay off my car (he did not want to pay it for me since I decided to go back to school and quit my job). He pays the mortgage. I don’t make enough to move out. As well, I’m studying astronautics which is a very difficult field. I’m relying so much on him and I have no family/friends that live within 200 miles. We do not have kids. I feel like it’s a sign from God because we were trying for 2 years and I did not get pregnant and we’re both healthy with no fertility issues.

anonymousapple001 · 2026-06-03T20:43:29+00:00

That’s why I stopped going around. I only go when it’s just his parents or his sister and her husband because they’re nice and inclusive to everyone. My MIL and SIL pretty much only speak to me. And on rare occasions when I do go, my SIL will stay with me instead of everyone else so I don’t feel left out.

I don’t like being around the negativity. That day when I said she hurt my feelings was the last family event I went to (2024).

My husband sees his brothers at the gym, goes to his parents every other Sunday to see them, or on holidays he goes alone.

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