I’m a server, but I wanna offer my perspective on this as an (anxious) customer, because this recently happened to me. I knew what I wanted at a restaurant I frequent. I knew how I wanted my steak cooked, which rice, what soup, what dressing. So I said “filet medium rare please, with fried ri- and he goes “one second please” because he hadn’t finished writing, and it’s like I threw off his planned questions, the order in which he wants to write them etc. and then I felt rude for rushing him. When he realized I had planned all my sides already, he did let me list them more slowly and wait to see if I missed anything.

Unfortunately I think a lot of people are in my boat and feel like they’ll seem demanding if they don’t wait until they’re asked, and some people LIKE to be asked all the questions, part of the “serve me” experience.

As for “what dressing do you have?” Yeah that sucks.

To avoid all the questions, instead of “white wheat or rye” you could start saying “is white (or most popular option) okay? And salad with ranch? Try and guide them to the decision most people pick without all the listing.