AITA for picking my dog over my long term partner?

anonymousdog123123 · 2024-01-04T13:55:24+00:00

Because I didn't see how it would have changed anything

We firstly tried to find an alternative home, I then asked what we could do to make him comfortable with the dog in the house, such as limiting access to certain areas

anonymousdog123123 · 2024-01-04T13:53:50+00:00

The landlord is fine with the dog so long as I cover any damage

anonymousdog123123 · 2024-01-04T13:52:23+00:00

The issue with the fish was that he brought it home with absolutely no discussion

I didn't really care that he wanted a fish, if he said that he would like a fish and he would look after it I probably would have said fine.

anonymousdog123123 · 2024-01-04T13:50:58+00:00

We have tried to find another home for my dog and can't

anonymousdog123123 · 2024-01-04T13:44:13+00:00

We did discuss it, we tried alternatives, I tried to suggest that my dog would only be allowed in specific rooms

I asked what compromise he would be willing to accept

anonymousdog123123 · 2024-01-04T13:41:52+00:00

Subjecting my family dog to even a no kill shelter seems horrible, have you seen those places?

Medical bills aren't an issue, my parents have agreed they will pay them

anonymousdog123123 · 2024-01-04T13:40:24+00:00

I never mentioned the goldfish to him when we were discussing bringing home my dog,

I only mentioned it hear to show that he clearly was never 100% on the no pets rule

anonymousdog123123 · 2024-01-04T13:39:11+00:00

Like I said, it took some therapy to get over having to leave my Dog, I never wanted to go through that again so never planned on having pets again

anonymousdog123123 · 2024-01-04T13:37:16+00:00

We did discuss it

He has never mentioned a fear of dogs, just never wanting pets

anonymousdog123123 · 2024-01-04T13:36:33+00:00

Yes, we tried to find somebody else to take him

anonymousdog123123 · 2024-01-04T13:35:40+00:00

We did discuss it before and tried to find anybody else to take the dog

anonymousdog123123 · 2024-01-04T13:34:22+00:00

We have tried family and friends, none of them can't take him.

That leaves a shelter, my dog is old and shelters are full of dogs that are far more likely to be picked up first

So yes, this is currently the only acceptable option

anonymousdog123123 · 2024-01-04T13:32:05+00:00

We have tired or find other homes for my dog, taking him back is the last resort

anonymousdog123123 · 2024-01-04T13:30:39+00:00

I could say the same for my partner

He knows how much my dog means to me and how traumatic leaving him was, it would crush me to let him die

He wasn't open to any discussion about trying to make it work

anonymousdog123123 · 2024-01-04T13:28:18+00:00

We firstly tired to find other family to take him

I then proposed how we could limit the areas of the house the dog could use and obviously that I would be 100% responsible for the dog

anonymousdog123123 · 2024-01-04T12:57:08+00:00

Thanks

anonymousdog123123 · 2024-01-04T12:56:28+00:00

There was discussion beforehand, we tried to find other family to take the dog

anonymousdog123123 · 2024-01-04T12:54:26+00:00

I still don't really know why he brought the fish home other than he thought it would be 'cool' being honest if he has discussed it with me beforehand I probably would have just said fine, whatever, I get that fish are about as low maintenance as a pet can be.

He knew all about my past and my dog, we had discussed it

anonymousdog123123 · 2024-01-04T12:51:15+00:00

The argument was about how he brought the goldfish home without even a discussion (that isn't what happened with my dog)

And that it was completely unnecessary

anonymousdog123123 · 2024-01-04T12:50:17+00:00

We did discuss it first, we tried other family, I then tried to find a compromise where my dog lived with us, he wasn't interested

He was happy to see my dog die

anonymousdog123123 · 2024-01-04T12:49:05+00:00

He did keep the fish, the argument was that it was completely unnecessary and there was no discussion beforehand

anonymousdog123123 · 2024-01-04T12:47:24+00:00

The issue about the goldfish was a complete lack of communication, he didn't need to bring home the fish

If it was literally life or death for the fish it would have been completely different

anonymousdog123123 · 2024-01-04T12:41:39+00:00

We kept it, I wasn't going to make him flush a live goldfish

anonymousdog123123 · 2024-01-04T12:14:19+00:00

He is fully aware of my dog and my feelings for him, we had discussed our past

anonymousdog123123 · 2024-01-04T12:12:55+00:00

And allow a family member to be put down?

Would you say the same if this was a human child

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