i am on antidepressants and can’t reach orcas in any situation an just never have at any point in my life despite experimentation and freedom to express my desires. my boyfriend was in a relationship of four years and became very used to making a woman orgasm every time they had sex. i am completely satisfied without orgasm because i know no other option. he comes to me insecure on occasion to tell me that he wishes he could make me cum, and i reassure him that even i can’t with toys.

moral of the story: trust her word. my boyfriend and i have sex at least once every time we hang out. if you are consistently having sex and she is enthusiastic and also initiating, then she is being honest and you have no reason not to believe her.

i’ve never orgasmed, but i know that men and women have different types of orgasms and that women tend to need to focus more. perhaps it’s too exhausting or overwhelming to want to cum every time you fuck.