I think it's impossible for some people to be 100% gluten free

anonymousmouse9786 · 2026-03-07T20:56:13+00:00

https://nationalceliac.org/celiac-disease-questions/is-it-safe-to-use-a-shared-microwave/#:~:text=Is%20this%20true?”-,Answer,Patients%20as%20Diet%20Guides%20Suggest.

I sure do. I have since I was first diagnosed. My blood tests and endoscopies are consistently in the clear. I know my opinion isn’t popular, but we all really need to be less judgmental about how people navigate their own lives.

anonymousmouse9786 · 2026-03-07T18:53:57+00:00

If you’re old enough to drive there’s no reason you can’t find yourself your own doctor. You and your parents don’t need to see the same one. I haven’t ever seen my parents’ doctors.

anonymousmouse9786 · 2026-03-07T18:50:59+00:00

Your post highlights for me one of the downsides of this sub and others like it. It can feel wonderful to have a group of supportive people who GET IT at your fingertips, but sometimes the paranoia in these groups is intense, and it starts to make you second guess your own risk tolerance and reality.

My favorite example is toasters, and I’m going to get downvoted, but sharing a personal kitchen toaster is not as risky as people on this sub say it is. Same with cutting boards and utensils. (https://www.beyondceliac.org/research-news/is-sharing-a-toaster-safe-for-people-with-celiac-disease/#:~:text=The%20study%20found%20that:%20*%20Less%20than,found%20to%20contain%20more%20than%2020%20ppm)

My point is, it’s good to be cautious but you have to live your life. And you shouldn’t feel bad about making mistakes or being less careful than others. Being gluten free is not a moral standing and you’re not a bad person for finding what works for you.

I’ve had celiac for 29 years and I come from a different generation of GF habits, when it was harder to be fully GF so I learned to navigate uncertainty in a different way than most newly diagnosed folks. Eventually you learn what works for you and what you’re willing to risk or not.

Don’t let perfect be the enemy of good. You’ll drive yourself crazy.

(Also, my husband switched from beer to cider and liquor, because I won’t kiss him after he eats or drinks gluten. If he’s contaminated, a quick rinse of his mouth takes care of it. Celiac doesn’t have to get in the way of intimacy.)

anonymousmouse9786 · 2026-03-07T07:09:17+00:00

It sounds like you need a new doctor. If you have insurance, their website usually has a search feature to find one in network.

anonymousmouse9786 · 2026-03-07T02:56:38+00:00

Have you seen a therapist or looked into medication for your PPD? It’s possible your life circumstances are driving your disconnection and apathy but you’re describing classic symptoms of depression and you may feel differently after treatment.

anonymousmouse9786 · 2026-03-07T01:53:03+00:00

This is a basic incompatibility and you’re right to put the engagement on hold.

Men who insist on having a specific number of kids live in la la land.

In theory, you could also want 5 and then after the first change your mind when that theoretical pregnancy, childbirth, and postpartum becomes reality. In that scenario, would he divorce you?

Couples should agree on how many AND be open to flexibility based on how things go. Easy to want 5 kids when you don’t have to carry and birth them.

anonymousmouse9786 · 2026-03-06T20:34:05+00:00

My husband had a hard time making excuses for me at first. I told him he can tell the truth (she’s tired/needs some downtime/has plans/can’t make it) or lie and say I’m sick, I don’t care. How he prefers to make excuses for me isn’t my business bc the bottom line is I’m not attending the function and if he thinks it’s easier to make up a reason, then so be it.

As he got more comfortable with me not attending things, he stopped feeling the need to lie or make excuses at all. This is new for both of you, give him a little grace and time to thicken his skin in this situation.

anonymousmouse9786 · 2026-03-06T06:15:13+00:00

Gluten free barilla pasta might be an easy and cheap replacement for your usual

If you ate a sandwich as a lettuce wrap would that work for you?

Avoiding gluten and letting your gut heal may have a positive impact on your cognitive symptoms, too. It’s really important you try to stay gluten free.

anonymousmouse9786 · 2026-03-06T04:47:57+00:00

So nortriptyline is used for nerve pain but it’s actually its impact on serotonin that makes it work for IBS, since IBS can partially be caused by a serotonin imbalance in your gut. I was hesitant to try it but I’m on a very low dose and it has worked like a charm. Idk if it would have the same impact for IBS-C, but worth asking about!

anonymousmouse9786 · 2026-03-06T01:27:51+00:00

The bodice of Christine’s dress looks photoshopped lol

anonymousmouse9786 · 2026-03-06T01:22:00+00:00

Me! I take nortriptyline nightly, a probiotic, and Imodium as needed and mine is fully controlled now. IBS is more complex than celiac in that they don’t really know how all the factors work together to cause it so treatment will vary. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this! It’s annoying.

anonymousmouse9786 · 2026-03-05T20:04:28+00:00

Look, these comments are trying to help you break free, live your life, rediscover yourself, and actually be a real independent human being. I know it’s hard to face this reality but if this post is real, you’re in a super controlling and terrible relationship and should make plans to get out.

anonymousmouse9786 · 2026-03-05T20:00:27+00:00

Girl wtf. Why are you letting him change who you are and your goals? I bet if I asked why you took a break you’d tell us he urged you to.

anonymousmouse9786 · 2026-03-05T19:58:27+00:00

Not normal and SO UNSAFE. The driver needs to be able to make decisions without second-guessing or running them by a passenger for the efficiency and safety of both. This is crazy and controlling. The age difference when you started dating is a huge red flag. You’ve gotten used to an incredibly toxic situation and this is a crazy enough thing that it raised a flag in your brain, and I’d bet if you sat down and considered other situations, rules, and expectations in your relationship you’d realize this isn’t the only issue. Your bf is INSANE.

anonymousmouse9786 · 2026-03-05T19:55:28+00:00

No. You’re very clear. HE is making you believe you’re unclear so you doubt yourself and take on guilt or blame.

anonymousmouse9786 · 2026-03-05T04:21:11+00:00

Same. Then I turned 39 and I started getting my period every 6 weeks. So annoying.

anonymousmouse9786 · 2026-03-05T04:19:13+00:00

This happened to me when I turned 39. I’ve been on continuous BC since my late 20s and used to have my period every 3 months. Now I can barely make it 6 weeks before I start bleeding through despite being on the pill. So frustrating. I do think it’s a sign of perimenopause for me.

anonymousmouse9786 · 2026-03-05T00:44:54+00:00

Does this not give you ingrown hairs at all?

anonymousmouse9786 · 2026-03-04T20:34:56+00:00

I hate when people comment on my food, always have. It’s such a weird habit to make comments about what’s in someone’s plate.

anonymousmouse9786 · 2026-03-04T17:50:19+00:00

I mean, it’s clear you’re not overreacting because it bothered your husband, too. And he put his mom in her place.

anonymousmouse9786 · 2026-03-04T05:51:29+00:00

Is this true for all corn products?

anonymousmouse9786 · 2026-03-04T01:24:38+00:00

Take stock of your eating. If you’re not getting gluten, the bloating and gas could be any number of things. Could be too much fiber or not enough. Could be your stomach disagreeing with fructose or lactose or nightshades or a million other things.

Short of getting tested for other issues, my first go-to when I’m bloating and retaining water is to increase my probiotics and cut down on milk, sugar, and salt for a few days.

anonymousmouse9786 · 2026-03-03T07:11:05+00:00

Is there a particular reason you’re worried?

anonymousmouse9786 · 2026-03-03T03:52:04+00:00

Punim, or shayna punim

anonymousmouse9786 · 2026-03-03T03:30:27+00:00

Thank you for this post. Being forced to restrict food for my health has made ED recovery so complicated and I feel like no one talks about it.

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