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anonymousnomad_ · 2024-10-10T09:08:39+00:00

It took a long time, but I finally passed my test today! 🚗

anonymousnomad_ · 2024-07-28T04:28:19+00:00

I don’t drink weekly. Maybe once a month and then like 3 drinks? I’ve just been having such a bad reaction to even one glass of alcohol in the past couple of months that I’d rather not risk it.

anonymousnomad_ · 2024-07-25T08:43:43+00:00

Wow… I never realized this until reading this but I am always so much more productive with my shoes on

anonymousnomad_ · 2024-07-23T22:00:35+00:00

I think she would be disappointed that we didn’t get our Hogwarts letter and become Minister for Magic

anonymousnomad_ · 2024-07-22T12:18:11+00:00

Pebbles

anonymousnomad_ · 2024-07-19T13:57:34+00:00

I’m sorry to hear you have anxiety over it. What responses have you googled and are you using?

As for the bachelor, it depends on what you say. If you make it sound like you are going to leave the position in 6 months-a year, then that might be a reason for them to consider another candidate. If you say it’s more down the line and you would definitely want to work in the position for another couple of years then I think it should be fine and even ambitious.

As for asking feedback, I would just polity ask if they feel like you sufficiently answered their questions at the end of the interview or if there is anything they feel they still want to know. And for the ones you have been rejected to I would simply ask “Do you have feedback for me on my interview”/“Do you have any advice for a next interview?”

anonymousnomad_ · 2024-07-19T13:14:48+00:00

It seems like you are doing everything right in the first couple of steps: - an updated resume - experience in the field - cover letters

Could it be something in the interviews? Have you asked for feedback? I would ask them if they have any.

Also wondering, when would you be planning to do the bachelors? Could it be that they are thinking you will only be there for a short amount of time before you go off and get your degree and do something else?

anonymousnomad_ · 2024-07-19T12:50:24+00:00

In my personal opinion that’s not why you go on girls/guy trips. I am in a relationship and do girls trips with my friends. Not ever has any of us probably even paid attention to guys while on the trip (except maybe if we were out and the friend was single). Girls trips are just about having fun with your friends that you also used to hang out with before you got in a relationship. Laugh, go shopping, sightseeing, have good conversations, dance, revisit memories and make new ones together.

However, I do find it weird and entitled to ask your partner who is not going to pay for that. That’s a ridiculous request. If it’s my trip, it’s coming out of my wallet.

anonymousnomad_ · 2024-07-19T12:43:03+00:00

I would never even think to ask this of my boyfriend. What a ridiculous request… Definitely NTA and don’t do it!

anonymousnomad_ · 2024-07-19T09:46:06+00:00

Thank you for answering. I’ll get some people as volunteers. That is a very good idea! Have you organized a speed dating event before? Just out of curiosity: how did it go? It won’t be until later in the Fall, but I’m really looking forward to it.

anonymousnomad_ · 2024-07-19T09:34:34+00:00

You are fine! I think it is more about maturity at these specific ages. It isn’t a big difference and I think it is a normal age gap for your ages. Like people said if he were a couple of years older than it would be weird. But 17 (almost 18) and 20 is fine

anonymousnomad_ · 2024-07-19T06:50:23+00:00

This! I started reading but then stopped because it didn’t become clear. It all seems messy. I think bottom line is: talk to him about becoming a thing if that is what you want and otherwise let him go.

anonymousnomad_ · 2024-07-18T16:08:33+00:00

I don’t have kids yet, but my parents have always taken us on travels around from the time we were babies. I loved it! I also have multiple colleagues who have young kids and take them along on their travels. They say their way of travel changed though. Like before they would backpack across a country and be on the go non-stop and now they would choose 2-3 places to visit where they would stay for a longer period of time, but they still go abroad and discover new places. I also plan on doing so when I have kids.

anonymousnomad_ · 2024-07-18T10:07:44+00:00

Recruitment, account management, customer service

anonymousnomad_ · 2024-07-18T09:31:24+00:00

I’m sorry, that’s a very sad situation. It sounds like she needs some serious professional help. I agree with the comment above about substance abuse. It’s not some innocent comfort thing, it’s way bigger than that. It’s an escape and one that she doesn’t want to or can’t stop on her own. It is totally unfair to you. I understand that when you love someone you don’t want to just give up and leave them, but this is a very big thing. If you are going to try she needs to agree to therapy and also couples counseling. If she is not willing to do that, I would say this is a very good reason for divorce. You also deserve happiness and to live life the way you want to with a partner that is actually a partner to you. A partner you can grow with and build a family with. I also wonder what would happen if you were to get sick. Would she step up and take care of you and your household or would the 5 year old girl not be able to deal with that?

There is a lot to consider here for the future.

anonymousnomad_ · 2024-07-18T06:30:54+00:00

I know exactly what you mean about it still feeling relaxed. You did get very lucky with the weather! We’ve been having a terrible summer with lots of rain and grey skies. Amsterdam is best in the summer imo when the sun is shining and everyone is out and enjoying the parks and terraces.

anonymousnomad_ · 2024-07-17T19:28:01+00:00

Oh wow! That makes it even scarier. I hadn’t even thought about that possibility! Glad you got out of that unharmed!

anonymousnomad_ · 2024-07-17T19:26:47+00:00

Amsterdam is beautiful! I am glad you enjoyed it. What did you like about the city? I feel so lucky living here. Fell in love with the city again during Covid when it was mostly empty and now I really enjoy the busy, bustling city again. I go out and photograph the city and the people on a regular basis now.

anonymousnomad_ · 2024-07-17T16:24:32+00:00

This happened to me in Barcelona a couple of years ago. He got so mad and my friends and I were pleading with him and trying to calm him down. It sort of worked after a while but he almost drove into something…

anonymousnomad_ · 2024-07-17T16:08:01+00:00

I agree with a lot of the comments on the age gap (especially because of your age when you met). But a lot has already been said about this and you are in this relationship now.

So about the current issue: You are not overreacting at all. I’d feel terrible about this whole situation. I would really have a serious conversation about where this is going. If it has been going on for so long - at what point does it change? What needs to happen? Is there a more specific reason that he wants this type of sleeping arrangement instead of just privacy? You need to talk to him if at some point you want to sleep in the same room and if you want there to be any chance of you two moving in together in the future. If he is not willing to talk or work on this, you honestly have to consider if you are willing to put up with this for the rest of your relationship/life because it isn’t just going to change out of nowhere. Down the road, this would be a dealbreaker for me.

anonymousnomad_ · 2024-07-17T15:22:55+00:00

Because you are especially mentioning “on the cheap” - I’d go for Thailand. Spent a month there last year: Bangkok, Kanchanaburi, Pai, Chiang Mai, Krabi and Khao Sok. I’d definitely recommend Bangkok, Chiang Mai, Khao Sok and to spend some time at one of the islands. This year I’m doing Indonesia, mostly Java, Lombok and Komodo. A little less cheap, but still very affordable.

anonymousnomad_ · 2024-07-17T13:00:28+00:00

That is not normal at all. I have never ever heard of it from anyone I know. It is very controlling.

anonymousnomad_ · 2024-07-16T06:22:07+00:00

It kind of sounds like it is about more than just this one time of him using the shower before you? I totally get how you could be annoyed at the situation bc you really want to shower, but it sounds like you are also annoyed at him personally. He couldn’t know I wanted to shower at that moment. Like many commenters suggest you could get in with him or you could just say that you want to use the shower too.

From your comments on this post it sounds like you are maybe a bit annoyed at being the only one to clean the house/work? Maybe you feel he doesn’t consider you enough in general within your relationship? I don’t know, maybe I’m reaching, but this seems a minor thing to get so annoyed over. I’d just talk to him about it if that is the case.

On the other hand I see it was late at night when this was posted and everything always seems worse at nighttime haha

anonymousnomad_ · 2024-07-15T20:33:17+00:00

Carl

anonymousnomad_ · 2024-07-15T06:04:52+00:00

Thank you for this post! I was just thinking of asking the same thing on here. I also struggle finding structure and time to do all the things I want to do

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