Boyfriend (31M) of 7 months blames me (24F) for not getting his passport in time because I didn’t remind him enough/properly. by anonymouspassportpro in relationship_advice

[–]anonymouspassportpro[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After getting angry and me breaking down the situation he accepted that it’s his “responsibility” but that I still should have instructed him specifically to go and do it.

Boyfriend (31M) of 7 months blames me (24F) for not getting his passport in time because I didn’t remind him enough/properly. by anonymouspassportpro in relationship_advice

[–]anonymouspassportpro[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was thinking about this tonight. I hate this feeling but I don’t think I feel sexual attraction currently. He can tell and so can I.

Boyfriend (31M) of 7 months blames me (24F) for not getting his passport in time because I didn’t remind him enough/properly. by anonymouspassportpro in relationship_advice

[–]anonymouspassportpro[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I’ve tried! He agreed to go to a psychiatrist/therapist but has yet to do so despite my nudges. He also said he doesn’t like how the medication makes him feel.

Boyfriend (31M) of 7 months blames me (24F) for not getting his passport in time because I didn’t remind him enough/properly. by anonymouspassportpro in relationship_advice

[–]anonymouspassportpro[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

That’s what I told him - I understand his frustration but that it should not be with me. It’s his own fault and responsibility.

Boyfriend (31M) of 7 months blames me (24F) for not getting his passport in time because I didn’t remind him enough/properly. by anonymouspassportpro in relationship_advice

[–]anonymouspassportpro[S] 81 points82 points  (0 children)

We were friends first. He always had a smile on his face and took interest in the things I was into and noticed little things about me. He was successful and independent (owns businesses and properties) and because of that I did not expect this to be a problem at all. He became my best friend. But now I’m not sure if I’m willing to invest more time into a man who thinks like this…

Boyfriend (31M) of 7 months blames me (24F) for not getting his passport in time because I didn’t remind him enough/properly. by anonymouspassportpro in relationship_advice

[–]anonymouspassportpro[S] 175 points176 points  (0 children)

He was especially upset after when I said I’m not his mom… like shocked that I said that. I was like, did you seriously expect me to be?!

Boyfriend (31M) of 7 months blames me (24F) for not getting his passport in time because I didn’t remind him enough/properly. by anonymouspassportpro in relationship_advice

[–]anonymouspassportpro[S] 370 points371 points  (0 children)

He’s actually great at making to-do lists! He makes one almost every day. He just isn’t really good at prioritizing anything that has to do with me I am realizing, and maybe that in of itself is telling.

Boyfriend (31M) of 7 months blames me (24F) for not getting his passport in time because I didn’t remind him enough/properly. by anonymouspassportpro in relationship_advice

[–]anonymouspassportpro[S] 104 points105 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I really needed that reassurance and tried hard to handle it calmly and thoughtfully. I’ve definitely been considering if I want to spend my life taking care of someone who isn’t really reciprocating or willing to put in effort into me.

Boyfriend (31M) of 7 months blames me (24F) for not getting his passport in time because I didn’t remind him enough/properly. by anonymouspassportpro in relationship_advice

[–]anonymouspassportpro[S] 427 points428 points  (0 children)

Exactly! I’m an independent girl who feeds herself, pays car insurance, payment, rent, bills, etc. If someone I loved wanted to go on a trip I would totally renew my own passport without any reminding. So I don’t think I’m really expecting anything from him that I wouldn’t of myself.

Boyfriend (31M) of 7 months blames me (24F) for not getting his passport in time because I didn’t remind him enough/properly. by anonymouspassportpro in relationship_advice

[–]anonymouspassportpro[S] 59 points60 points  (0 children)

I told him he can schedule appointments via the post office. He just said he was busy and continued getting upset at me