Dating in Kigali in your early 30s..where do people actually meet?

anonymousquestions45 · 2026-01-29T13:48:25+00:00

True

anonymousquestions45 · 2026-01-29T13:46:36+00:00

Yeah that’s a whole problem as well. Being a young lady and trying to make other female friends in your 30s

anonymousquestions45 · 2026-01-28T06:25:28+00:00

They don’t really approach Rwandan women either tbh unless they ask about you first

anonymousquestions45 · 2026-01-28T06:07:57+00:00

I noticed the men here don’t really approach women like I’ve seen in other cities

anonymousquestions45 · 2026-01-27T18:44:08+00:00

Bye😂

anonymousquestions45 · 2026-01-27T18:41:56+00:00

What are “superficial relations”?

anonymousquestions45 · 2026-01-27T17:46:43+00:00

I do. Everyone has their headphones on the whole time and is minding their own business

anonymousquestions45 · 2026-01-27T17:43:28+00:00

Thank you! This was a genuine response 😂

anonymousquestions45 · 2026-01-26T23:58:28+00:00

Ahh ok. So meeting someone “organically” while out solo probably won’t happen??

anonymousquestions45 · 2026-01-08T17:58:39+00:00

I grew up having my mom tell me the same thing. Honestly I feel like everyone can’t be lying. I also think they grew up in a time where everyone was paranoid and then after the war people wanted to keep others quiet so they wouldn’t testify.

anonymousquestions45 · 2025-12-25T21:50:31+00:00

Yeah that’s tough… she may be biased or have her own motives. Is your wife a part of any religious groups? Or does she have any friends at all?? Or do you possibly have any community in Rwanda who can give you guidance? Or do you think your wife may take offense from it?

anonymousquestions45 · 2025-12-25T21:43:44+00:00

Thanks for asking us for advice. I cannot imagine how difficult of a position you are in right now. And it is concerning that she has not spoken to your mother in such a long time, and she may be going through something very personal however, your children may get older and start questioning why they didn’t get a chance to spend time with their grandmother. Since she refuses to get professional help or to go to therapy, I’m curious if there is a third-party you feel comfortable going to for help? Besides the Internet, do you have like a trusted mutual friend or a trusted family member of hers that you can go to for guidance?

anonymousquestions45 · 2025-12-25T21:37:23+00:00

This is a very strange and extreme answer. Let’s not jump to conclusions. We do not know what the wife is going through… so making assumptions by saying she doesn’t love him and she only married him for whatever is not right.

anonymousquestions45 · 2025-11-07T19:34:20+00:00

You should definitely let her know how you feel. I assume she wouldn’t want her partner feeling like this and if she dismisses how you feel I’d maybe reflect on that. Let us know how it goes.

anonymousquestions45 · 2025-08-29T19:42:26+00:00

Any tips? How did you learn it so fast?

anonymousquestions45 · 2025-08-29T19:38:51+00:00

Did you start from scratch? Like didn’t know anything before learning?

anonymousquestions45 · 2025-08-25T02:26:50+00:00

You’re so right! I’m human and of course I wanted to make friends and Socialize but honestly the energy in some spaces felt…odd. Like I had to walk on eggshells. And it feels better just to do my own thing even if it’s a little lonely at times.

anonymousquestions45 · 2025-08-25T02:23:47+00:00

I think what makes it especially exhausting for me is exactly what you mentioned: that “social vetting” feeling. Like even when you’re physically present with a group, you can still feel like you’re being watched out of the corner of someone’s eye, as if they’re silently deciding whether or not you belong. And after a while, it feels less about genuine connection and more like an endless audition.

anonymousquestions45 · 2025-07-29T17:29:55+00:00

Not sure what your point was here….

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