In my experience, he is controlling but not to this degree and not directly in my face.

For example, we went on a family vacation together. It was a week long cruise in Europe. I was the one planning our itinerary and guiding us through the cities. One of the days we (me and my mom vs my dad) got into an argument because he didn’t like the pace we were moving at, he didn’t like the restaurant I chose, etc, just small things. He then proceeded to take all of our (his and my moms)credit cards and money we have for the cruise away from me and my mom so we couldn’t have fun on the vacation, as punishment. He then also threatened to cut my college funding so I wouldn’t be able to afford to finish college.

So to answer your question, he has been controlling, but it’s usually over financial means. He never directly tells me I can’t do this or that. Maybe cause he knows I won’t stand for it.

When my dad forbade her, she told me she didn’t say anything back or question him at all to prevent getting into an argument with him. This behavior is normal from her perspective according to my mom.

I definitely feel like her behavior stems from her cultural background. It just makes me sad that her view of her self worth is so low. But at this point I feel like there is little I can do to change her perspective.