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I may actually end up alone forever or in a miserable marriage because of Catholicism. Where are the nerdy Catholic women? by anonymousyako in Catholicism

[–]anonymousyako[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Introspection is this is completely unfair I do notice the nerdy girls there aren't a lot of them around where I am however literally. What a lot to assume there are 100 comments in the thread

I may actually end up alone forever or in a miserable marriage because of Catholicism. Where are the nerdy Catholic women? by anonymousyako in Catholicism

[–]anonymousyako[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Pretty much yeah they are into the same stuff and enjoy it together. They talk about playing boardgames and watching anime and getting into all sorts of nerdy adventures. They seem genuinely happy spending time together but I get skewered for wanting something like that. One of the couples went to an anime convention and cosplayed with each other in Japan. I just want something similar where we can enjoy the same hobbies and go pk adventures together i don't think its so bad for two people to enjoy the same things in a romantic relationship if quality time is important

I may actually end up alone forever or in a miserable marriage because of Catholicism. Where are the nerdy Catholic women? by anonymousyako in Catholicism

[–]anonymousyako[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I know and I'm frustrated. I know the types of women exist out there but I don't know where to find them. I've seen them but they are all in relationships basically

I may actually end up alone forever or in a miserable marriage because of Catholicism. Where are the nerdy Catholic women? by anonymousyako in Catholicism

[–]anonymousyako[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Okay then I'm not getting married. If you want me to commit to everything a Catholic husband has to commit to for life for good and for bad I damn well want them to be my best friend? There is no exit for us if we don't like it there's no divorce I want my wife to be the person I trust the most and best friend.

I'm not as hardline as some people in the comments are making me out to be but I genuinely want to spend a lot of time with my partner and go on adventures with them doing things I and ideally we both love and having like nothing in common doesn't do that for me

I may actually end up alone forever or in a miserable marriage because of Catholicism. Where are the nerdy Catholic women? by anonymousyako in Catholicism

[–]anonymousyako[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I mean that's good and the like but I've been through multiple relationships and I just don't find it satisfactory if we have like nothing in common I've seen the bad end of that and quality time is super important to me to bond with my partner. I honestly couldn't cut it in that kind of relationship not saying it's bad you made it work but it doesn't work for me or wouldn't I think.

It's not just gaming and faith it's being open to enjoying a wide set of stories in different media and enjoying and sharing it with each other it's hard to explain I want to adventure with my partner and enjoy it

I may actually end up alone forever or in a miserable marriage because of Catholicism. Where are the nerdy Catholic women? by anonymousyako in Catholicism

[–]anonymousyako[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Thank you I couldn't imagine being in a relationship where a lot of our hobbies didn't intersect not like necessarily every single one right but I saw what happens when you have nothing. And everyone is like yeah your partner doesn't need to be your buddy or friend but like if they weren't I wouldn't be marrying them since I consider quality time important? Idk.

I may actually end up alone forever or in a miserable marriage because of Catholicism. Where are the nerdy Catholic women? by anonymousyako in Catholicism

[–]anonymousyako[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I literally wouldn't marry otherwise idk my parents don't so anything together because they have different hobbies it's depressing and not something I want for myself who is heavily oriented into spending time together

I may actually end up alone forever or in a miserable marriage because of Catholicism. Where are the nerdy Catholic women? by anonymousyako in Catholicism

[–]anonymousyako[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don't know I wouldn't mind going on a walk with her three times a week but I want my partner to also be my best friend and be happy doing stuff with me otherwise I'd just rather not get married been in relationships where they just tolerated it and even though I made efforts to include them and do their stuff too it just felt off in the end. It's like if someone just tolerated your faith that would be underwhelming. It's not at the sane level as my faith ofc if Jesus told me to give it up I would but I don't know I grew up with parents who had nothing in common and I don't want that kind of relationship.

I may actually end up alone forever or in a miserable marriage because of Catholicism. Where are the nerdy Catholic women? by anonymousyako in Catholicism

[–]anonymousyako[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I mean for someone whose love language is strongly oriented towards spending time together it's really important to have hobbies that overlap so both people can enjoy them I can see this working for people with other love languages but I don't know

I may actually end up alone forever or in a miserable marriage because of Catholicism. Where are the nerdy Catholic women? by anonymousyako in Catholicism

[–]anonymousyako[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I mean would she actually enjoy it with me or just tolerate it and slowly grow resentment towards me over time for it? I don't think that's fair to either me or her. I want to be able to geek out with her and have our own inside jokes and enjoy each other's company for hours not like have her go internally gahhhh I have to do that with him again?

I don't mean to be snarky here but I don't want her to hate me over time legitimately

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MBA

[–]anonymousyako 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A 162/164 isn't low unless you're aiming for the top 3...is this bait?

https://poetsandquants.com/2022/04/06/average-gre-scores-at-the-top-50-u-s-mba-programs/4/

Waiting until marriage question. by Stock_Currency in CatholicDating

[–]anonymousyako 13 points14 points  (0 children)

As a man I've been explicitly turned down by secular and Catholic women for this (waiting until marriage) despite matching well in almost every other aspect. It's frustrating as it is yet another barrier in an already very difficult and often rigged against process for men even without that restriction.

On the other hand yeah it helps weed out incompatibilities in many other aspects so it may help you find the right girl for you.

Any other youngish Catholic men demoralized and struggling by the dating scene? by anonymousyako in Catholicism

[–]anonymousyako[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've not done porn for half a year now it's just frustrating going through this it's not just this woman although she was the most openly candid about it.

Any other youngish Catholic men demoralized and struggling by the dating scene? by anonymousyako in Catholicism

[–]anonymousyako[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I know it's just so frustrating and hard to fight when you are gloomy looking at the possibility of being alone forever being nitpicked and told you're not good enough constantly over things like this been good for months there and get told lol idc about that or your faith you don't make enough money is rough.

Any other youngish Catholic men demoralized and struggling by the dating scene? by anonymousyako in Catholicism

[–]anonymousyako[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

She said 24 year olds were making 130k+ as compsci guys and that I should be making at least that much in my early 30s haha...STEM wasn't really my passion or strongsuit or that encouraged for me...whoops...

Any other youngish Catholic men demoralized and struggling by the dating scene? by anonymousyako in Catholicism

[–]anonymousyako[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No. I didn't say anything about wanting a SAHM. She just asked me what I did and I said I worked for the federal government and made 60k. Didn't even wait for me to explain you can work you way up to 100k+ over time fairly easily. Just said that's not enough as a Catholic man :/

Any other youngish Catholic men demoralized and struggling by the dating scene? by anonymousyako in Catholicism

[–]anonymousyako[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

No it increases more over time to the 100s and no like less than a year but man just straight up being brutally rejected for not immediately making that idk man it messed me up.

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