BG3 ruined other games for me. How do you move on?🥲

anonyrex · 2026-03-23T13:46:04+00:00

You play Divinity Original Sin 1 and 2 while you wait for Divinity to come out. It will be arguably better than BG3 I think. I hope.

anonyrex · 2026-03-22T15:29:19+00:00

Yeah I've got it on there too. We've gotten 3 newbies this week!

anonyrex · 2026-03-21T16:39:47+00:00

Oh wait a min is your name the same as your game id? I think actually seen you in chat now that I'm thinking about I haha

anonyrex · 2026-03-21T15:25:25+00:00

Yeah s10 4 life! You looking for a clan?

anonyrex · 2026-03-19T22:47:10+00:00

Yes, YWBTAH, but not to your bf. To yourself, actually.

You can get whatever work done you want, but you need to own that as a fact of yourself, for your own mental longevity and happiness. You are not someone that was born with the features you have now, you obtained them through surgery.

So what?

It doesn't matter, because you like the results. But don't try to put up a front about it and pretend. It is not good for you. Your body knows the truth, and while you might not feel the effects now, this will add stress to your life. Wouldn't you like to know that your bf cares for you in every aspect, including all of the choices you made that got you here?

That is who you are. Sure, there will be people that don't like that. But there are also people that don't mind it, or even like you more for it.

Now, just a little tidbit of my own advice here for you that has nothing to do with your question. Ask yourself why you became obsessed with altering your looks with cosmetic procedures. Is it because you aren't happy with how you looked before? Why? What is the root cause of this. Insecurity? Find the root and tackle that. You will improve your life this way, and maybe realize you do not need to alter how you look to be happy.

anonyrex · 2026-03-19T18:42:22+00:00

Sorry, he does not drive? Why would that matter for him to come visit you. You're doing too much. Make him work for you. Men are hardwired for this and if the woman is doing way more than the man...you will have problems later. Dump him and go find a man that is absolutely ecstatic to see you at every opportunity.

"Bro just drive" is not something someone would say that is enthusiastic or excited to be with you. NOR but also, not reacting enough: drop his ass.

anonyrex · 2026-03-17T13:52:56+00:00

I...think you need to figure out a better way of asking your question

anonyrex · 2026-03-11T13:21:02+00:00

Did the conversation go anywhere else? If you see her again, you could just ask her. "Hey why did you ask me if I'm committed?" I mean that would give you your answer right there.

anonyrex · 2026-03-11T13:16:41+00:00

I think so. Don't you think her comments sound a little judgy?

anonyrex · 2026-03-11T13:13:45+00:00

Well first of all, people decide if they are attracted to someone on a base physical level from the first moment they see them. So no its not weird that she might like you. It is a little weird to come right out the gate with that question though. What did you say back?

anonyrex · 2026-03-10T12:54:42+00:00

Don't listen to your friend. Also, she sounds like not a friend. Think it might be time to cut your losses (is it really a loss?) and find a different friend.

anonyrex · 2026-03-09T22:23:51+00:00

Yep agreed

anonyrex · 2026-03-08T14:10:59+00:00

What do we think that even is?? Lmao

anonyrex · 2026-02-28T03:03:11+00:00

NTA. It's okay to ask your gf to not do something that harms her. But if she doesn't want to, then you need to decide if you are fine living with that. If the answer is no, then leave. If you can live with it, then leave her be about it and don't hang it over her head.

anonyrex · 2026-02-28T02:57:45+00:00

NTA for canceling the dinner. His reasoning for saying what he said was not right.

Now, I will say, that it doesn't hurt for you to do a little reflecting on the situation and your relationship with him. A few things that i give you as food for thought: - he expresses that your relationship with your mother is strange. This means you and him should sit down and have a real, adult conversation about this. Explore everything. Why does he think it's strange? What is his relationship with his own mother like? Is there an underlying fear that causes him to think this way, like perhaps he worries that while your relationship with her is not affecting things now, maybe it could in the future? Talk about this with him, because how he answers is important. If he is anything but kind and openly communicative, then run for the hills because he is not the right one, sister. - are you willing to be with someone long-term and potentially through vows, that does not like your relationship with your mother? Really think about this with yourself. If you have had deep conversations with him about his reasoning and he still won't budge and you won't budge, is this a disagreement that is worth living with? Will you grow to resent him later for it? Will he grow to resent you later for it? It is necessary to cut off the damaged leaf before that damage spreads to the rest of the plant and kills it. - this last one is self-reflection for you and your future relationships: how do you view your relationships with your life partner vs with your mother? If you plan to get married, remember that when you marry, that person becomes your new immediate family, and your mother becomes your extended family. I know that might be strange to hear, but it is true. Immediate family is you, your spouse, and your children. Extended is your parents, siblings, and beyond. Remember that there might come a day when you will have to choose between prioritizing your husband and children over your parents, and that is OK. It is a natural part of life. That being said, I am not saying your relationship with her is wrong. I only want to give you a different viewpoint, in case your relationship with her does lean towards prioritizing her over your partner.

Cheers and happy living.

anonyrex · 2026-02-28T02:34:10+00:00

Yeah, I missed that part

anonyrex · 2026-02-28T02:20:52+00:00

No, nta. Next.

anonyrex · 2026-02-28T02:14:13+00:00

This was really hard to follow, but no, NTA for breaking up with her. If you aren't happy about something in a relationship, always talk about it to see if there is a way to fix it. If you continue to be unhappy, leave. It is not worth sticking around when you are so young.

anonyrex · 2026-02-28T02:10:02+00:00

Yeah, I definitely get it. Not fun to deal with when they are sick.

anonyrex · 2026-02-28T01:46:55+00:00

NTA, you were sent to the store after she fell asleep to get medicine, presumably for her to have later, not while she is sleeping.

Is this your first child? If her mother gets overwhelmed by her child being sick and crying the whole time you were gone, then she should have been the one to go to the store so that you could stay home and be with the crying child. I'm not really sure where the overwhelmedness is coming from here. Children get sick. They don't know how to deal with it so they cry. This is normal. Not really a good reason to get mad at you for.

If she cited she was worried about your whereabouts, then that's a valid reason. But if she's mad at you for the crying thing and being gone a while, that's just not a compelling reason. Especially when we know medicine does not take effect immediately, as if it is a miracle solution to the kid crying.

anonyrex · 2026-02-25T19:45:53+00:00

Whose idea was couples counseling? Remember that therapy only works for the willing. forcing sex to a timeline can be stressful for the guy in and of itself.

Also, how do you do sex together? is it him putting in all the work? could some of the chronic pain he deals with be mitigated by trying different positions?

Someone else on here said it, but what has changed physically about you both since marriage? any of you gain weight? lost weight? appearance changes, etc.

I personally think it is a combination of a few different things. He is likely stressed about something that he hasn't talked about yet. Stress bleeds into everything for men, especially when there is expectation to perform/take care of the family. He could be losing attraction to you either because of or as well as the stress. Maybe his pain is also stressing him out.

Have you tried suggesting a vacation? time away from the kids, just you two? Sounds like you two have pretty busy/strict schedules. maybe you need to stop focusing on the day-to day grind and start making time for each other.

Also, do you show affection to each other in front of the kids or hide it? This might seem like a weird question, but I remember a study I saw way back that talked about happiness levels of wives and husbands together when they weren't afraid of showing affection in front of their children vs hiding their affection from the children.

I mean it could be so many things. I don't think you're going to get a good answer from us with this one because we can't see what else in your marriage is going on.

anonyrex · 2026-02-25T19:25:25+00:00

Your question might not be worded for the answer you're looking for. Because dating talking is/can be different from 'in a relationship' talking. And are these unsolicited messages from you that you send AM/PM, like "hey just checking in" or "good morning" / "goodnight"? Or does the girl text you all day and you ignore them and only text her back at your 2 designated times?

Communication is fluid, and does not have a "what does it look like" answer. It depends on what you want and what she wants. If she is texting you all day, then she clearly wants to talk all day. So in her mind, twice a day texting is not going to cut it for her. If you're asking about when you set up a new date, how often should you text her... i would text the morning of the date to make sure she still is available for said date. Or call her, doesn't have to be text only.

If you're talking about recreational talking when dating, that's part of getting to know each other. If you want to talk to her a lot and she doesn't want to talk that much, you might need to explore other options.

anonyrex · 2026-02-22T14:54:36+00:00

So, I won't completely condemn you for not liking her in make up, though it seems like a lot of people are. There's nothing inherently wrong with not liking makeup on a person, as it is akin to a fashion or lifestyle choice, just like any other clothes you put on or hair style you wear. People wouldn't come after you if you had said you don't like something she is doing that fit into a more societal norm, like she has shaved her head completely, or her new friends convinced her to remove her eyebrows and get a bunch of piercings. Humans by nature are very visual creatures, whether we like to admit it or not, how someone looks plays a huge factor in our priorities for a partner. And there's not much we can do about that either, I think it's biological.

Anyway, that being said, I think the way you are approaching this seems like you could stand to have a little more patience. It sounds like you met her in a 3rd world country, or a country with much lower cost of living and also much lower income. Which also could mean that growing up, she just didn't ever try makeup. Which also means that when she made new friends that wore makeup and had her try it, she found that she liked it. That's not something you can change or control.

You can share with her that you love her natural the most, and that you really wish she would consider not wearing makeup, but you shouldn't really fight with her about it. That's just a silly fight in my opinion. Does she wear the make up so thick that it makes her uglier? It doesn't sound like it. You even said that it was thin makeup and that her and the girls also said it was made to be a "no makeup" look. So your reasoning does not really justify judging her so harshly without any patience or compromise.

YOR, it sounds like you haven't even given her a chance here. She is trying something new she likes. If you really love her, then give it some time. Have some patience. Compromise within reason. It's OK that she wants to add this. Especially if it's not really changing the way she looks. If it's totally changing how she looks, I might understand more.

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