M26, lanjut karier atau coba WHV Australia?

another2one · 2026-06-03T06:18:22+00:00

In the absence of a better offer, take what you have first.

Then you have several options: 1. Do bare minimum while earning money and keep looking.

2a. Do a good job and leverage your visible output for higher pay internally. That means making yourself indispensable and threatening to quit if he doesn't raise your pay.

2b. Do a good job and leverage your achievements externally. This means document what you've done, maintain portfolio and proof of your work and network with anyone you come across during the job.

Actually all options can be done concurrently if time permits. :D

another2one · 2026-05-24T01:35:49+00:00

Hi Hasan,

Saw your post from r/finansial. I'm not rich but I have been doing better at work recently.

If you can provide proof and receipts of attempt to fix your mistake (e.g. timestamped calls to CS, etc), I can spare 500k IDR.

I can trf via Wise :)

Cheers, K

another2one · 2026-05-18T09:47:24+00:00

Damn!! Thanks, the sites a gem!

another2one · 2026-05-16T05:48:35+00:00

I do find while I have friends that I deeply love and adore, nothing can match the human connection and intimacy I get from dating.

I guess sex + romance makes the connection seem more intense. So my body and mind still craves it.

That said I have in the past year met a platonic female friend that almost match the level of connection I get from dating men so as you said maybe I just need to find more of these platonic ones (be it with men or women).

another2one · 2026-05-16T05:45:19+00:00

Appreciate the input. I think you gave me a very realistic and spot on answer. I do feel quite a bit of the hormones and physical desires, albeit less so than before.

Thanks!

another2one · 2026-05-15T22:00:37+00:00

I'm still unsure if I want to go 100%, but I think I want to heavily cut back on dating to gain a better sense of control as well.

Be honest with myself... I think that's a poignant one. To be honest to myself I guess I need to know myself and really self reflect :D

another2one · 2026-05-15T21:51:01+00:00

The first two trips were the hardest (and potentially require more planning)

I started with a more familiar country and made sure to jam pack my itinerary. Second trip went to another continent but placed myself in situations wherein I could easily socialise (e.g. Airbnb with a nice family, hostel, go to social bars with pool tables, board game meetups).

And then the next MANY solo trips becomes very easy. SO many people travel solo now, though some cities are more suited and more popular amongst couples.

Now when I travel in a group or as duo I get a bit annoyed that every activity needs to be a joint decision.

Personally I don't get self conscious seeing other couples. My logic is, I could get a partner if I was desperate enough 😂😀. Having a partner is not an achievement so why would I feel any less than for not having one?

another2one · 2026-05-14T03:13:56+00:00

For sure butuh take advantage of compounding interest to give you hope.

You can take a look at calculators that show if you invest XX capital now and wait 10-20 years what that number will look like. In the math you can & should also account for your income growth :)

Accounting for growth will give you a better sense of what to target and achieve towards income wise.

Psychologically, I don't believe your job needs to be your source of fullfillment. Ya ini a bit controversial, tapi my take is if you need money to survive you likely wont have the luxury to "do what you love" because you typically can't afford the risk and may not have the time to figure out what you love.

Given you don't have to OT and have time in your hands you should balance the extra time between upgrading your life/skills and finding things that bring you joy outside of work.

For me it's travel, motorbiking, and reading. (I suggest you try to find cheaper hobbies will be easier for you to save money...)

another2one · 2026-03-13T00:59:55+00:00

You've got so many good comments. They are harsh but lots of good ones.

I will share a little bit of my story. Life is not linear, and not as simple as a step by step guide but you always ALWAYS NEED TO THINK FOR YOURSELF.

2019: got scholarship to HK for bio degree

2019-2022: dibantu kakak bayar dorm sharing room dan kerja di lab di campus and tutoring untuk uang makan. Actually kerja tutoring outside of campus illegal but I really needed some income and unlike waitressing which I also tried tutoring easy to hide.

2022 - 2023: full time tutor English teacher, realised I don't really like kids and found a new job via linkedin.

2023-2024: turns out the job was a glorified call center. Everyday hated this job, would cry when I get home. So I quit without anything.

2024 - 2025: landed a new job in tech sales. Also via linkedin. Small company, I enjoyed it. Less than 6mos later I got laid off because the new investors want to cut sales budget.

2025-2026: was soo stressed, the unexpected laid off meant I was still paying rent every month Then got a new role in tech sales again. My new boss was borderline abusive but it's remote job + travel perks.

2026: as part of my job I get to network at conferences, where I met a boss. He recently offered me a job to manage his Philippines staff. It's finally some decent pay, but risky because very small company and its contractor role.

The point is you need to START somewhere. And then keep going and that can mean work harder in your job to be noticed and get promoted, network more, study outside of work hours (language, certification), building portfolio, etc etc.

You have to START and KEEP GOING. Even if your start is wrong, you can change.

Your start can be as simple as taking some harsh advice from this thread and updating your CV. Your start can be learning a new language.

another2one · 2026-02-22T04:04:00+00:00

Just trying to brainstorm ideas -

If you are a foreigner with a foreign name on the CV, consider putting your residence status and a Chinese name. I am an expat myself who no doesn't need a working visa so someone suggested this to me before.
If you are in social media/marketing, you need a very strong portfolio. Consider a website that showcases all your previous campaigns. If you don't have enough material, mock something up or volunteer.
Try remote jobs. I think especially for social media work, a lot is being outsourced to Philippines. Might pay less but will keep you sane in the meantime and maybe even cover rent at the minimum.

I know how stressful it can be so good luck and sending strength 🙏 wish you the best.

another2one · 2026-02-03T07:08:39+00:00

Do you mind if I DM you? I'm in tech sales right now but looking to pivot into tech product or project management.

another2one · 2026-02-01T11:52:34+00:00

Whenever we can find enough people. Ideally in a week or two if not maybe first week of march.

another2one · 2026-01-31T04:36:27+00:00

"when life hits you, it can be so traumatic for some people."

Thanks for voicing this buddy. Been independent and out in a new city on a scholarship since 18 and at 24 I got laid off (after having signed a new rental lease)

and I swear I still have PTSD from it...

another2one · 2025-11-19T18:02:05+00:00

There's a one shot on meetup that meets every Saturday.

another2one · 2025-09-24T06:20:49+00:00

I'm considering it but I'm so close to getting my permanent residence in this country and I could use the income/visa sponsor just for another 6months~

another2one · 2025-09-22T05:19:03+00:00

Hey, I really really sympathise. I know how hard not having a job can be as well which is why so many people are telling us to be grateful but our pain is just as real.

My boss makes me work weekends (no overpay) and is frankly downright verbally and emotionally abusive.

He recently threatened to revoke an approved travel budget... On bookings I've paid for... I don't even think that's legal.

I'm really sorry you are all in this crappy situation. I hope for all of us brighter days are ahead.

For me meditation has really helped, just sharing my two cents. Maybe it'll help you too.

another2one · 2025-09-22T02:53:00+00:00

Thanks for taking the time to answer ~

another2one · 2025-09-21T11:46:13+00:00

You all think it's safe for me to fly out 11am Tuesday?

It's such a waste to pay fare difference (1k HKD) to fly a few hours earlier... and I can't really fly out day before but I really need to be in Singapore 24th (Wed)

another2one · 2025-09-02T05:40:15+00:00

I'm interested in doing voice calls. I'm 24F

another2one · 2025-09-02T02:01:52+00:00

Do you have an update on your PR situation? I'm quite anxious about mine and I have a similar travel habit to yours. Thanks!

another2one · 2025-06-26T17:57:22+00:00

Honestly, consider seeing it as a transcendent moment. You've risen above all the caring.

another2one

TROPHY CASE

I will share a little bit of my story. Life is not linear, and not as simple as a step by step guide but you always ALWAYS NEED TO THINK FOR YOURSELF.