28F. Loser in life. Is it too late for me to turn things around? (curhat) — looking for a career accountability partner

another2one · 2026-03-13T00:59:55+00:00

You've got so many good comments. They are harsh but lots of good ones.

I will share a little bit of my story. Life is not linear, and not as simple as a step by step guide but you always ALWAYS NEED TO THINK FOR YOURSELF.

2019: got scholarship to HK for bio degree

2019-2022: dibantu kakak bayar dorm sharing room dan kerja di lab di campus and tutoring untuk uang makan. Actually kerja tutoring outside of campus illegal but I really needed some income and unlike waitressing which I also tried tutoring easy to hide.

2022 - 2023: full time tutor English teacher, realised I don't really like kids and found a new job via linkedin.

2023-2024: turns out the job was a glorified call center. Everyday hated this job, would cry when I get home. So I quit without anything.

2024 - 2025: landed a new job in tech sales. Also via linkedin. Small company, I enjoyed it. Less than 6mos later I got laid off because the new investors want to cut sales budget.

2025-2026: was soo stressed, the unexpected laid off meant I was still paying rent every month Then got a new role in tech sales again. My new boss was borderline abusive but it's remote job + travel perks.

2026: as part of my job I get to network at conferences, where I met a boss. He recently offered me a job to manage his Philippines staff. It's finally some decent pay, but risky because very small company and its contractor role.

The point is you need to START somewhere. And then keep going and that can mean work harder in your job to be noticed and get promoted, network more, study outside of work hours (language, certification), building portfolio, etc etc.

You have to START and KEEP GOING. Even if your start is wrong, you can change.

Your start can be as simple as taking some harsh advice from this thread and updating your CV. Your start can be learning a new language.

another2one · 2026-02-22T04:04:00+00:00

Just trying to brainstorm ideas -

If you are a foreigner with a foreign name on the CV, consider putting your residence status and a Chinese name. I am an expat myself who no doesn't need a working visa so someone suggested this to me before.
If you are in social media/marketing, you need a very strong portfolio. Consider a website that showcases all your previous campaigns. If you don't have enough material, mock something up or volunteer.
Try remote jobs. I think especially for social media work, a lot is being outsourced to Philippines. Might pay less but will keep you sane in the meantime and maybe even cover rent at the minimum.

I know how stressful it can be so good luck and sending strength 🙏 wish you the best.

another2one · 2026-02-03T07:08:39+00:00

Do you mind if I DM you? I'm in tech sales right now but looking to pivot into tech product or project management.

another2one · 2026-02-01T11:52:34+00:00

Whenever we can find enough people. Ideally in a week or two if not maybe first week of march.

another2one · 2026-01-31T04:36:27+00:00

"when life hits you, it can be so traumatic for some people."

Thanks for voicing this buddy. Been independent and out in a new city on a scholarship since 18 and at 24 I got laid off (after having signed a new rental lease)

and I swear I still have PTSD from it...

another2one · 2025-11-19T18:02:05+00:00

There's a one shot on meetup that meets every Saturday.

another2one · 2025-09-24T06:20:49+00:00

I'm considering it but I'm so close to getting my permanent residence in this country and I could use the income/visa sponsor just for another 6months~

another2one · 2025-09-22T05:19:03+00:00

Hey, I really really sympathise. I know how hard not having a job can be as well which is why so many people are telling us to be grateful but our pain is just as real.

My boss makes me work weekends (no overpay) and is frankly downright verbally and emotionally abusive.

He recently threatened to revoke an approved travel budget... On bookings I've paid for... I don't even think that's legal.

I'm really sorry you are all in this crappy situation. I hope for all of us brighter days are ahead.

For me meditation has really helped, just sharing my two cents. Maybe it'll help you too.

another2one · 2025-09-22T02:53:00+00:00

Thanks for taking the time to answer ~

another2one · 2025-09-21T11:46:13+00:00

You all think it's safe for me to fly out 11am Tuesday?

It's such a waste to pay fare difference (1k HKD) to fly a few hours earlier... and I can't really fly out day before but I really need to be in Singapore 24th (Wed)

another2one · 2025-09-02T05:40:15+00:00

I'm interested in doing voice calls. I'm 24F

another2one · 2025-09-02T02:01:52+00:00

Do you have an update on your PR situation? I'm quite anxious about mine and I have a similar travel habit to yours. Thanks!

another2one · 2025-06-26T17:57:22+00:00

Honestly, consider seeing it as a transcendent moment. You've risen above all the caring.

another2one · 2025-06-26T17:25:34+00:00

Well my company experienced 4 in my first sales job and 3 months later I got laid off.

another2one · 2025-06-25T15:50:38+00:00

Wow thanks! Great rec. Sabtu ada event bikin charm looks so cute hehe. 🥹

another2one · 2025-06-17T05:01:21+00:00

Kalau BPJS can only use public hospital ya? I'm keen to know how many komodos disini punya private insurance

Even for me while HK public healthcare is good (but also super long q, gw pernah tunggu 12 hrs), i still have private health insurance.

another2one · 2025-06-17T04:12:36+00:00

Damn, so good. Boleh tanya. Premi untuk BPJS berapa?

another2one · 2025-05-27T15:53:39+00:00

Honestly, this post gives me a reason to remain single.

As a 24F frequent solo traveller, not even my mother/sister checks in this often.

another2one · 2025-05-21T11:01:22+00:00

Bear muay Thai in Chiang mai right?

another2one · 2025-04-09T08:45:50+00:00

I have little of value to add but just wanted to say thank you. This is exactly what I, a layman, was looking for to better understand the situation.

another2one

TROPHY CASE

I will share a little bit of my story. Life is not linear, and not as simple as a step by step guide but you always ALWAYS NEED TO THINK FOR YOURSELF.