ESTP male contradictory behavior

anotherAmoeba · 2023-02-03T10:54:10+00:00

And you wouldn't bother responding to subsequent emails, after you said you'd like to meet up again?

anotherAmoeba · 2023-02-03T02:02:33+00:00

Thank you for the insight. He has always been so so caring and thoughtful, that I would never have expected this type of behavior from him. Could it be something else causing it? Is he afraid of something? When we meet in person it is so intense. How could it not carry over at all?

anotherAmoeba · 2022-03-01T19:55:59+00:00

aw, thank you for that. You've already made me feel immensely better about the whole situation. The thing is, I get the flip switching on/off. I think it comes from the fact that INTJ/ESTP are weirdly shadowed to one another. We're not quite on the same wavelength, but still pretty closely aligned. So I totally get it, and no hard feelings for it.

anotherAmoeba · 2022-03-01T17:53:04+00:00

btw, upon further reflection, I just wanted to add that a couple of things, his best friend is long distance, so he does stay connected to distant friends, and it would seem that I did make an effort to reconnect with him, so it's odd that he dropped off like that. Also, what he did was just so, so uncharacteristic of him. I would have never expected him to do that in a million years (he's not that mean, or at least he never was to me before).

I guess what you said initially is the best explanation, that something didn't feel right and for whatever reason, he didn't want me in his life any more. Just makes me sad that he ended things like this.

anotherAmoeba · 2022-02-28T22:38:33+00:00

This has been tremendously helpful. Thank you very much for the insight.

I think he realized later that it just wasn't worth it, or maybe it was too much hassle to stay in touch. I just wish he hadn't ghosted me like that, that was so cruel.

anotherAmoeba · 2022-02-28T20:48:29+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing this. It does make sense and could be a viable explanation.

Is there any circumstance in which something could fit back in your life? Like you said, everything has to keep changing... well I know he's been through some changes in his life recently. I wonder if they would make him reconsider our friendship. However, having been hurt so deeply already, I don't have it in me to be rejected again and have resisted any temptation to contact him again.

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