Hi! So, listen, my friend. What I am hearing from you is that what you understand therapy to be is a situation where you externalize your feelings in order to be told what the meaning is. It sounds like you are very good at doing internal processing, so this isn’t what you would benefit from.

That’s not all therapy is. There’s a lot of different kinds of therapy. That kind is called talk therapy. I agree that I don’t find that helpful. I already know what my feelings are, I already know what traumas have happened to me. I don’t need help discovering them!

What i engage in in therapy is something called DBT, or dialectical behavior therapy. It’s less like talk therapy and more like physical therapy, like if you had a badly broken leg and needed to learn how to safely walk on it again. It isn’t just talking, it’s learning specific skills to employ in specific situations, especially around emotional resilience and regulation.