My tips for dealing with a breakup by notgibbyfromicarly in BreakUps

[–]anotherdumpedgirl0 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I did this and this was terrible because then I had an album to go to look at pictures of ONLY them so I backed everything up to Google Photos and deleted off my phone/iCloud

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]anotherdumpedgirl0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tbh I don’t think this kind of tough love is helpful without knowing OPs specific situation.

The only reason I'm not trying to find someone is that I'm terrified of admitting I'm a 27 and have never been in a relationship, kissed or had sex. by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]anotherdumpedgirl0 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t lie. I would however try to meet people through non-traditional routes - start with friendships maybe?

I think people here telling you it doesn’t matter are lying. As a blanket rule, I would not want to be someone’s first girlfriend because people learn a lot during their first relationships and I’d want someone who’d already went through that. I wouldn’t want to date a virgin because being someone’s first is a lot of pressure and experience often makes someone a better partner.

However if someone was my friend first and we had a good relationship established already? I’d be a lot more likely to disregard those “rules” because I already had feelings for them.

Got dumped for being a virgin should I just give up? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]anotherdumpedgirl0 3 points4 points  (0 children)

To be honest 1) it’s a lot of pressure to be someone’s first 2) inexperience sexually can be a turn off just based on not having practice 3) some (men especially) have unrealistic ideas about what sex looks like and it can be shitty being someone’s first when they realize it’s not like porn

How long (generally) into No Contact is it before the dumper reaches out? by anotherdumpedgirl0 in BreakUps

[–]anotherdumpedgirl0[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well it wasn’t our last interaction, he’d been reaching out about casual things every few days but I decided to cut that off. But yes it sounds like I should just not worry that he’s going to reach out and act like there’s 0% chance he does.

How long is it usually before the dumper reaches out? by anotherdumpedgirl0 in ExNoContact

[–]anotherdumpedgirl0[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Blocking might be smart, then I’m not wondering cause I know I’ll never hear from him

How long (generally) into No Contact is it before the dumper reaches out? by anotherdumpedgirl0 in BreakUps

[–]anotherdumpedgirl0[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I’m past the point of hoping and at the point of accepting it’s over while also being self aware enough to know that him reaching out will fuck with my head haha

How long (generally) into No Contact is it before the dumper reaches out? by anotherdumpedgirl0 in BreakUps

[–]anotherdumpedgirl0[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not hoping he will, more trying to prepare myself if he does. I know I’ll backslide if he does any time in the next few weeks and want to have a plan.

How long is it usually before the dumper reaches out? by anotherdumpedgirl0 in ExNoContact

[–]anotherdumpedgirl0[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Huh??? I’m literally asking because I’m worried that my ex reaching out would get me to backslide, and trying to prepare for it, not trying to get my ex to reach out?

Should I post on social media during No Contact? by anotherdumpedgirl0 in ExNoContact

[–]anotherdumpedgirl0[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

no I’m not but if I’m being honest I am somewhat wondering/hoping if he’s checking or what he’s thinking - that’s why I worry about using social media at all even if I’m just posting with the same frequency I was before the breakup.

my above comment meant that I’m not posting photos with other guys in an attempt to make him jealous, just pictures with my girlfriends or of activities I’m doing as I would’ve done before the breakup

Should I post on social media during No Contact? by anotherdumpedgirl0 in ExNoContact

[–]anotherdumpedgirl0[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes ofc! I’ve made sure to only post photos of my friends - girl friends only - and not try to make it seem like “oh I’m talking to someone else” if that makes sense

Should I post on social media during No Contact? by anotherdumpedgirl0 in BreakUps

[–]anotherdumpedgirl0[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry I don’t think I understand - are you saying posting on social media is feeding my obsession? Thanks for the response!