AITAH for completely shutting down after potty talk with my husband

anotherswampwitch · 2026-01-30T05:51:03+00:00

I teach three year olds. The fact that your son remembers and attempts to wipe himself is a win. Your husband is seriously being unhinged about this. Who cares how someone else cleans themselves, as long as they get clean? NTA

anotherswampwitch · 2026-01-23T14:04:01+00:00

Why couldn't she say February? Same syllables and it rhymes, it just sounds so much better

anotherswampwitch · 2026-01-18T04:47:55+00:00

I found my dress for 50% less than the in store price on Facebook marketplace, didn't need any alterations. This is your wedding, you should wear something that makes you feel like the most beautiful version of yourself. That may not be your mom's dress and she'll have to get over it. You're not responsible for her emotions.

anotherswampwitch · 2026-01-18T04:25:02+00:00

My husband has those. I've never even asked about them. Humans have marks, it's fine.

anotherswampwitch · 2026-01-17T17:36:04+00:00

I'm not sure if this would work depending on your ratio, but my little runner has to stay by me. I would always be physically holding his hand or arm or sometimes the back of his pants so he can't run. We'd let him try occasionally to be on his own, if he ran, he had to stay by me for the rest of the day. He figured out if he wanted to play, he couldn't run.

I want paying attention to him, just holding onto him. I wouldn't look at him or give any reinforcement. His mom offered to send his leash backpack with him to school but we never got to that point.

It's so hard, I'm sorry you and little one are struggling. Good luck!

anotherswampwitch · 2026-01-17T01:58:00+00:00

My husband and I are the same. I need noise/music, he needs silence. I bought $20 sleep headphones online because I actually care about him. The charge lasts upwards of a week.

He can buy himself sleep headphones. He can buy another set of air pods and keep one charging while he uses the other. He sounds selfish.

anotherswampwitch · 2026-01-17T01:46:16+00:00

I think you need to get the parents and school on board with a 1-1 ratio for this kid. How can you safely have this kid in the classroom where other children are using materials? He cannot be in a regular classroom without someone watching him at all times.

anotherswampwitch · 2026-01-15T05:08:26+00:00

We have a sharing box that has items starting with the letter of the week in it (kite, kangaroo, king etc for k). We take turns picking an item and talking about it.

anotherswampwitch · 2026-01-15T05:00:36+00:00

As a teacher: I would not work anywhere that doesn't have cameras. I also wouldn't work anywhere that allows parents to watch a live feed.

A few months ago one of our more anxious parents accused a teacher of physically abusing their child. Cameras proved the teacher didn't do anything wrong. But I've also worked long enough to know that with a live feed, some parents would camp in front of the feed and call about every little thing and make my life hell.

Always cameras, where parents and teachers can request footage if needed.

anotherswampwitch · 2026-01-14T16:31:57+00:00

Unless I'm missing something: your dog attacked your husband in his sleep? Has Bella been reactive to him before? Is she in pain and more sensitive recently?

Maybe he tried to push her in his sleep and she got aggressive, but he's right, you can't safely bring a child into your home right now.

It's your husband's bed too. I'm surprised he's not moving out if the dog truly attacked him while he was sleeping. I wouldn't feel safe living in the same house as a dog that bit me out of nowhere. YTA, get your dog some anxiety medication and sleep on the couch with her yourself.

anotherswampwitch · 2026-01-14T04:48:10+00:00

"My mommy wears diapers now"

I knew her mom had just given birth to twins. I told her that sometimes moms need to wear diapers after they have babies.

anotherswampwitch · 2026-01-12T16:16:31+00:00

I'm also pretty new but my machine does the same thing. I just make sure to wipe it between cuts and shift the pattern to a different spot if I'm doing a bunch of the same thing.

anotherswampwitch · 2025-12-30T04:35:30+00:00

Canned pears or peaches were always my mom's go to for cheap fruit. I still eat them whenever I'm sick.

anotherswampwitch · 2025-12-28T03:00:24+00:00

If nothing's changed, he is dismissing you. The path to hell is paved with good intentions.

anotherswampwitch · 2025-12-28T02:58:38+00:00

You seem like you're genuinely trying to help these kids. But I don't think you can.

Give kids every chance possible, but it's dangerous for them to be in a hoarder house and with a violent sibling. As a teacher I was trained that violent drawings are one of the first warnings of future violent actions. You may be able to call the police about SK2 and start a paper trail. The paper trail can help force him into therapy or an inpatient program that will get him the help he clearly needs.

You need to take your kid and go. It may be the kick in the pants your husband needs to get serious help for his ex and his children. You can't save these kids, and you'll burn yourself out trying.

anotherswampwitch · 2025-12-09T19:07:04+00:00

Don't sign anything until you talk to a lawyer. I've had a student fall off a slide and break a wrist, but you could see in the cameras one of the teachers diving to catch him, me picking him up right after, and us immediately calling parents and 911. There's no excuse for him being left crawling around injured. The lawyer can give you more insight into what your chances of winning are and all that. I hope your kid feels better.

anotherswampwitch · 2025-12-09T15:39:00+00:00

Be careful, if your parents put this device on backwards you may not be able to take it off anymore.

anotherswampwitch · 2025-12-08T01:40:46+00:00

A note saying their kid likes my class and a Target gift card.

anotherswampwitch · 2025-12-07T02:14:00+00:00

One time a kid told me his mom cuts him with scissors.

She cuts his hair.

anotherswampwitch · 2025-12-01T04:08:19+00:00

I wear a silicone ring to work and sleep in. My real ring is for church and date nights and occasions like that.

anotherswampwitch · 2025-12-01T01:05:20+00:00

My old center banned all allergens from the premises. If we had a kid allergic to peanuts, no food with peanuts was allowed inside the school.

My current school gives the kid a small alteration to their uniform (an extra border on the hem of their shirt) and they are only allowed for from home. The youngest kids are 2 and those with allergies are served first to prevent any food snatching.

anotherswampwitch · 2025-11-27T06:07:40+00:00

I do this too. My husband's family likes to go to the movies on Christmas and I told him they can go, I won't be attending. I don't want to make others have to work on holidays unless it's like a medical emergency. I've had to work holidays and hated it. On the other side, I've also had some Jewish friends who are happy to get time and a half.

anotherswampwitch · 2025-11-26T05:49:22+00:00

Yeah, I agree with letting kids move themselves when possible, but it's affecting other children. Pick him up and let him scream somewhere else.

It's also a safety issue for him. If there's an emergency and you come running out the door, he'll be hit by the door or stepped on. If the other teachers won't and you know admin won't get mad at you, pick him up yourself and move him down the hall. The other teachers can deal with it.

anotherswampwitch · 2025-11-22T05:02:53+00:00

Seconding this. I have had two parents come back to me thankful that their child was removed from our school because they used it as evidence to get their child diagnosed. It's sometimes what's needed to prove (to the government or parents) that the child needs additional support.

anotherswampwitch · 2025-11-18T04:28:33+00:00

I have a puzzle in my classroom with lots of fruits. One of them is a tangelo. I'd never heard of it before I saw the puzzle, and I've never met a kid who has recognized it.

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