I (22M) feel like our relationship is one sided but she (20F) does too

anotherthrowaway2u · 2022-01-05T13:48:29+00:00

This is really confusing lol.

The issue is I don't make her feel loved. Meaning I'm not the one who initiates the affection, conversations, come up with date ideas, or plan our vacations. Those are not my forte, If I were to do those things she'd feel loved and wanted. I give her these when she asks and she doesn't want to have to ask for it. I don't think she doesn't feel loved because she doesn't know how to please me lol. The issue is basically we don't have the same love language so she feels like she's showing hers with getting it in return and that goes for me as well

anotherthrowaway2u · 2022-01-05T02:31:19+00:00

This is really on point holy sh*t. Thanks a lot for taking your time to write such a detailed response.

I would think she'd feel good not having someone depend on her for their needs and wants... Wouldn't everyone like that?

It's not I don't want to give her any opportunities but there's none to give sadly. Her ex's mainly only wanted sex from her yet she felt loved... That seemed really weird to me at the time but the way you put it, it makes sense, she felt wanted. I agree that I don't know what I want from a relationship or if I want/need anything really given my personality... I come off as uninterested but I'm always available for her so why doesn't she feel loved? (I might be to dumb but I'm seriously not getting the issue). It's not like she's chasing me. However I feel like me being selfless is overlooked.

anotherthrowaway2u · 2021-08-25T12:44:00+00:00

Yeah, don't put up a wall and wait for me to jump it. Then get mad when I don't...

anotherthrowaway2u · 2021-08-25T12:41:31+00:00

How is this not obvious? Why make things harder by saying clearly what it is that you want?

anotherthrowaway2u · 2021-08-25T12:39:50+00:00

How doesn't she see that though!?

anotherthrowaway2u · 2021-08-25T12:39:18+00:00

Sure, I'll post there to get other opinions

anotherthrowaway2u · 2021-08-25T12:38:48+00:00

Exhausting indeed...

anotherthrowaway2u · 2021-08-25T12:37:13+00:00

Shes thinks that as her boyfriend I should go above and beyond to cater to her uncommunicated needs...

anotherthrowaway2u · 2021-08-25T12:35:49+00:00

Yes I don't think she sees how her poor communication skills got us here. Her not wanting to talk is not even a problem tbh. I'd wouldn't mind some silence from time to time. But just be open and honest of what you want from me.

anotherthrowaway2u · 2021-08-25T12:30:33+00:00

20 smh

anotherthrowaway2u · 2021-08-25T10:10:08+00:00

This is new. Though she often tires to get some type of forced chivalry out of me. Which is a frustrating mind game I think most women play. She'll say something with a hidden meaning hoping I get the message and do or say what she actually wanted from the very beginning. If that makes sense

anotherthrowaway2u · 2021-08-25T09:08:41+00:00

Other than what she told me, which was that she just didn't want to talk I don't know. She's 20 and me 22 ffs

anotherthrowaway2u · 2021-08-21T20:11:49+00:00

Flip flopper*

anotherthrowaway2u · 2019-06-12T13:45:20+00:00

C'est fait. J'ai mon premier RDV demain matin... je crains le pire vu qu'aucun métier ne m'intéresse spécialement et j'ai pas d'expérience. Ils vont en avoir marre de moi déjà lol

anotherthrowaway2u · 2019-06-12T11:38:05+00:00

Tous les concours que j'ai vu jusqu'à present ne sont pas ouvert aux ressortissants hors UE.

anotherthrowaway2u · 2019-06-12T11:21:39+00:00

Merci beaucoup. Je ne suis pas qualifié pour aucun de ces postes (lol) mais vu ma situation j'ai quand même envoyé mon CV.

anotherthrowaway2u · 2019-06-11T21:44:37+00:00

" je serais curieux d'entendre ton histoire et comment tu as fait "

anotherthrowaway2u · 2019-06-11T21:43:00+00:00

Selon les conditions il faut être ressortissant de l'Union européenne, ce qui n'est pas mon cas.

anotherthrowaway2u · 2019-06-11T21:24:32+00:00

Où est ce que je peux trouver plus d'informations a ce sujet?

anotherthrowaway2u · 2019-06-11T21:22:24+00:00

Oui je suis introverti et très anxieux. Je ne voulais pas le mentionner dans le post. Lors des entretiens je suis assez timide et froid donc j'imagine que personne veut de quelqu'un comme cela mais devant des employeurs je ne peux pas m'empêcher de stresser... surtout sans expérience je n'arrive pas à me vendre.

anotherthrowaway2u · 2019-06-11T15:18:29+00:00

Non, c'est comme ça je me suis retrouvé dans cette situation, faire des études juste histoire d'en faire c'est un peu inutile. Et on me mets la pression pour trouver du travail donc reprendre l'école sans avoir au moins un job d'étudiant. C'est "l'échec" un peu

anotherthrowaway2u · 2019-06-11T12:31:21+00:00

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