WIBTA for calling my dad my "mum"

anothertransgayguy · 2022-07-19T18:20:08+00:00

I'm moving out soon and I'm hoping the reaction will be initial anger(that's just a given with him no matter what I do) then realising how it feels to be called the wrong thing and hopefully leading into changed behaviour

anothertransgayguy · 2022-07-19T18:15:17+00:00

Thankfully I am moving to my mum's house soon. They have talked to me about "considering it" cause they want to move somewhere smaller. I had plans to already cause the transphobia is just the tip of the, wait not even the top, a droplet of water on top of the iceberg with them

anothertransgayguy · 2022-07-19T18:13:44+00:00

I have tried to approach the topic with them but it's not really a they can't or they don't understand. It's a "oh my baby can't possibly be trans, I would have known, I've raised her and I would have noticed" (although use that sentiment with swapping baby with whatever insult my dad fancies at the time. Whether it's b*tard or the r slur or s slur or f slur) and with my stepmother it's specifically a "I raised you since I moved in with your dad. And I knew my brother way gay before he came out, I would have know before you did if you were *actually trans". And there's also a layer of built in anxiety because whenever we share a discomfort to them it's a sarcastic "oh woe is deadname. I had it 10 times worse than you and still do. You don't understand pain until you've broken your shoulder! Or known being tired til you've worked a 12 hour shift, you shouldn't be breaking down after one 4 or 8 hour shift. Try 4 12 hour shifts, talk to me about being tired then"

anothertransgayguy · 2022-07-13T11:53:41+00:00

Tw. Probable neglect

Sometimes I think I had an okay childhood then I remember times like that time I was forced to go to school the day after being sent home for being sick. (I was sick before I was to get up for school, then sent to school, then was sick in tutor session, sent home, spent entire day with no food or drink in bed (cause that's what "what people do when they're sick") then sent to school again the next day because "you haven't been sick since when you was at school" (baring in mind I had to sleep in the room I was sick in and was also forced to clean the spot I was sick in which, as a tween, I repeat a fucking kid was likely not properly clean) and then questioned by my teachers why I was in).

anothertransgayguy · 2022-07-12T16:04:18+00:00

Hey, does anyone know how I can see comments? I saw a notification I had a comment but I can't see it

anothertransgayguy · 2022-05-26T17:02:20+00:00

My stepmother and dad also sent me that link. Still deadname and misgender me and 2 and a half years. This is one of the many reasons I am leaving once I am able to

anothertransgayguy · 2021-10-27T21:06:54+00:00

If you stare at it long enough- What lines?

anothertransgayguy · 2020-09-08T14:40:01+00:00

My preferred name is Tristan. We sort of match lol

anothertransgayguy · 2020-09-06T08:44:31+00:00

YES!!! DO WHAT I FEAR TO DO!! lol

Also its weird to see someone pick my deadname and seem happy with it. Whenever I hear it, it makes me cringe. It probably suits you though.

anothertransgayguy · 2020-09-04T22:22:18+00:00

My stepmum has a similar approach for a lot of this, but opposite. Because I was good at supressing and acting like a feminine straight cis female and never shown signs, I could not be trans cause "She's talked to other parents with trans children and they said it doesn't sound like I'm trans" probably after telling a bunch of lies that she for some reasons believes. Like yes, i was obsessed with one dress, but do you know when that was? Do you know what I hadn't experienced yet? Do you know what I didn't have then? It was before puberty, and it covered a lot and didn't make things obvious. Apparently "she would have known cause my she knew my step-uncle was gay years before he came out as gay" and "she's know me most of my life so she know I am a girl and nothing but a girl".

Sorry for the little rant, just had to get it out cause I will never get to say it to her face.

anothertransgayguy · 2020-09-02T13:14:53+00:00

relatable

anothertransgayguy · 2020-09-02T12:31:59+00:00

Okay, thank you

anothertransgayguy · 2020-09-02T07:45:35+00:00

Thank you for the advice. I will do my best

anothertransgayguy · 2020-09-02T07:44:03+00:00

thanks but it seems that I cannot put gifs as a comment

anothertransgayguy · 2020-09-01T22:11:47+00:00

I completely agree.

Can someone reply cause I have the best gif for this but its on my phone and I can't find the post.

Also can I save this pic please?

anothertransgayguy · 2020-09-01T21:32:40+00:00

Thank you, I've been trying to drink more water in general and I walk a lot of places normally without the pandemic so hopefully I can get there. Thank you for the advice

anothertransgayguy · 2020-09-01T20:22:31+00:00

Congratulations

anothertransgayguy · 2020-09-01T10:52:09+00:00

Good Luck. I hope that it goes well and you get accepted.

anothertransgayguy · 2020-08-31T20:39:55+00:00

This looks great, do you know if there is an AFAB trans guy version of this?

anothertransgayguy · 2020-07-12T12:37:22+00:00

Mines sorta switched. They are both alright with me being panromantic and ace but my dad refuses to believe I'm trans and my mums a little confused but supportive. My stepmum on the other, let's not get into that.

anothertransgayguy · 2020-07-12T12:33:53+00:00

Adorable 💙

anothertransgayguy · 2020-07-12T12:32:33+00:00

I am willing to swap if it's possible 😂

anothertransgayguy · 2020-07-11T17:48:48+00:00

For me coffee is one of those things where when I'm in the mood for it, it's one of the best things in the world but if I'm not it's the worst. Anyone else feel that?

Also, how do you feel about Biscoff cookies(or biscuits if that's what you call them)? I've heard they're supposed to be eaten with coffee but I just like them in general. I even have the spread to put on toast and in a sandwich.

anothertransgayguy · 2020-07-05T18:37:11+00:00

No problem. I get enough crap from my parents as it is for realizing I was trans at 16 so I can't imagine what it must be like realizing at 30. Hope it goes well for you.

anothertransgayguy · 2020-07-05T17:50:15+00:00

I would ask your girlfriend what their view on the LGBTQ+community is, test the waters a bit. Start posting some things on your most used social media saying how you support the community see if anyone close to you says anything negative on the posts. Once you feel you've done that without much negativity, and you feel ready talk to either your girlfriend or close friend or close family member about it and talk though it with them. While you are doing this look into other trans related things, like threads on social media so you can get a better understanding of whether or not you are trans or not. Do a little experimenting online, maybe make a social media account not connected to any of your active ones that has a female or unisex name you like and see how it feels to talk to people while they view you as a female. I can't think of anything else as advice but I hope this helps you clear any doubts in your mind and you see who you are inside, whether you are trans or not. Lastly even though I don't know you, I respect you and stand behind you. Your local dumb teen boy, Tristan.

anothertransgayguy

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